topic Re: Crabby in Among Friends

Crabby

FuzzyFace — Thu, 22 Mar 2018 14:48:13 GMT

Do you ever have days when you wake up, snarling at the world? I wonder if we should have a forum just for us crabby people to vent.

I'm certainly out of sorts today. My DH and I were discussing something and I disagreed with him and pointed out why he was wrong (that didn't go over well, hehe).

He said, you're not listening to me, (always his argumen of last resort) and I said, yes I AM and I'm showing you where YOU'RE wrong." Since he has a PhD and I'm less educated than he is, he seems to think that, he'll always be right and I'll always be wrong. It doesn't go down well when I catch him out in a mistake--big mistake or small, he really hates it.

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sidsmom — Thu, 22 Mar 2018 14:59:14 GMT

@FuzzyFacewrote:
Do you ever have days when you wake up....

YES!

And they are wonderfully awesome!

Life Half Empty; Life Half Full.

It’s a choice.

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Re: Crabby

Sweet_Serenity — Thu, 22 Mar 2018 14:58:30 GMT

Seems pointing out his mistakes pleases you.

Re: Crabby

2blonde — Thu, 22 Mar 2018 15:18:37 GMT

Yes, of course we all have bad (crabby) days.....and I always get out of the same side of the bed, so that can't be the problem! I don't think we need a special forum for it though........people don't seem to have any trouble posting their bad feelings just about anywhere on these boards!

Re: Crabby

aoldgirl — Thu, 22 Mar 2018 15:34:50 GMT

My go to arguement is, and you can use it, is: You can be educated, just not right. Not on every subject.

Re: Crabby

Kitlynn — Thu, 22 Mar 2018 15:38:36 GMT

No I am one of those people that wakes up being grateful that I did! Just because your husband has a degree that you don't certainly does not make him smarter than you are. The question both of you should be asking yourselves is this "Is it more important to be right or is it more important to treat the other person with kindness?" Not always easy to do that and I understand being upset when someone is always telling you that you are wrong.

Re: Crabby

hckynut — Thu, 22 Mar 2018 15:40:33 GMT

@FuzzyFace

Sure, many days I feel less jovial than others. I have to think this just might be a natural thing for most humans. No particular reason for me, it's just the way my life seems to roll.

As far as those with "certificates"? I've stated it here many times that many that hold them seem to feel superior to those that do not. In my everyday life I have gotten by pretty well without so much as a high school graduation certificate. Sounds like you are not shy about letting your husband know what his degree means to you in your life together!

Crabby sometimes I think is a natural thing?

hckynut(john)

Re: Crabby

Carmie — Thu, 22 Mar 2018 15:47:47 GMT

No, I never wake up crabby. I am just not a moody person, but my older sister and my daughter both can get crabby and often they are crabby at the same time while being together.

I take my exit quickly.

BTW. I have told many people that being educated has nothing to do with common sense or intelligence. Education means you were taught. Common sense and intelligence are things you came by on your own...naturally.

Re: Crabby

VanSleepy — Thu, 22 Mar 2018 16:10:25 GMT

We DO have a forum for crabby people to vent.

Re: Crabby

Fiero Woman — Thu, 22 Mar 2018 16:18:12 GMT

I love forum police. LOL

Re: Crabby

dex — Thu, 22 Mar 2018 16:21:01 GMT

I don’t share my crabby self.I think if you allow yourself to be miserable too often it could become a habit.People who know me think that I am never crabby so I guess I haven’t let the crab out much.

Re: Crabby

FuzzyFace — Thu, 22 Mar 2018 16:34:14 GMT

@Sweet_Serenitywrote:
Seems pointing out his mistakes pleases you.

Well, yes, sometimes it does. If you knew someone who seems constitutionally unable to admit a mistake, whether big or small, and he finally had to admit he was wrong, it feels good.

It's also good for him to get off his high horse, once in a while.

Also, it works both ways: he enjoys sticking his nose in the air and insinuationg that because he has more education than I do (and he really does--a PhD in molecular biology and when the funding for his research ran out, he snagged a job at Mocrosoft and retired after 22 years)-we're BOTH Mensa members (ok, forgive me for bringing that up but that's how we met. we met. (You have to pass an IQ test to qualify for Mensa membership.)

I love my husband. This April we'll celebrate our 37th anniversary (where did the time go??) and even though we fuss and fight at times (what couple doesn't?) I can't imagine life without him. He's a great guy, just with a few little flaws (like the rest of humanity

Re: Crabby

FuzzyFace — Thu, 22 Mar 2018 16:36:51 GMT

@Kitlynnwrote:
No I am one of those people that wakes up being grateful that I did! Just because your husband has a degree that you don't certainly does not make him smarter than you are. The question both of you should be asking yourselves is this "Is it more important to be right or is it more important to treat the other person with kindness?" Not always easy to do that and I understand being upset when someone is always telling you that you are wrong.
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Kitlynn, I've started asking myself that question more and more lately and it has helped me keep my sense of proportion about whatever we're arguing about.

Re: Crabby

Mom2Dogs — Thu, 22 Mar 2018 16:37:12 GMT

@FuzzyFace....DH and I work together....ALL of our married life almost 40 years! If he heard the things that I muttered under my breath, we'd been divorced years ago....sometimes ya just gotta vent, even if it is to myself....then I feel better.

Re: Crabby

qualitygal — Thu, 22 Mar 2018 16:37:15 GMT

Choose your battles wisely. Old advice. For what it's worth.

Re: Crabby

FuzzyFace — Thu, 22 Mar 2018 16:39:10 GMT

@qualitygalwrote:
Choose your battles wisely. Old advice. For what it's worth.

It's good advice and there are times -- and not just with my DH -- I have to ask myself, is this a hill worth dying on?

Re: Crabby

happycat — Thu, 22 Mar 2018 16:47:09 GMT

I don't wake up crabby, but sometimes people make me that way. I try to keep it on the inside though

Re: Crabby

Trinity11 — Thu, 22 Mar 2018 17:15:01 GMT

@FuzzyFacewrote:
Do you ever have days when you wake up, snarling at the world? I wonder if we should have a forum just for us crabby people to vent.

I'm certainly out of sorts today. My DH and I were discussing something and I disagreed with him and pointed out why he was wrong (that didn't go over well, hehe).

He said, you're not listening to me, (always his argumen of last resort) and I said, yes I AM and I'm showing you where YOU'RE wrong." Since he has a PhD and I'm less educated than he is, he seems to think that, he'll always be right and I'll always be wrong. It doesn't go down well when I catch him out in a mistake--big mistake or small, he really hates it.

I try my best to stay to myself when I am not feeling well. That's the only time I know I am crabby. When feeling well, I am usually in a good mood.

As far as educated people with PH.D's. Our family except for myself have one. They do not act superior to me and I know my worth anyway.

It must be very hard to live with someone who thinks they are intellectually superior.

Re: Crabby

jeanlake — Thu, 22 Mar 2018 21:35:17 GMT

I have a suite mate at work. We have alternative names we use for ourselves when we're crabby. Makes us laugh. But we've determined that we're either focusing on fear or annoyed about something and we try to get our heads screwed on straight. Nice to work with supportive people.

Re: Crabby

Sookie Says — Fri, 23 Mar 2018 02:59:55 GMT

@dexwrote:
I don’t share my crabby self.I think if you allow yourself to be miserable too often it could become a habit.People who know me think that I am never crabby so I guess I haven’t let the crab out much.

@dex You crabby, NO WAY! You're way too nice.