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Bad Dreams!

Jackhound Mom — Tue, 05 Dec 2017 14:55:25 GMT

For decades when I am under stress like selling a home, moving, etc. I have this similar dream, here goes...

I'm in a greenhouse in the back of an old falling down house. It's getting dark and I am alone and afraid. I can't seem to lock any doors or windows and I am franticly trying to save clippings of dying plants. Something is approching and I wake up terrified.

Re: Bad Dreams!

Q4u — Tue, 05 Dec 2017 15:10:16 GMT

I live a whole 'nuther life in my dreams. I really don't know enough about the meanings to be useful but my sense is that you feel exposed and vulnerable during this transition time and feel like your "stuff" needs saving, like you are losing them. We're undergoing a sale of our home right now and living in our motorhome.... we're hoping it sells soon, but realistically probably closer to Spring. So I really understand the emotions.....

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Shogirl — Tue, 05 Dec 2017 15:11:16 GMT

My reoccurring dream is one where I am attending some sort of gathering in a large facility that has many rooms and hallways. I'm either trying to get to the gathering on time (and running late) or trying to leave the gathering and can't find my way out of the building. Either way, I'm roaming around like a lost soul.

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Laura14 — Tue, 05 Dec 2017 15:22:10 GMT

This is so funny you posted this today.

I woke up several times during the night last night which is not unusual when I am having a stressful work week. The last time I fell back asleep I dreamt of my father who I have not seen in over 25 years. His choice not mine.

I was with him in this disgusting house and hugged him as I was leaving for somewhere because I wasn't staying there. I said I love you and he said I know and I remember stopping in my dream at that point going wait a minute, that's my dad. He hasn't seen or talked to me in decades. What's he doing here?

I also had one of my dogs with me and she's also been gone (passed away) for years. I love it when that happens because I get to have her back for a bit As far as I know, my father is still alive somewhere.

Very strange! I usually don't have weird dreams like that and I never dream about him. Must be the full moon.

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Jackhound Mom — Tue, 05 Dec 2017 15:30:50 GMT

@Q4u wrote:
I live a whole 'nuther life in my dreams. I really don't know enough about the meanings to be useful but my sense is that you feel exposed and vulnerable during this transition time and feel like your "stuff" needs saving, like you are losing them. We're undergoing a sale of our home right now and living in our motorhome.... we're hoping it sells soon, but realistically probably closer to Spring. So I really understand the emotions.....

Dear Q4U,

You have my sympathy my friend! I think you hit the nail on the head about my dream. I wish you so much success with your sale!!!!! You are fortunate to at least be out so your immediate stuff isn't disturbed. I could write a book on bad things that happen when your home is for sale

Please let us know when you are sold.

Cat

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Jackhound Mom — Tue, 05 Dec 2017 15:33:04 GMT

@Shogirl wrote:
My reoccurring dream is one where I am attending some sort of gathering in a large facility that has many rooms and hallways. I'm either trying to get to the gathering on time (and running late) or trying to leave the gathering and can't find my way out of the building. Either way, I'm roaming around like a lost soul.

Hi Shogirl2,

Yours sounds sorta like mine. We are struggling! I hope they dissappear for both of us and thank you for writing one and all.

Take care,

Cathy

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Group 5 minus 1 — Tue, 05 Dec 2017 15:35:07 GMT

A psychologist told me w/dreams you must pick out what is the most sig. thing to you and what does that mean to you. Does a bank mean money security,etc.

I frequently talked to my Mom in my dreams. 4 -5 years ago I told her we had gotten a new puppy. I described it, told her its name. She told me how happy she was for me because she knew how much I loved dogs. 2 days later DH told me he had found a puppy and wanted me to check it out. That is Charlie and he is such a great pet.

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Jackhound Mom — Tue, 05 Dec 2017 15:39:02 GMT

@Laura14 wrote:
This is so funny you posted this today.

I woke up several times during the night last night which is not unusual when I am having a stressful work week. The last time I fell back asleep I dreamt of my father who I have not seen in over 25 years. His choice not mine.

I was with him in this disgusting house and hugged him as I was leaving for somewhere because I wasn't staying there. I said I love you and he said I know and I remember stopping in my dream at that point going wait a minute, that's my dad. He hasn't seen or talked to me in decades. What's he doing here?

I also had one of my dogs with me and she's also been gone (passed away) for years. I love it when that happens because I get to have her back for a bit As far as I know, my father is still alive somewhere.

Very strange! I usually don't have weird dreams like that and I never dream about him. Must be the full moon.

Hi Laura 14,

It must be the full moon! I'm sorry about your dog and I hope you have another pet to love you! They each ocupy a different place in our hearts.

As for your father, it feels like unfinished business. I had the same thing with mine and he passed many years ago without us ever re-connecting. It doesn't sound like you will ever re-connect with yours either.

It does something to us when a parent doesn't want/love us. So I hope you never have another dream about him again, just your dog!

Blessings,

Cathy

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Jackhound Mom — Tue, 05 Dec 2017 15:43:55 GMT

@ncascade wrote:
A psychologist told me w/dreams you must pick out what is the most sig. thing to you and what does that mean to you. Does a bank mean money security,etc.
I frequently talked to my Mom in my dreams. 4 -5 years ago I told her we had gotten a new puppy. I described it, told her its name. She told me how happy she was for me because she knew how much I loved dogs. 2 days later DH told me he had found a puppy and wanted me to check it out. That is Charlie and he is such a great pet.

ncascade,

Great advice and I love your puppy story, Thank you for telling us about Charlie! I hope you continue to "talk" with your mother in dreams. I only had one friend back when I was 16 that visited me after she passed. I will write more later.

Have a wonderful day,

Cathy

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Group 5 minus 1 — Tue, 05 Dec 2017 15:50:41 GMT

Cathy, such a kind and lovely note. Thank you!

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LTT1 — Tue, 05 Dec 2017 16:06:41 GMT

@Jackhound Mom

Your dream sounds so very scary... I hope it goes away and never returns.

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Laura14 — Tue, 05 Dec 2017 16:10:21 GMT

@Jackhound Mom You are probably absolutely right. Never thought of that. How strange our brains pull up unfinished business after so many years.

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MalteseMomma — Tue, 05 Dec 2017 16:16:46 GMT

@Jackhound Mom

I may have a cure for you........

For years and years I had a dream of not being able to get home from places (mostly the same place) but it could be anwhere. A parking lot in a place I know, a shopping area I frequent,or even the next town from my home.

One day I just got so sick and tired of this constant dream,that I said to myself,...

" I ABSOLUTELY REFUSE TO DREAM THIS DREAM AGAIN!"

That stopped it!!!

If after that, per chance (not often) I did start to dream it again,even in my sleep somehow I had the pressence of mind to say,

" I REFUSE TO DREAM THIS DREAM!

and it works the dream immediately ends.............. I have not had this dream in years and years

I SWEAR THIS IS THE TRUTH!

Re: Bad Dreams!

Laura14 — Tue, 05 Dec 2017 16:43:15 GMT

I'm getting more creeped out. I am at work and I just had to sign up a new person with the same first name as my father. And it's not a common name. I never see it.

I may not close my eyes tonight. Obviously the universe is trying to tell me something. That's two instances now. Where is a psychic/interpreter when you need one?

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Nightowlz — Tue, 05 Dec 2017 16:48:34 GMT

I just sleep. If I'm dreaming while sleeping I don't remember any of it.

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spot555 — Tue, 05 Dec 2017 16:56:57 GMT

If it were me I'd do a few things.

First, I'd go to bed on an empty stomach....don't eat for at least 3 hours before bed.

Then, I'd say a prayer before bed, asking to keep all those odd dreams away from me.

Last, I'd think of something that makes me very happy, or warms my heart as I close my eyes.

That's a dark dream, & I wouldn't ever want it again. I think I could count the amount of bad dreams I've had in my lifetime on 1 hand.

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freakygirl — Tue, 05 Dec 2017 17:17:11 GMT

i haven’t thought about it in years, until this post. i had a recurring dream when i was a child. this ball was rolling towards me and as it was growing bigger, i was getting smaller. i still see it clearly in my mind now. it never bothered me though. i just wondered why i always dreamt it.

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123SuzyQ123 — Tue, 05 Dec 2017 17:54:22 GMT

I am glad I saw this topic! I also have some weird/strange/crazy dreams a few nights a week and cannot decipher out what they might mean!

Especially troubling is dreaming of a few people I worked with not 3 or 4 years ago, but 30, 32, 34 years ago! Seeing them as plain as day in the dream! Ones I haven't even thought of for probably 10 years or more! I guess they made some type of impression on me for me to dream clearly about them 34 years later!

There are more strange dreams, but I won't bore you any longer! Happy wishes for a healthy, and wonderful Christmas to all of you!

Suzie

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LTT1 — Tue, 05 Dec 2017 18:25:49 GMT

@Jackhound Mom @123SuzyQ123 @spot555

I once heard (probably on a talk show) that we dream about things that are troubling us or that we FEAR will happen.

For some reason, I find that this notion puts my fears to rest.

When DH has bad dreams, it usually is about not studying for exams (which was years ago) or not finding his way to the classroom for the exam.

I now try to analyze our bad dreams in the context of the emotion it is invoking. Chances are, this emotion or feeling plays a part in our lives in some way now, instead of the actual place or person.

My recurring dream used to do with falling from a brick hotel window... and a lady (who was actually a man in women’s garb heavily made up). I told This dream to my mother who became pale. She said we actually had an experience involving this person when I was very young!

I believe I “picked up on” her vibes.

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SelahG — Tue, 05 Dec 2017 20:51:15 GMT

@LTT1 I think you are on to something with the emotions speaking to us through dreams. Making themselves known, so that we will deal with them ... and move on.

Once, I was in a state of indecision that was causing me a great deal of stress. If I went one way, I’d be, for lack of a better description, kind of compromising my true self. If I went the other way, I was potentially jeopardizing my financial well-being which was very scary as a widowed single mother (at the time). So, I had basically made peace with the idea that I would have to go the first way—just accept it.

In my restless dream, I saw myself in my mirror, as though I was getting myself ready for work, as any other morning. But then, also revealed in the same mirror, over my right shoulder, was my younger self revealed. Leaning against the wall, with arms folded and glaring at me as though very disappointed in what that younger, determined self was seeing in my current desperate self.

Woah, did that scare me upon waking! But I knew then that I had to stay true to my genuine core self, or this compromising decision would likely haunt me forever. I made the harder, but right choice and never have regretted it, thankfully.

@Jackhound Mom — could your dream be indicating that you fear change of some kind? A big change in your life is on the horizon and the unknown seems dark and foreboding to you. You are desperately trying to salvage what you can of the known (the plants in the greenhouse). Saving something familiar to cling to and take with you into the future.

Fearing change is a very common thing, and I’ll pray for your peace in your decisions. Only sweetest dreams, too!