topic Re: Facebook Question in Among Friends

Facebook Question

ECBG — Sun, 19 Feb 2017 23:16:19 GMT

We all have true friends and then acquaintances.

I've noticed with both groups I can ask a question and rarely get an answer. An example might be "Did they reduce your hours?" "Did the deposit on that date to your account?".

What's going on or are my "southen" manners showing? When asked a question, a responce is called for.

Thanks!

Re: Facebook Question

Kitlynn — Sun, 19 Feb 2017 23:22:31 GMT

Facebook is open and anyone that you are friends with can see the post. If you want to know something directly regarding someone you need to do it in a private message on facebook to them. A lot of people don't want any of their persoanal stuff being able to be seen by everyone. Also it can take a while for someone to see your post. Like myself who leaves the computer on all the time and it looks like I am on there even though I am not in front of my computer so it might be a couple of days before I actually see a post.

Re: Facebook Question

sunshine45 — Sun, 19 Feb 2017 23:51:25 GMT

my guess is is that the questions are too personal to answer on a thread that many can see. just because they are on facebook doesnt necessarily mean that they want to answer personal/private/invasive questions......no matter how much they initially choose to share.

Re: Facebook Question

Day1128 — Mon, 20 Feb 2017 00:08:43 GMT

These type of questions are better suited to a phone call or an email. Too personal for FB, although many people put lots of personal information on FB.

Re: Facebook Question

kcladyz — Mon, 20 Feb 2017 00:19:43 GMT

Send someone an IM on facebook instead of posting the question out there.

Our facbook feeds and alerts get so huge its impossible to read them all

Re: Facebook Question

libbyannE — Mon, 20 Feb 2017 02:48:32 GMT

You should email instead of asking such questions in a public Facebook format. I wouldn't answer, either. You can't toss out questions on Facebook and then complain about getting no replies.

Re: Facebook Question

GCR18 — Mon, 20 Feb 2017 04:23:35 GMT

I agree, the questions may be too personal. I don't post about work on Facebook, unless it's very generic.

Re: Facebook Question

Nataliesgramma — Mon, 20 Feb 2017 10:43:09 GMT

Best to ask any personal questions privately

Re: Facebook Question

ECBG — Mon, 20 Feb 2017 17:03:44 GMT

I instant messaged these and the last was a work related question. None of these would be remotely embarrasing. I would never do that to anyone.

Re: Facebook Question

GCR18 — Tue, 21 Feb 2017 00:18:04 GMT

@ECBG

I wasn't thinking it would embarrass the ladies. I was thinking they didn't want to post the answer about hours for everyone to read. Instant message is different though and I would have answered differently. I have an acquaintance at work that instant messages me about trying some skin care line she's selling. I don't want to buy it. I answered her once and told her I used something else and if I wanted to switch, I'd let her know. She still sends me a message once a month and I ignore it.

I think I'd ask, did you get my instant message last week? I was having computer issues and wasn't sure if it went. Or something like that.

Re: Facebook Question

dooBdoo — Thu, 23 Feb 2017 01:19:07 GMT

There are some great responses on this thread. I wanted to add this: some Facebook users don't have their notifications set in such a way as to get an alert when someone posts to their threads, or mentions their name by choosing it from the pop-up, or sends them personal message. As a result, they don't know the question was asked or they don't find it until long after it was posted.

In addition, Facebook has a terribly annoying tendency to "update" their software frequently, including things that change the way the software works for the users. As a result, sometimes there are changes to the way notifications are generated. I no longer count on my notifications to be reliable. Also, I finally decided if someone doesn't reply to me, and I want to find out what's up, I contact them with a different method. If we normally email each other, or text, or have phone chats, I follow up that way. I hope that helps, at least a little, @ECBG. I'm a southern gal, too, but in general I think it's thoughtful for all of us to offer at least some kind of response to a direct question.