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To My Friends on the Widows Thread...

DannysWife — Sun, 09 Oct 2016 23:24:28 GMT

Hello Everyone.. This is me, DannyWife.. I am having problems getting into the blog/forum/topic and wanted to get in touch with each and everyone of you..

I have been diagnosed with Stage 4 Lung Cancer (do not know what caused it, but it is spreading).. I woke up with a stomach and 2 weeks received my diagnosis.. I have currently been through 1 round (which lasts 3 days) of Chemo and then 1 round (which lasted only 3 days) of Radiation.. I ended up in the hospital after the treatments almost sicker than I started with! IF through God's mercy and love the chemicals, prayers and support work, I can hope to gain maybe 1 to 2 more years..If not, I'm looking at a few to 6 months..

I am making my peace with my life and surroundings.. I am scared, nervous even anxious (if that's possible).. I don't want to leave this life yet I'm only in my 50's... So many of us know someone who has Cancer and sometimes it wins, I' just not giving up yet.. Allthough this last 5 day hospital stay gave me an awakening, I was hallucienating, so very sick and my blood pressure couldn't be found..My son has been a rock for me, but he shouldn't see his Mom the way I was.

I want each of you to know how much I valued your kindess, friendship and words of encouragement with my Husband, Danny, passed away. I cherish each of you..

If God sees fit, I will be sending follow ups, not being a "downer", just letting my friends know how things are going on the next journey of my life..

Blessings, Lisa

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Bird mama — Sun, 09 Oct 2016 23:29:10 GMT

@DannysWife

I am so very sorry to read this news Lisa. I've copied and pasted your post into the Widow's Thread to ensure as many of your online friends see this.

I recognize that you don't know me. While a widow myself, I don't often post on the Widow's Thread.

May God Bless You,

Bernadette

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10grands — Sun, 09 Oct 2016 23:42:38 GMT

Lisa - My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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Big Sister — Sun, 09 Oct 2016 23:53:46 GMT

DannysWife, I appreciate your sharing with us. You are too young to have this diagnosis, but I am sure hoping that you will win this battle. It really is a WAR, isn't it.

God bless you.

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doxie1 — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 00:01:32 GMT

@DannysWife

I am so heartbroken to hear this. I am glad you have your son. I will keep you in my prayers that God will give you strength and peace. I would not give up yet because you do not know what will happen with the treatment. You have always been so kind to people on the widow thread. I think it is good that you are letting us know so we can up the prayer chain. As much as these posters have meant to you, you have also meant a lot to them. When we realize how very fragile life is we really want to be thankful of so many blessings we took for granted. As we travel our life journeys we hope to become better people.

doxie

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Q4u — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 00:07:52 GMT

Bless you and your son.... praying hard for the best possible outcome!

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bjabuceye — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 01:00:48 GMT

God bless you, Lisa, and I am thankful that you have your son to help you through this.

Bobbi

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meallen616 — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 11:45:48 GMT

Lisa,

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Jamma — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 12:35:29 GMT

So sorry to hear this---I too am a widow and wanted to join in the widows thread but am confused with it,

Chin up I know of many people who have licked lung cancer,

My prayer are with you. I shall say a prayer to my patron St. Jude.

Jamma

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ladyroxanne — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 12:52:07 GMT

@DannysWife

sending you positve thoughts and prayers. your presence here has been a truly pleasant one.

prayers to your son also during this difficult and stressful time.

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ladyroxanne — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 12:53:41 GMT

@Jamma wrote:
So sorry to hear this---I too am a widow and wanted to join in the widows thread but am confused with it,

Chin up I know of many people who have licked lung cancer,

My prayer are with you. I shall say a prayer to my patron St. Jude.

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NC Bandwagon — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 13:33:17 GMT

I'm so sorry, DannysWife.

I hope you make it.

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Mustang Shar — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 13:48:57 GMT

@DannysWife

Lisa,

You are so young. I'm so sorry to read your prognosis. We are all here, praying for you. ❤️🙏🏻😘

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SleeplessinSD — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 16:56:46 GMT

@DannysWife, I don't post on the Widow's thread, but I often stop by to read. I remember when you first joined the ladies here. You have many caring friends thinking of and praying for you. God bless you and give you peace and strength during this sad and difficult time...

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snappyfrappy — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 20:49:53 GMT

Dear DannysWife, I saw your post on the Widow's thread and left an answer there. Hope you are able to read it. In case you aren't, please know that I'm finding it hard to believe this could be true, and praying the Lord will heal you and grant you many more years here. So grateful your son is there and is supportive.

Sorry the treaatments were difficult but pray they were effective. Nobody can tell

us how long we will live. Only God knows that. I think we should always have our affairs in order so we can forget about that and enjoy the moments we have.

You have blessed and encouraged all of us on WT and I remember well when you first posted. I remember your kindness to BS who lives pretty close to you. How you offered to go help her when you hadn't even met.

I know that Jesus loves you. He died for us, all of us and rose again for us. In the end, whenever that comes for us, it's all that matters. Knowing Him. Finding comfort in the Word means so much to me and I hope it will to you.

Please let us know how things go for you in the days ahead. We care and we pray and we love you so much. With (((hugs))) and tears and prayer...

your friend,

snappy

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Imadickens — Tue, 11 Oct 2016 00:28:13 GMT

God bless you! I, personally, don't mind any downers! Sometimes they feel good to get out of the way! If there is any way you can get my email address or I can get yours, I'd be more that happy to listen to anything you want to say! I've been there with both parents so I have an idea of what you are going through! Please, don't worry about your son! I know it was so important to me to be there for my mom! If she were worried about me it would have made it harder! ( I'm sure she did feel badly that I had to see her feel bad, but she never said too much about it. For that, I'm grateful!) Tell him anything you need! Let him help you. That will, in turn, help him. It's very hard to see those we love feel bad and there's little we can do to make them feel better! I made my mother custard. For a while, after her treatments, it was the only thing she liked to eat! I was happy to be able to do something helpful!

We also talked, openly and honestly, about our feelings about her illness. Fortunately we were always extremely close so we had nothing to set right. We loved talking about fun times we'd shared, good times, even silly things. I found out that the hospital would let me stay all night with her. I had a young son, then, so I couldn't be there every night, but when she needed me to, I was able to stay.

I'm sure you and your ds will have lots of prayers from this group, alone! I'm a true believer in the power of prayer, even more so in large group prayer! The only thing we can't do is change God's will. I couldn't understand why He took my mother when I needed her so much. Then, within the year, something happened that made it clear, not that He owes any of us an explanation! But, you are much younger than my mother was. You have a lot more time to do what He needs you to do here on Earth. I'm sure he will gladly answer all our prayers! So, the best thing you can do is believe! Believe that you will be healed. Believe in His love, your ds love, and the love all of us are showing you! Let your ds help you! Make sure he knows if what you need is too much he needs to tell you, then you need to feel free to ask for what you really need! That way, you both will be comfortable with what goes on!

Also, make sure you have a doctor you trust and who listens to you! You still have a lot of say in your treatments! Ask questions, tell how you feel about things! Doctors aren't mind readers. We get mad because we don't like what they do, or don't do, but we haven't made our wishes known! You have every right to have what you want!

Finally, as sad as you may get some days, make a list of ten things you are grateful for each night! Tell God what you want and don't want, too. Ask him to see it your way, then turn it all over to Him and enjoy every day you live! After treatments, you may only be able to enjoy little things, but at the top of your thankful list should always be 1. You made it through another day! 2. You have a loving son by your side. From there, you will have to decide! But, I'm very sure you will always be able to list at least 10 things for which you are grateful,

We're here for you! Please let us know how you are frequently! Thanks! God bless you and those you love!

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AuntG — Tue, 11 Oct 2016 10:14:17 GMT

I'lI be praying for you and for the doctors who are treating you.

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BalletBabe — Tue, 11 Oct 2016 00:59:48 GMT

@DannysWife I don't know you, as I have never posted on the widows thread. I am also a widow. My heart just broke reading your post, and I wanted you to know that I have put you on a prayer group that I am a part of. These girls have made miracles happen. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your son.

Mary Ann

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snappyfrappy — Tue, 11 Oct 2016 19:42:45 GMT

jamma, sorry you are confused by the WT. Don't know what the problem is, but I post there almost every day. Just click on the last post on the right and it will take you there. Sometimes you will see pictures that our dear possummink posts for us to share, to get a laugh or smile and encouragement and see the beauty of this world God made.

Maybe if you see that you don't think it's the WT, but it is. Just click on reply to any post and let us hear from you. There are many caring people there who are walking the grief walk. Some brand new widows, others whose hubbies left long ago, but we all understand each other. Hope you come sometime.

snappy

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goldensrbest — Tue, 11 Oct 2016 22:59:09 GMT

Oh ,i am so very sorry, you lost your husband about the time i lost mine,you were moving about the same time ,i did, sometimes life is just not fair.