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How do you say no

dex — Thu, 01 Dec 2016 22:24:35 GMT

I know someone who has a small business that offers a service that I am not interested in.I have said every excuse I can come up with and even said that I am not interested and still She pressures me.I can't think of a polite way to say that she is becoming very annoying.I don't want to hurt her feelings either because I do like her but honestly she is a high pressure sales person.

Re: How do you say no

Trix — Thu, 01 Dec 2016 22:31:49 GMT

@dex, with salespeople there may not be a polite way to rid yourself of your friend's aggressive approach. Small business salespeople generally hound their friends first as a means of growing their bsuiness. You may have to be a bit more firm with your response that you don't need her services, and if in the future you do she will be on your list to contact. The risk could be losing a friend, but only you can place a value on this person's friendship. My feeling is that if she really wants to be a good friend, your desire not to be pestered would be respected.

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NicksmomESQ — Thu, 01 Dec 2016 22:33:51 GMT

Just tell her that you did not know that your friendship was contingent upon you purchasing her services!! Your friendship should mean more to her than your business!!

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GCR18 — Thu, 01 Dec 2016 22:33:57 GMT

I used to get pressured into jewelry parties or parents selling kids fund raising stuff. I didn't want to say no, so I'd give excuses. I finally said no. Keep saying no. If she continues to ask, you may have to lay the friendship on the line. Sue I am not interested in purchasing xyz, could we please not talk about it anymore.

Re: How do you say no

dex — Thu, 01 Dec 2016 22:34:01 GMT

@Trix You might be right about our friendship.I will probably have to cave in and hope if I do it once she will be content with that.

Re: How do you say no

Jacie — Thu, 01 Dec 2016 22:39:24 GMT

"No thank you."

Repeat it as many times as you have to, sorry to say it may take awhile from what you have said.

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happycat — Thu, 01 Dec 2016 22:41:10 GMT

Well, I'm afraid if you give in once, she will expect it from now on. I think I would be temped to tell her that she isn't showing alot of respect for my (YOUR) feelings, by pressuring me to use her service that I have no use for.

Re: How do you say no

bri20 — Thu, 01 Dec 2016 22:42:29 GMT

Just tell her you're not interested right now. Be as blunt about it as possible

Re: How do you say no

Kachina624 — Thu, 01 Dec 2016 22:44:43 GMT

Apparently when you say no, there a tentative quality to your voice and she's hearing, "maybe". You need to be more firm so as not to leave any question as to your position. If you hurt her feelings, that's her problem.

Re: How do you say no

sidsmom — Thu, 01 Dec 2016 22:45:13 GMT

Or just say, "Let's get together after the holidays"....

just not specifying which one.

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Berlybaby — Thu, 01 Dec 2016 22:45:23 GMT

No thanks it's just not my thing but thanks for asking.

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Gram W — Thu, 01 Dec 2016 22:45:46 GMT

Once you cave it will continue. I went thru the party route and buying 1 item meant you were expected to buy more and bigger orders. I was invited to more parties and everyone wanted me to "help out" by having a party at my house or becoming a consultant so they could get credit. It was a vicious circle until it became a hassle for everyone. It was taking more time and effort for little rewards. The person who profited was at the top. Pyramids are supposed to be illegal but it sure worked like one. I don't know what she is offering but if I don't want or need it I would politely stick with a firm no thank you.

Re: How do you say no

Montana — Thu, 01 Dec 2016 22:46:12 GMT

@dex wrote:
@Trix You might be right about our friendship.I will probably have to cave in and hope if I do it once she will be content with that.

@dex giving in to a demand usually results in more demands. I dont think if you "cave" that will be the end of it.

Re: How do you say no

Moonchilde — Thu, 01 Dec 2016 22:48:52 GMT

If you cave once she'll be sure it was her fantastic sales pitch and you'll be pestered twice as much in future.

Just keep saying no. If she asks you, in person, one too many times, let some exasperation show and ask her not to ask you again. If it's a service you don't need, then you don't (and probably never will) need it, period, full stop.

You'll then find out if she really is a genuine friend, or an acquaintance who's trying to use her "friends."

Re: How do you say no

Nataliesgramma — Thu, 01 Dec 2016 22:52:37 GMT

Say "NO" and change the subject.....

It works for pushy people as well as kids....the more you say....or give a reason...you open it up for discussion....short and sweet works

Re: How do you say no

ROMARY — Thu, 01 Dec 2016 22:56:55 GMT

Smile or laugh and change the subject. Just go 'on and on' about something. If you have to, make something up very elaborate and exciting and keep talking and talking. Even if you have to say that you ran into a particular movie star...........keep on talking, over and over again each time she asks you. After a while, she will 'give up'.

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MoJoV — Thu, 01 Dec 2016 23:00:07 GMT

If she's really a friend she wouldn't put you on the spot like that. Maybe you should rethink the friendship.

Re: How do you say no

bri20 — Thu, 01 Dec 2016 23:01:00 GMT

@ROMARY wrote:
Smile or laugh and change the subject. Just go 'on and on' about something. If you have to, make something up very elaborate and exciting and keep talking and talking. Even if you have to say that you ran into a particular movie star...........keep on talking, over and over again each time she asks you. After a while, she will 'give up'.

Saying no is easier than all of that.

Re: How do you say no

Marp — Thu, 01 Dec 2016 23:01:34 GMT

Next time ask about your friend's health and tell her you are worried about her. When she asks why tell her because it seems she is having memory problems since you have discussed this a number of times, said no each time yet she asked again. Repeat that you are concerned about her not being able to remember.

Re: How do you say no

Pooky1 — Thu, 01 Dec 2016 23:02:33 GMT

say sorry im not interested and go find someone who is interested because im certainlly not. if she keeps presuring you she needs you to be more forward in your answer. some people cant take no for an answer.