topic Re: Drama in Community Chat

Drama

SeaMaiden — Sat, 22 Oct 2016 19:29:25 GMT

Are you a person with a lot of drama in your life, or very little to none?

I have very little drama in my life now. As a child I had a lot of drama inflicted by family members around me and which I had no control over. Divorces, fighting, yelling etc. As an adult I now CHOSE who and what I let into my life....no drama, no highs and lows...pretty even and steady sailing. People who caused or now cause me angst I shut out of my life( including family members) so I can keep my life smooth and steady. I am in control and do not let others create my reality any more.

Re: Drama

Plaid Pants2 — Sat, 22 Oct 2016 19:32:07 GMT

I HATE drama!

I have no tolerance or patience for it.

Most of the time, people invite the drama on to themselves, then whine and complain about it, not seeing, or refusing to see that they have created their own drama.

If someone wants to be miserable, that's on them.

It's not my job to make sure that they are happy.

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SharkE — Sat, 22 Oct 2016 19:32:22 GMT

I remember Oprah back when saying she got rid of "toxic people" and learned how to say "no". That's stayed in my head all these yrs.

ah ha moment. LOL

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Citrine1 — Sat, 22 Oct 2016 19:35:14 GMT

@SharkE wrote:
I remember Oprah back when saying she got rid of "toxic people" and learned how to say "no". That's stayed in my head all these yrs.

ah ha moment. LOL

Easy for her to say; she doesn't have kids. Some of us really don't want drama, but it's forced upon us because of our children whom we don't want to turn our backs on.

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cherry — Sat, 22 Oct 2016 19:36:15 GMT

Me? I like a quiet life

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MyGirlsMom — Sat, 22 Oct 2016 19:37:47 GMT

As little as possible. The older I get, the less tolerant I am about people and their "issues."

Here is a quote I love by a facebook page, "Aunty Acid"

Every time you feel yourself being pulled into other people's nonsense, repeat theses words...
"not my circus, not my monkeys"

Re: Drama

Plaid Pants2 — Sat, 22 Oct 2016 19:38:08 GMT

I work with people who hate their job.

Is our job a "fun" job? No, it isn't, but it is what it is.

They want the company to cater to their every whim and desire, to make sure that they are happy 100% of the time.

NO job is like that.

I am so sick and tired of hearing their constant complaining, that I try to avoid it whenever possible.

No job is perfect, and if they ever do leave, they just might be in for a rude awakening as to how the working world really is today.

And I'm talking about grown adults who are 50+ who are complaining.

So, yeah, I am sick and tired of the drama.

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Moonchilde — Sat, 22 Oct 2016 19:40:42 GMT

Depending upon the circumstances, I do my best to avoid drama that might personally affect me.

OTOH, I sometimes confront obvious, crafted, plotted drama and those who make "creating drama" their life work. Their issues are different/more serious or tragic than anyone else's, other people may get things resolved or have solutions, but they alone are trapped in abject misery of others' making, poorpoor THEM, there is nothing anyone can dooooo, they will just have to go on suffering.

Yeah. No.

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Laura14 — Sat, 22 Oct 2016 19:42:27 GMT

I have a stressful job too which is my drama. But you have to eat so what can you do? I'm actually looking into stress management because I really need to learn some.

Got rid of the drama in my personal life over the summer. Had it out with my family and they've been pretty respectful of my boundaries ever since.

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MoJoV — Sat, 22 Oct 2016 19:42:35 GMT

I don't like drama. But it happens. You can try to hide from it but occasionally it will find you.

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cotton4me — Sat, 22 Oct 2016 19:46:02 GMT

If drama is another word for stressful situations, then I feel like it comes and goes. Since I retired there’s no more work drama. I don’t miss that. However, now I have the drama/stress of dealing with elderly relatives in need of help, beyond what I can do.

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Sweet_Serenity — Sat, 22 Oct 2016 19:46:10 GMT

Waters are calm....captain of my ship.⛵

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cotton4me — Sat, 22 Oct 2016 19:50:23 GMT

@MyGirlsMom wrote:
As little as possible. The older I get, the less tolerant I am about people and their "issues."

Here is a quote I love by a facebook page, "Aunty Acid"

Every time you feel yourself being pulled into other people's nonsense, repeat theses words...
"not my circus, not my monkeys"

@MyGirlsMom Love the quote. It made me laugh. I'll have to remember that one.

Re: Drama

QVCkitty1 — Sat, 22 Oct 2016 19:51:31 GMT

I used to have a friend who thrived on drama, if none existed she would create it.It was exhausting, because she would always drag me into it. We are no longer friends and I can't say that I'm sorry.

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Moonchilde — Sat, 22 Oct 2016 19:51:47 GMT

@cotton4me wrote:
If drama is another word for stressful situations, then I feel like it comes and goes. Since I retired there’s no more work drama. I don’t miss that. However, now I have the drama/stress of dealing with elderly relatives in need of help, beyond what I can do.

I have never felt that drama is a synonym for stress. One can have all kinds of stress and just deal with it, no drama. Drama is created. It's a "Look at me!" 'Help me/do something for me! (Because I can't/don't want to put on my Big Girl Panties and just deal with it)."

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cotton4me — Sat, 22 Oct 2016 19:54:19 GMT

@Moonchilde wrote:
@cotton4me wrote:
If drama is another word for stressful situations, then I feel like it comes and goes. Since I retired there’s no more work drama. I don’t miss that. However, now I have the drama/stress of dealing with elderly relatives in need of help, beyond what I can do.

I have never felt that drama is a synonym for stress. One can have all kinds of stress and just deal with it, no drama. Drama is created. It's a "Look at me!" 'Help me/do something for me! (Because I can't/don't want to put on my Big Girl Panties and just deal with it)."

@Moonchilde Thanks for the explanation. That makes sense.

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Caligurll — Sat, 22 Oct 2016 19:55:44 GMT

I have no drama in my life, since I retired. There was always some sort of drama going on in the office when I was working, even though I tried my best not to get caught up in it.

My family is no drama also. I remember when my niece's new husband's family started joining ours for Thanksgiving and his family members started bickering during dinner. I was sitting next to his sister, and she turned to me and said, I can't believe your family doesn't fight, and I just thought to myself, I can't believe your family would come to someone else's home and fight at the Thanksgiving dinner table! She was surprised the whole family could get together and not fight. It really made me appreciate how my family gets along.

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proudlyfromNJ — Sat, 22 Oct 2016 20:03:54 GMT

@Citrine1 wrote:
@SharkE wrote:
I remember Oprah back when saying she got rid of "toxic people" and learned how to say "no". That's stayed in my head all these yrs.

ah ha moment. LOL
Easy for her to say; she doesn't have kids. Some of us really don't want drama, but it's forced upon us because of our children whom we don't want to turn our backs on.

Drama can be caused by many things, many people and many situations. Just because people don't have kids doesn't mean there is no drama. AND it is not easy to say.

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dex — Sat, 22 Oct 2016 20:04:58 GMT

I don't have any drama as far as I know.I have some worries and stress but I don't call that drama....I think of drama as ridiculous actions and reactions ...am I right?

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meallen616 — Sat, 22 Oct 2016 20:06:58 GMT