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facebbook question

happycat — Wed, 19 Oct 2016 01:53:23 GMT

I have facebook. I am not very active on it. It is maily to communicate with TWO friends who live far away. A friend asked me if i had fb, and she wanted to friend me. WELL SHOOT. Although she has a full time job, she does have time to post multiple pics, jokes and basically everything under the sun. I don't care about seeing it all. It clogs up my fb. I just want to see the stuff the other two post.

Sorry if i sound rude, i am just keeping it real. Is there a way without unfriending this person, to adjust the settings where i don't see every dang thing she posts?

TIA

Im really not as crabby as this sounds in real life...

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september — Wed, 19 Oct 2016 01:58:47 GMT

You don't have to unfriend her. You can block her posts from appearing in your news feed. I haven't done this in a while, but I think you go to your settings to do this.

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BalletBabe — Wed, 19 Oct 2016 02:00:41 GMT

Yes, you can unfriend her and also block her. If you just unfriend her, she can still see your page, but if you block her , she won't see anything. If you go to her page and look up where it says friends. It is on the left side of her big picture. click on that and you will see option to unfriend her. If you want to also block her let me know and I will try to talk you through that. Good luck!

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happycat — Wed, 19 Oct 2016 02:06:34 GMT

Will she know she is blocked?

Thank ya'll for the quick response.

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Mesmerized169 — Wed, 19 Oct 2016 02:28:12 GMT

@happycat wrote:
Is there a way without unfriending this person, to adjust the settings where i don't see every dang thing she posts?

@happycat, I had to do this myself with a couple of people who post up the kazoo on FB with bizarre things, so I know what you mean since I had to change settings on certain individuals too.

You have to do 2 things (I'm giving instructions as though you are logging on a PC/Laptop. I think doing it thru the app might be slightly different)..

When you're on computer, log in and go to her page. First, under where it says "Friends" heading on her page, click the drop down menu and UNcheck "Get Notifications". This way so you won't get a notice every time she posts something.

Secondly, under the "Following" heading next to it, click the drop down menu there and check next to "Unfollow (name)". Doing this you still will remain friends, but this will remove all her posts from being displayed in your scrolling newsfeed and she will never know you did that.

Then you can periodically visit her page directly on your own terms and whenever you feel like it if you want to catch up on her posts. But at least you won't be exposed to the barage of her posts every day anymore by changing those 2 individual settings.

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Mesmerized169 — Wed, 19 Oct 2016 02:27:18 GMT

@happycat wrote:
Will she know she is blocked?
Thank ya'll for the quick response.

Yep if you block her, it automatically unfriends her too! Then when she tries to search for your name again after realizing your not on her friends list anymore, she won't be able to find you either. Block is what it means!. That was a bad suggestion up there someone else had made because it didn't sound like you had wanted to block her and unfriend her? You just dont want her posts shoved in your face (newsfeed) all the time I'm gathering?. Read my earlier reply / suggestions to see if that helps.

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JaneMarple — Wed, 19 Oct 2016 02:32:39 GMT

You can also put your other two friends in another category such as "close friends", this way you have the option of only their posts to read.

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oceantown — Wed, 19 Oct 2016 02:35:20 GMT

Hi, @happycat,

This is what I do. (And by the way, you don't seem rude)

I go to one of the posts that is showing up on my wall. There is a little down arrow to the top right of the post. It may be hard to see, it is to the right, on the same line as the name of your friend.

When you click on the down arrow on the post, a box pops up. The first line in the box says "hide post"--that is not the one you want. The 2nd line says "Unfollow Mary", which is your friend's name in this example, haha. Under Unfollow Mary, in light small lettering it explains further: "Stop seeing posts but remain friends". So, you should click on "Unfollow Mary"

Hope this helps!

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Allegheny — Wed, 19 Oct 2016 02:54:48 GMT

Thank you all for the indepth instructions. I have the same issue with someone I would like to keep as a friend, but am weary of a lot of the political things she is posting and would just like to avoid seeing her posts until after the election.

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AmericanBulldogMom — Wed, 19 Oct 2016 02:58:35 GMT

You want to keep her as your friend but unfollow her posts.

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gidgetgh — Wed, 19 Oct 2016 10:34:59 GMT

My question though, because I'm kind of facing this with 2-3 of my Facebook friends, is, if you unfollow or hide their posts, why not just unfriend them?

If you're never going to see ANYTHING they post, ever, what's the point?

I have a few friends who never comment or click like on anything I post, ever. And I don't post a ton. So I'm thinking about unfriending them as I figure they've chosen to "unfollow" me. I feel that the purpose of Facebook is to participate in each other's lives (as well as belong to pages that interest you) and if they're never going to "participate" in mine, I don't see any point in keeping them as a friend online.

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CalminHeart — Wed, 19 Oct 2016 10:43:02 GMT

You can keep her as a friend but unfollow her. Go to her home page and find the "follow" button and click it. Unfollow should be an option.

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glb613 — Wed, 19 Oct 2016 11:11:25 GMT

@gidgetgh wrote:
My question though, because I'm kind of facing this with 2-3 of my Facebook friends, is, if you unfollow or hide their posts, why not just unfriend them?

If you're never going to see ANYTHING they post, ever, what's the point?

I have a few friends who never comment or click like on anything I post, ever. And I don't post a ton. So I'm thinking about unfriending them as I figure they've chosen to "unfollow" me. I feel that the purpose of Facebook is to participate in each other's lives (as well as belong to pages that interest you) and if they're never going to "participate" in mine, I don't see any point in keeping them as a friend online.

I have unfollowed people especially during elections and once the political stuff stops, I follow them again.

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NicksmomESQ — Wed, 19 Oct 2016 11:20:44 GMT

I just unfollowed a friend who's posts were too annoying.By doing this you remain friends without insulting her.She will never know!!

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gidgetgh — Wed, 19 Oct 2016 13:17:23 GMT

@glb613 wrote:
@gidgetgh wrote:
My question though, because I'm kind of facing this with 2-3 of my Facebook friends, is, if you unfollow or hide their posts, why not just unfriend them?

If you're never going to see ANYTHING they post, ever, what's the point?

I have a few friends who never comment or click like on anything I post, ever. And I don't post a ton. So I'm thinking about unfriending them as I figure they've chosen to "unfollow" me. I feel that the purpose of Facebook is to participate in each other's lives (as well as belong to pages that interest you) and if they're never going to "participate" in mine, I don't see any point in keeping them as a friend online.
I have unfollowed people especially during elections and once the political stuff stops, I follow them again.

@glb613- I agree with you on that and am tempted to unfollow a few for the next month or so. But I have a few friends who never respond to anything I put on there and I just don't see any point in keeping them as friends.

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happycat — Wed, 19 Oct 2016 14:13:45 GMT

Gidget, the most sense I suppose would be to just unfriend her. The truth is, a few years ago, when I really needed a friend, she was there for me. Actually, she sought me out and made me feel special and she is just a good person. I don't want to take a chance on hurting her feelings.

I just don't have the desire or time to look at the myraid of things that she posts....everything that goes on in her life, basically, she shares on fb. Which i do find odd.

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happycat — Wed, 19 Oct 2016 14:18:34 GMT

Thank you bytheshore for giving such good instructions on how to do this. Thank you all for your replies and help, it is appreciated.

I have now unfollowed her.

Have a great day, ladies.

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AngusandBuddhasMom — Wed, 19 Oct 2016 14:24:28 GMT

I just unfollow but keep the friend regardless if they follow or unfollow me. I also have a fb page for my artwork which I advertise on my personal fb page so I would rather keep friends who may be looking at that page as well.

I have unfriended people and blocked those who I was not following because we disagree on the upcoming event and so I did not appreciate the nasty remarks that they would post on my personal fb page. (I rarely post on other people's fb pages unless we are friends away from social media.)