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Another Place♥️Another Time

Suhse — Fri, 26 Aug 2016 06:11:21 GMT

Do you have, have you had, someone in your life, that fit in this category?

It could be a friend, or just an acquaintance, nothing romantic has happened between; you both know that nothing ever will. Yet, spoken or not, you both know, that, in another place, how different it might have been!

I have a guy friend of 20+years, we're both 45.

Although, there's always been a little spark, we've never been in the same place. If I was free, he was not, and when he was available, I was involved.

Several years ago, he was in town for a wedding(lives on the other Coast) we'd both had a few drinks, and, he said something, like

"So, if we didn't have the worlds worst timing, do you think we might have been having a wedding". It was awkward, for about a minute. Then we both cracked up, and said, "but we do have the worst timing, obviously we're meant to be, just friends!"

It Was sweet.

Even if you don't want to share a story, makes you smile, a bit, eh?

Re: Another Place♥️Another Time

AngelPuppy1 — Fri, 26 Aug 2016 09:40:43 GMT

That's a cute story!

I don't know --- I think probably many of us have had occasions where we think --- what if?

But basically I am a person who thinks if something was meant to be, it will be.

I have had fleeting (and they were fleeting) thoughts over the years about people I have casually dated and wondered --- hmmm-- I wonder what my life would have been like if he and I would actually have gotten together --- ??? But its never really serious thoughts and as I said ---it's a fleeting thought.

I am (for better and worse) where I am meant to be and and am with whom I am meant to be with.

I don't think there is anything wrong with thinking though as you have. Human nature, right?

Re: Another Place♥️Another Time

Ms X — Fri, 26 Aug 2016 10:10:17 GMT

That has never happened to me. You never know what the future holds, though. Perhaps one day the two of you will end up together.

Re: Another Place♥️Another Time

LTT1 — Fri, 26 Aug 2016 10:24:33 GMT

@Suhse@Ms X@AngelPuppy1

This has never happened to me, but I wish it would.

Re: Another Place♥️Another Time

Kardi — Fri, 26 Aug 2016 13:20:13 GMT

Yes, I know what you mean. I've been married for many, many years. Several years ago I met a man my husband knew through another friend. I returned from a bike ride and he was standing in my kitchen and when we looked at each other there was an instant feeling of affection. Not so much a sexual thing, but a warm affection. His wife is now a friend and we occasionally socialize with them. Maybe we knew each other in a previous life or something. Can't explain it.

Re: Another Place♥️Another Time

deepwaterdotter — Fri, 26 Aug 2016 14:30:37 GMT

"Sure I think about you now and then

But it's been a long, long time.

Well I've got a good life now, I've moved on

So when you cross my mind

I try not to think about what might have been.

Cause that was then and

We have taken different roads.

We can't go back again

There's no use giving in

And there's no way to know

What might have been." - "What Might Have Been" by Little Texas

Re: Another Place♥️Another Time

Suhse — Sun, 28 Aug 2016 23:18:02 GMT

@deepwaterdotter wrote:
"Sure I think about you now and then
But it's been a long, long time.
Well I've got a good life now, I've moved on
So when you cross my mind
I try not to think about what might have been.
Cause that was then and
We have taken different roads.
We can't go back again
There's no use giving in
And there's no way to know
What might have been." - "What Might Have Been" by Little Texas

_____

Love this song, and very true!

Re: Another Place♥️Another Time

itiswhatitis — Mon, 29 Aug 2016 00:52:14 GMT

@Suhse wrote:
Do you have, have you had, someone in your life, that fit in this category?

It could be a friend, or just an acquaintance, nothing romantic has happened between; you both know that nothing ever will. Yet, spoken or not, you both know, that, in another place, how different it might have been!

I have a guy friend of 20+years, we're both 45.

Although, there's always been a little spark, we've never been in the same place. If I was free, he was not, and when he was available, I was involved.

Several years ago, he was in town for a wedding(lives on the other Coast) we'd both had a few drinks, and, he said something, like
"So, if we didn't have the worlds worst timing, do you think we might have been having a wedding". It was awkward, for about a minute. Then we both cracked up, and said, "but we do have the worst timing, obviously we're meant to be, just friends!"

It Was sweet.

Even if you don't want to share a story, makes you smile, a bit, eh?

I do know what you mean. Sometimes people can come into your life and leave an indelible mark that lasts a lifetime. Sometimes, that's all its supposed to be and other times thoughts of "what if" invade you just at the mere mention of the name. In my case, I am extremely grateful that one of the "what ifs" didn't materialize.