topic Re: Stop Lugging it With You to Every Thread in Community Chat

Stop Lugging it With You to Every Thread

Moonchilde — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 20:04:44 GMT

Just my thoughts -

Several current threads about kindness/unkindness and forum squabbles and arguers/challengers. My 2 cents worth on a related issue -

If you have a difference of opinion with someone in a given thread, even if it's heated, *leave it within the thread* and don't take personal pot-shots at the poster anywhere and everywhere you come across them in the forums, for no reason OTHER than to take a personal pot-shot.

You may very well encounter the same poster in a different thread and agree with them and heart them - that certainly happens to me. But even if you don't agree with their *opinion* on a topic in a thread, don't use the fact you are simply in the same thread because of mutual interest to fling *off-topic* personal mud at them. NO, they are not always addressing every comment they make anywhere and everywhere as a personal insult to YOU. In the scheme of things, "you" (whoever you are) are a VIP to *yourself*, but not to others. Seriously.

This holding of grudges and invariably responding in a pisthy way to certain posters who have po'd you once upon a time is to me the single largest posting "issue" there is here.

Post to the ISSUE. Disagree about the ISSUE without bringing 'history' into it. Don't just whiz personally on people you think you have a history with just because you feel like doing it, even when it's irrelevant to the thread.

Re: Stop Lugging it With You to Every Thread

Cakers3 — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 20:19:30 GMT

Oh good grief - nobody is going to change anybody else. Everyone has been guilty at one time or another so this constant lecturing on how we all should post is beyond old.

Gads. Live and let live.

Re: Stop Lugging it With You to Every Thread

Moonchilde — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 20:28:10 GMT

Gads indeed. So are the inevitable posts about "lecturing."

LOL.

Re: Stop Lugging it With You to Every Thread

Juniebugz — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 20:38:32 GMT

So you're saying in the past you've never brought into a thread a poster's history or things they said elsewhere and also going forward you're never going to do it?

That's a tall order for any of us to fill, jmo thinking about this.

Re: Stop Lugging it With You to Every Thread

jaxs mom — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 20:36:02 GMT

jerks are jerks, it's rediculous to expect people to not remember that.

Re: Stop Lugging it With You to Every Thread

QueenDanceALot — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 20:36:11 GMT

Re: Stop Lugging it With You to Every Thread

Wayne-QVC — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 20:38:11 GMT

This post has been removed by QVC because it's argumentative.

Re: Stop Lugging it With You to Every Thread

Cakers3 — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 20:39:38 GMT

Is this not a lecture thread? Drat - I left my notebook at home.

Re: Stop Lugging it With You to Every Thread

Moonchilde — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 20:45:25 GMT

@Juniebugz wrote:

So you're saying in the past you've never brought into a thread a poster's history or things they said elsewhere and also going forward you're never going to do it?
That's a tall order for any of us to fill, jmo thinking about this.

Things they said elsewhere and calling them out on it? Quoting from another thread, or saying so-and-so did such-and-such in another thread? I try very hard not to do that because usually I don't see the point.

As for those saying "so you've never, ever" - no, I did not say that. I'm not perfect. Like many other posters have said over time about forum behaviors, it's what we should *try* to do, as much as possible. I do not set myself up as the perfect arbiter of behavior that I have "never ever" done, nor am I setting myself up as a perfect person.

Re: Stop Lugging it With You to Every Thread

Moonchilde — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 20:52:28 GMT

@Cakers3 wrote:
Is this not a lecture thread? Drat - I left my notebook at home.

Well, there are posters who do seem to think almost every thread is a lecture thread. I don't, so I wouldn't know.

Re: Stop Lugging it With You to Every Thread

bri20 — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 20:56:06 GMT

Of course this is a lecture thread. Lol

Re: Stop Lugging it With You to Every Thread

Moonchilde — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 20:56:25 GMT

@QueenDanceALot wrote:

Thank you for a shining example - too cool!

Re: Stop Lugging it With You to Every Thread

QueenDanceALot — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 20:56:42 GMT

Sure smells like a lecture thread.

But some honest opinions are being poofed so I'm out!

Carry on with your stern (and may I say, disingenuous) self.

I know, POOF1

Re: Stop Lugging it With You to Every Thread

Lipstickdiva — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 20:59:08 GMT

These threads never go well.

Re: Stop Lugging it With You to Every Thread

Moonchilde — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 20:59:43 GMT

@QueenDanceALot wrote:
Sure smells like a lecture thread.

But some honest opinions are being poofed so I'm out!

Carry on with your stern (and may I say, disingenuous) self.

I know, POOF1

Thank you for your irrelevant, off-topic commentary 🙂

Re: Stop Lugging it With You to Every Thread

Wayne-QVC — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 21:00:54 GMT

This post has been removed by QVC because it's argumentative.

Re: Stop Lugging it With You to Every Thread

QueenDanceALot — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 21:01:34 GMT

@Lipstickdiva wrote:
These threads never go well.

Darn, I'm going to miss the developments.

TTFN!

Re: Stop Lugging it With You to Every Thread

Moonchilde — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 21:05:00 GMT

@Lipstickdiva wrote:
These threads never go well.

And one reason is that people who plain old don't like the OP (whoever that is) will use the opportunity to do...what my Original Post is about, whoever the OP happens to be.

Disagree, fine. But the responses so far have mostly been personal attacks, not dealing with the topic - no disagreeing, just trying to pick at me personally. It illustrates my point very well. And that's okay too.

Re: Stop Lugging it With You to Every Thread

Juniebugz — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 21:06:38 GMT

@Moonchilde wrote:
@Juniebugz wrote:

So you're saying in the past you've never brought into a thread a poster's history or things they said elsewhere and also going forward you're never going to do it?
That's a tall order for any of us to fill, jmo thinking about this.

Things they said elsewhere and calling them out on it? Quoting from another thread, or saying so-and-so did such-and-such in another thread? I try very hard not to do that because usually I don't see the point.

As for those saying "so you've never, ever" - no, I did not say that. I'm not perfect. Like many other posters have said over time about forum behaviors, it's what we should *try* to do, as much as possible. I do not set myself up as the perfect arbiter of behavior that I have "never ever" done, nor am I setting myself up as a perfect person.

Ok, fair enough. Thanks for clarifying. I think I "get" some of the intent of your OP. The delivery does sound like a lecture or a directive though. Hence the resulting push-back.

Re: Stop Lugging it With You to Every Thread

MaRina — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 21:08:27 GMT

@QueenDanceALot wrote:
@Lipstickdiva wrote:
These threads never go well.
Darn, I'm going to miss the developments.

TTFN!

And 5....4....3.....2 Poof