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This bothers me.

goldensrbest — Wed, 10 Aug 2016 18:22:54 GMT

There are certain posters that just seem so harsh, when they reply to peoples threads.

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dex — Wed, 10 Aug 2016 18:24:38 GMT

I say don't let them get to you after all it is your choice....just words from strangers.

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QueenDanceALot — Wed, 10 Aug 2016 18:27:19 GMT

@goldensrbest wrote:
There are certain posters that just seem so harsh, when they reply to peoples threads.

If someone is always harsh I figure they're just miserable people.

Once in awhile harsh and I guess they're having a tough day (or year)

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Anonymous — Wed, 10 Aug 2016 18:30:16 GMT

This post has been removed by QVC because it is unkind

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Kalli — Wed, 10 Aug 2016 18:35:29 GMT

@goldensrbest wrote:
There are certain posters that just seem so harsh, when they reply to peoples threads.

Yeah, some people are just Cranky McCranksters.

Just ignore them and enjoy your conversations with the rest.

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QVCkitty1 — Wed, 10 Aug 2016 18:37:48 GMT

There are ways of expressing an opinion that don't make the other person feel diminished or condescended to.

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lolakimono — Wed, 10 Aug 2016 18:39:08 GMT

@goldensrbest

It bothers me when a poster comes on the boards excited to share a purchase, say a new dress. Then in the post the OP asks for help finding accessories, like a pair of shoes or some jewelry.

People totally ignore that the OP LOVES the item or has already purchased it, and then make comments like these:

"That dress is out of style."

"It's cut too high/low for X event."

"No one where I live wears X..."

"I haven't seen one of those in years."

"You paid too much. I wouldn't pay $20 for that."

"You should buy this one. I like it better."

And so on...

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catwhisperer — Wed, 10 Aug 2016 18:39:52 GMT

I was recently scolded by a poster because she said I made the same comments on two different threads and that it was not necessary for me to do so. How ridiculous is that? LOL.

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mantaraye — Wed, 10 Aug 2016 18:41:40 GMT

@QueenDanceALot wrote:
@goldensrbest wrote:
There are certain posters that just seem so harsh, when they reply to peoples threads.
If someone is always harsh I figure they're just miserable people.

Once in awhile harsh and I guess they're having a tough day (or year)

That's why I don't post too often.

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chickenbutt — Wed, 10 Aug 2016 18:51:39 GMT

Hi Goldens! I hope that's not me, but I understand when sometimes people take me as being that way. I never grew up being coddled or even nurtured so I think I have more of a straight-forward way.

It's not meant to be offensive, however. I just tend to say what I'm thinking about the issue with no flowery-speak because I don't really relate to that. Plus, I hope that my actual words will be 'heard', because I like to help and will go right to the problem and say what I think might help, or give facts that are the answer to the question at hand.

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catwhisperer — Wed, 10 Aug 2016 18:58:49 GMT

@chickenbutt....I have never found your posts to sound harsh, rude, offensive, etc. You are honest, straight forward, and speak from your heart.

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nagrom — Wed, 10 Aug 2016 19:11:58 GMT

I may be guilty of this unintentionally. I believe in empowering women to be strong in their care and life. So many times women are treated as second class or worse because of our gender. I feel that a strong position will make us more respected and for others to hear what we are saying. Sometimes speaking about feelings makes us more vulnerable to those that are prone to dissing women.

If others talk about feelings,I like to give a perspective of empowering.

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Trinity11 — Wed, 10 Aug 2016 19:22:46 GMT

@goldensrbest wrote:
There are certain posters that just seem so harsh, when they reply to peoples threads.

I seriously believe not everyone is born with the empathy gene. The people lacking have no real clue how they come off sounding with some of their responses.

Just be happy that you have empathy and are aware....not everyone is. Clueless comes to mine.

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ECBG — Wed, 10 Aug 2016 19:25:46 GMT

@catwhisperer wrote:
I was recently scolded by a poster because she said I made the same comments on two different threads and that it was not necessary for me to do so. How ridiculous is that? LOL.

@catwhispererI saw that and I consider you one of our most valued posters. She, on the other hand, is absolutely hateful and enjoys confrontation.

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QueenDanceALot — Wed, 10 Aug 2016 19:28:58 GMT

@catwhisperer wrote:
I was recently scolded by a poster because she said I made the same comments on two different threads and that it was not necessary for me to do so. How ridiculous is that? LOL.

Some people should apply for board monitor jobs.

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catwhisperer — Wed, 10 Aug 2016 19:29:03 GMT

@ECBG wrote:
@catwhisperer wrote:
I was recently scolded by a poster because she said I made the same comments on two different threads and that it was not necessary for me to do so. How ridiculous is that? LOL.
@catwhispererI saw that and I consider you one of our most valued posters. She, on the other hand, is absolutely hateful and enjoys confrontation.

@ECBG....Why, thank you! That is very kind of you to say. Yes, that thread had to do with this very same topic.

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chickenbutt — Wed, 10 Aug 2016 19:29:52 GMT

Catwhisperer wrote:
@chickenbutt....I have never found your posts to sound harsh, rude, offensive, etc. You are honest, straight forward, and speak from your heart.

Thanks, Cat! That is very kind. I don't want to make it about me. But sometimes people have told me that I seem standoffish or even stuck up. Well, if I don't have anything to say, I'm not really that great at small talk and especially if I find myself in a room where I don't know anybody.

But those same people DID tell me that, after they got to know me, they didn't think that. They came to realize that I just didn't say much because either I didn't have much to say, or because I am very shy when I don't know the people in the room.

Also, generally speaking, I think that everybody doesn't necessarily come off to everybody in the same way in writing. If I give a curt response, it's not an attack or me being rude, but maybe it's just the response without the extraneous stuff. We all have our own way of speaking.

Are some folks just rude? Oh yeah! That usually makes itself abundantly obvious, though. Anything short of that I try to just think how they might not necessarily mean it the way it sounded to me in that moment.

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beckyb1012 — Wed, 10 Aug 2016 19:32:10 GMT

@Kalli wrote:
@goldensrbest wrote:
There are certain posters that just seem so harsh, when they reply to peoples threads.
Yeah, some people are just Cranky McCranksters.

Just ignore them and enjoy your conversations with the rest.

That sounds like a great title for a movie. The mean old next door neighbors.

There are some posters no matter what the topic politics to lollipops they will have nothing good to say about any of it. I just move on and feel bad for their miserable hearts and lives they must have.

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goldensrbest — Wed, 10 Aug 2016 19:37:43 GMT

@chickenbuttNo, not you i speak my mind also.

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Plaid Pants2 — Wed, 10 Aug 2016 19:42:38 GMT

Sometimes, no matter how gently or kindly you disagree with someone, they'll still cry and say that you were mean to them.

It's like they want to be coddled.

Some people only want this place to be a sugar and spice, and everything nice fantasy world, where nary a negative word is said.

That's not realistic because it isn't real life.

If someone is so delicate that they can't handle someone disagreeing with them, no matter how nicely and gently it's done, then maybe they shouldn't leave the house, or go on line, because real life is way harsher than this place ever is.