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I don't know if it's age, or just that I can reflect more now, but I don't seem to

qualitygal — Fri, 05 Aug 2016 10:12:02 GMT

be able to stick with stuff (many different things) the way I once did. I feel like I move on from some things if there doesn't feel like there's some results or end in sight. I'm a fairly patient person, but not a time waster. Is it possibly age, or a combo of things. I wonder if other women my age, feel this way. (I'm retired now). I really notice it now.

Any thoughts, or others who feel it too at this age? Just curious.

Re: I don't know if it's age, or just that I can reflect more now, but I don't seem to

Mominohio — Fri, 05 Aug 2016 10:36:05 GMT

Could it be that as we age, we figure out what we value spending our time on and what we don't (even if only subconsciously), then just follow through with the things that 'matter'?

And when we are retired (or just not working outside the home) we aren't on someone else's schedule and demands where we had to complete and follow through with things, because it was mandated/required for our job (or child raising, or caring for a parent etc.). Now, there is no mandate to see everything to an end, and we can much more easily just drop what isn't of interest to us or becomes 'too hard' simply because we can?

Re: I don't know if it's age, or just that I can reflect more now, but I don't seem to

qualitygal — Fri, 05 Aug 2016 11:54:09 GMT

@Mominohio, That's a great answer, thanks.

Re: I don't know if it's age, or just that I can reflect more now, but I don't seem to

Silver Fox1 — Fri, 05 Aug 2016 11:57:15 GMT

@Mominohio wrote:
Could it be that as we age, we figure out what we value spending our time on and what we don't (even if only subconsciously), then just follow through with the things that 'matter'?

And when we are retired (or just not working outside the home) we aren't on someone else's schedule and demands where we had to complete and follow through with things, because it was mandated/required for our job (or child raising, or caring for a parent etc.). Now, there is no mandate to see everything to an end, and we can much more easily just drop what isn't of interest to us or becomes 'too hard' simply because we can?

This is the BEST way I have ever heard it put - I thank you to !!!!

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ROMARY — Fri, 05 Aug 2016 13:01:23 GMT

Yes! Cursive as a Morse Code. Great idea!

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Kitlynn — Fri, 05 Aug 2016 13:04:44 GMT

I think when we retire we give ourselves permission to try different things we think might interest us and then if they don't or we don't really enjoy doing them we just go to something else. I call it the age of discovery! We are trying to discover what we really enjoy or might be good at. When we are working we don't have time for experimenting with a lot of different things and we are usually on a schedule so we just have to do the things we need to get finished and move ahead. Retirement is for fun and exploring!

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willdob3 — Fri, 05 Aug 2016 13:26:49 GMT

I'm not retired yet & I don't have trouble sticking to things I start but I am a lot more picky about what I do start. I think it is a very good thing. I absolutely love the wisdom and common sense that I've gained with age.

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tedEbear — Fri, 05 Aug 2016 14:11:06 GMT

@willdob3--Remember what you are saying on this day! Write it down, date it, then sign and put in sealed envelope marked to open 1 yr after retiring. See if you still feel the same way. You could then redate put away again. Just as a silly to see if you are still in the mindset. ---tedEbear

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151949 — Fri, 05 Aug 2016 14:52:39 GMT

Generally, I do not start anything like a sewing project or a furniture refinishing project unless I intend to finish it. There are rare occasions where that doesn't happen - sometimes I take on something that is too difficult for me or as it is proceeding I can see that I don't like how it is turning out, and I'll feel discouraged. I will then usually try to get help from someone so I can get it finished. I don't think getting older has anything to do with it though.

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LilacTree — Fri, 05 Aug 2016 15:08:46 GMT

My interpretation of the word "reflect" doesn't match any of the responses, so my answer would not fit in with this thread.

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StylishLady — Fri, 05 Aug 2016 15:10:35 GMT

"Some day we old folks will use cursive writing as a secret code."

I laughed. A funny thought indeed. As I look down to the end of the road, I pay more attention to family. I also immerse myself in my gardens and keeping them fresh and good looking. I try to do the same for myself, and do my best to look good when I go out.

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Tinkrbl44 — Fri, 05 Aug 2016 17:44:55 GMT

When I left the corporate world and became self employed, I found that I would then often ask myself "Is this the best use of my time?".

There's nothing wrong with re-prioritizing .... even several times a day. Your time is yours to spend as you like. What a wonderful luxury!

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chrystaltree — Fri, 05 Aug 2016 19:43:44 GMT

I'm 56, no where near retirement age. But I find that the older I get, the more patient and the since I am more patient, I stay with things longer. That might be because I know myself better now and I don't start projects that I know won't work for me. Regardless of much I want them to work. I anything related to crafts. I would so very much like to be artistic. And I have tried! Boy oh boy, I have tried....lol I would start and never finish and move on to something else "artsy". Not now. Now, I accept that I'm just not into it.

Re: I don't know if it's age, or just that I can reflect more now, but I don't seem to

chickenbutt — Fri, 05 Aug 2016 19:51:40 GMT

QualityGal wrote:
be able to stick with stuff (many different things) the way I once did. I feel like I move on from some things if there doesn't feel like there's some results or end in sight. I'm a fairly patient person, but not a time waster. Is it possibly age, or a combo of things. I wonder if other women my age, feel this way. (I'm retired now). I really notice it now.

Any thoughts, or others who feel it too at this age? Just curious.

Oh wow! Honestly, I don't think I could add a thing to that. I could have made your exact post.

I've recently been getting there and, like you, I was fairly patient before. Now I find myself often emotionally turning off to something in a hot second and I'm done - over and out.

I think it might be my age and maybe a little of just being weary. I'm weary, in that I don't see anything good ahead of me. When you're younger you have a broader spectrum of 'things' to look forward to, to work toward, etc. At some point I realized that I have nothing but to just get up each day and do all the exact things over and over.