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At what point do you cancel a get-together?

house_cat — Thu, 21 Jul 2016 00:08:59 GMT

I give a luncheon at my house every year before school starts.

A handful of my closest coworkers attend. It's a lot of work to prepare, but I do it happily because my friends appreciate it. Usually there are 6 or 7 of us. This year, for lots of reasons, we are having a hard time finding a date that is agreeable to all of us. I just found out today that out of the 6 invited, only 3 can attend, possibly only 2.

I'm wondering at what point is it reasonable to cancel, or is it never acceptable?

Any thoughts?

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SaRina — Thu, 21 Jul 2016 00:13:07 GMT

I don't see any problem in cancelling for the reason that the group isn't in sync about the date, but what's wrong with meeting up with just 2 or 3? Is it uncomfortable without the whole crowd? Couldn't you just go out for lunch?

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luv-the-Q — Thu, 21 Jul 2016 00:13:33 GMT

I think when you get too tired and it becomes more work than fun. If two can come and you still enjoy doing it then go for it. It'll be just as much fun for you and for them.

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IMW — Thu, 21 Jul 2016 00:14:26 GMT

When the hassle of doing it outweighs the benefits you receive.

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house_cat — Thu, 21 Jul 2016 00:16:18 GMT

@SaRina wrote:
I don't see any problem in cancelling for the reason that the group isn't in sync about the date, but what's wrong with meeting up with just 2 or 3? Is it uncomfortable without the whole crowd? Couldn't you just go out for lunch?

The reason we get together, aside from being friends, is to touch-base and discuss the upcoming school year. It makes sense when we are all there. If it's just the three of us, it would be a nice gathering, but wouldn't serve the same purpose.

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lulu2 — Thu, 21 Jul 2016 00:16:59 GMT

It would depend who was still coming. If the 2 coming were my closest colleagues, I'd still have them over. If the 2 or 3 coming were not all that close to me, I'd cancel the luncheon.

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Kitlynn — Thu, 21 Jul 2016 00:19:03 GMT

It might be a good idea to cancel this year and let everyone know it is because of conflicts with scheduling. If only two or three can come maybe you could meet at a restaurant for dinner and just enjoy not having to cook and plan this year. Sometimes things just sort of run their course and it becomes time to change things up a bit.

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gmkb — Thu, 21 Jul 2016 00:21:07 GMT

Sounds like it might be an idea that has outgrown its usefulness.

I would cancel now with the explanation that because of the difficulty of finding a suitable date for all, it will be necessary to cancel this year's luncheon. That is what I would do.

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september — Thu, 21 Jul 2016 00:21:13 GMT

I like the idea of just having those who are free, go out for lunch. You can still discuss the upcoming year and send some notes to those who couldn't be there.

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VanSleepy — Thu, 21 Jul 2016 00:24:59 GMT

How did you pick this date? Was it the best date for you or was it the date when the most people were available? If it was the date that you, the hostess, preferred, then go ahead with it if you want to. If there was another date you could have done when 2 or 3 other people could have attended, it gets sticky lol

Edited to say that I hadn't seen your post about it being a meeting of sorts

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MyShadowLove — Thu, 21 Jul 2016 00:21:45 GMT

Why not just have it with those who can attend and enjoy your time together, regardless of how many there are!...You can also plan to go out to a restaurant if you would like.

Talk it over with the ones who will be coming and take it from there.

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missy1 — Thu, 21 Jul 2016 00:21:50 GMT

Can't you discuss school, on school time. Seems like you would want to have girl time, instead.

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LdyBugz — Thu, 21 Jul 2016 00:24:12 GMT

I'm not clear why you would cancel if only a couple can attend. I would think that the ones that can attend would be offended if you cancelled because the others can't make it. If it were me, I would still host the annual party and have fun with it. Besides, you never know if some one has a sudden change in plans and finds that they will be able to join after all.

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homedecor1 — Thu, 21 Jul 2016 00:25:53 GMT

I host every a party between TGiving & Christmas because most of our friends leave by 12/18 to go to be with family for Christmas.

other times during the year I host a card group dinner and then it's 10 ladies.

I never cancel or re-arrange my date selected to accommodate a few. If they can't come oh well I enjoy the ones who can (I just adjust my menu for the # of guests)

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house_cat — Thu, 21 Jul 2016 00:28:44 GMT

@VanSleepy

It started out everyone could attend on this day, then life happened - one is going out of town to visit kids, another has a family obligation.. and so on. There really is no good day to do it.

THANK YOU all who responded. I was already leaning towards canceling. All of your responses made perfect sense.

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colliegirls — Thu, 21 Jul 2016 00:29:31 GMT

Would breakfast or a dinner be better for the group? Even meet at Starbucks!

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house_cat — Thu, 21 Jul 2016 00:30:45 GMT

@missy1 wrote:
Can't you discuss school, on school time. Seems like you would want to have girl time, instead.

It's both.

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catwhisperer — Thu, 21 Jul 2016 00:37:53 GMT

@house_cat....even if it's only two or three of you and you want to have a get together, I say go for it.

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sunshine45 — Thu, 21 Jul 2016 01:33:07 GMT

i would not cancel the luncheon. chances are that the remaining 2 or 3 are looking forward to it....."the calm before the storm" so to speak. if you are friendly with them then i see no reason to cancel, and it will be even easier on you to prepare for 3. set the date and enjoy the company.