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When did you learn about.......the birds & the bees

YorkieonmyPillow — Mon, 27 Jun 2016 14:35:03 GMT

When and where did you find out the shocking truth about the birds and the bees?

I think this could be discussed without getting too graphic.

Did your parents tell you?

I was in about fifth grade when I heard the whole story - my maternal unit didn't tell me anything of course - I heard it at school.

Anyway, I was shocked and rather perplexed.

Later on that year, there was a rumor going around school that one of my schoolmates was expecting a little of puppies!

The funny thing was, I didn't know whether to believe it or not!!!! LOLOL

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jaxs mom — Mon, 27 Jun 2016 14:36:57 GMT

I don't remember a time of not knowing.

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NativeJax — Mon, 27 Jun 2016 14:38:40 GMT

I think I was about 8 and I asked some questions, my mother bought a book called "what's happening to me?". It explained it in terms a child could understand and I don't recall it shocking me or anything. My mother was a nurse so she always discussed openly any questions we had about our bodies. She used it as an opportunity to teach if we had questions.

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traveler — Mon, 27 Jun 2016 14:40:07 GMT

I lived on a farm and it was kind of obvious. But the official "people" version was probably in 5th grade biology. Just the facts, ma'am.

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QVCkitty1 — Mon, 27 Jun 2016 14:41:11 GMT

I honestly don't remember how old I was, but an older girl filled me in. I didn' quite believe her, ( LOL) , so I asked my mom and she confirmed the basics. My mom was great.

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songbird — Mon, 27 Jun 2016 14:44:06 GMT

I always seemed to know. It was never a shock, confusion. I was more curious about animals like dogs & cats. They would get pregnent with each mating. Over & over. They could get pregnant while they were already pregnant. In theory produce 10 kittens all from 10 fathers. I remember asking my mother why humans did not operate like that. She said humans don't need that form of survival. We had brains.

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YorkieonmyPillow — Mon, 27 Jun 2016 14:44:07 GMT

I remember my exact thought; "Why would anybody want to do that?"

I was very puzzled by the entire thing.

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Desertdi — Mon, 27 Jun 2016 14:47:44 GMT

OMG...........I come from a repressed "Victorian" family.........they wouldn't even acknowledge there IS such a thing as "birds & bees"................

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Plaid Pants2 — Mon, 27 Jun 2016 14:48:12 GMT

As I recall, I think I was in the 5th grade, and a schoolmate told me to go up to the luch lady and ask her what a certain hand gesture ment. With one hand make a circle with the thumb and forefinger, and then take the forefinger of the other hand and insert it into the circle.

I did, and the shocked lunch lady told me to go home and ask my mother.

I did.

She told me all about the facts of life, male parts, female parts, periods,tampons, pads, pregnancies, and how to prevent them, and, she even showed me what a profolatic looks like, and how it is applied.

Afterwards, I thought that they made very neat balloons! *lol*

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jubilant — Mon, 27 Jun 2016 14:53:12 GMT

@YorkieonmyPillow wrote:
I remember my exact thought; "Why would anybody want to do that?"
I was very puzzled by the entire thing.

*********** LOL.... I thought the same thing. It was the 5th or 6th grade and kids were talking about animals mating. One kid said that people did the same thing. I went home and asked mom if it was true and she said "yes....but only after you are married". Remember this was the 50's! I told her.... "then I'm NEVER getting married"!

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qbetzforreal — Mon, 27 Jun 2016 14:53:57 GMT

School- the S@x Ed class

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depglass — Mon, 27 Jun 2016 14:55:53 GMT

I remember it vividly. A girlfriend and I were walking down the sidewalk in the fifth grade. She told me the scoop and said if the woman wants a baby and the husband doesn't, she can do it to him when he's sleeping.

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DoneTryin — Mon, 27 Jun 2016 14:56:55 GMT

Think back to the mid-50s: When I was about 7 mom told me about what happens with girls in their early teens, but it was vague & confusing & I really didn't understand. A couple of years later, in a different city, older neighbor kids told it rather crudely, with euphemisms. My first thought was, "MY parents don't do that." Couple years after that, in another city/neighborhood, the girls in my sixth-grade class & I were sent to the school cafeteria to see "the movie." The adults taped black construction paper to the doors' windows so the boys couldn't peek in. THEY got an extra recess that day! Naturally, they were wildly curious about what was going on, but we girls wouldn't tell them.

All-in-all, terrible ways of learning about such important biology!

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YorkieonmyPillow — Mon, 27 Jun 2016 15:01:53 GMT

My mother never told me ANYTHING - which is good, because she had such a negative attitude about it, whatever she would've told me would've been useless and I doubt she even knew enough herself to tell me much of anything as she considered it "nasty."

UGH.

When the time came she did hand me a little pamphlet.

I asked her one time what ovaries were - she said, "I'll tell you later." She never did.

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Meowingkitty — Mon, 27 Jun 2016 15:06:56 GMT

I found out about it through school and friends. My mother was so shy and meek that she never told me anything. That was something (among others) that she could never talk about. I had to find our about it on my own. I was so clueless I thought once you got married God did something to your insides and bam, you could now have a baby. Stupid I know.

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Preds — Mon, 27 Jun 2016 15:07:02 GMT

I have no clue, but when I came home and tried to ask questions my mother told me I'd find out about that stuff when I got married. LOL Nope ... went and asked my dad. He tried his best to explain and I finally let him off the hook by telling him it was okay and that I had learned in school. My poor dad. He never let me down.

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athenian — Mon, 27 Jun 2016 15:07:27 GMT

I heard in 4th grade from 5th grade boys. I think the words were hot dog and bun. This didn't make sense, so I went home asked my mother as she was getting dressed for a dinner party. Bless her, she got shirt cardboards and pens and explained and illustrated. I'm sure it was the last thing she wanted to discuss at that moment.

(Does anybody else remember shirt cardboards? My dad traveled, and sent his shirts to the laundry, and they came back neatly folded around a piece of cardboard, which made them easy to pack. Those cardboards were my art and craft paper.)

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151949 — Mon, 27 Jun 2016 15:07:54 GMT

I grew up on a farm so knew the basics - had seen many baby animals born and when the mating was going on my Mom would tell us the male was putting the baby in there for her.

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DoneTryin — Mon, 27 Jun 2016 15:09:37 GMT

@Meowingkitty wrote:
I found out about it through school and friends. My mother was so shy and meek that she never told me anything. That was something (among others) that she could never talk about. I had to find our about it on my own.

Yikes! This kind of reminded me of the Stephen King novel "Carrie". My mom wasn't shy or meek, but she was very embarrassed about all of it. I can only guess how little good info she got as a young girl, if any at all.

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Trinity11 — Mon, 27 Jun 2016 15:13:52 GMT

I was probably around 8 when my mom explained to me the difference between girls and boys. She was way ahead of her time and was very comfortable telling me about the birds and the bees. Myself, I was pretty naive and not really all that interested....wanting to get back to playing Tiddly Winks. LOL.