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CANCELLED WEDDING

Spinach2 — Thu, 23 Jun 2016 21:37:41 GMT

A good friend of mine was supposed to get married this coming Saturday. She just cancelled the wedding. Her fiance chickened out and does not want to get married. She had her dress, beautiful venue, food, etc. all planned. No refunds. Know anyone that has happened to? I knew one other person but the wedding was cancelled months before the wedding not a few days before. By the way, I'm not new to the forum. I had to re-register for some reason.

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hoosieroriginal — Thu, 23 Jun 2016 21:41:56 GMT

Wow - so sad for her - but you know, if he acted this way before the wedding - it was probably for the best - who knows how he would have treated her after the marriage! She should go ahead with the celebration - have her bridesmaids throw paint on her dress, dance, sing and have a ball! What a better party with all your friends?

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Bird mama — Thu, 23 Jun 2016 21:42:13 GMT

Wow, what a lousy thing to happen. So sorry for your friend.

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Mustang Shar — Thu, 23 Jun 2016 21:44:41 GMT

Oh that's sad!! Hope she gets him to pay for the expenses!

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MickD — Thu, 23 Jun 2016 21:43:42 GMT

She needs to go through with her new found single-hood and celebrate with her friends and family at the venue. She has nothing to be ashamed of. Thanks gawd she found out now instead of months or years later!

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Pearlee — Thu, 23 Jun 2016 21:43:54 GMT

@Spinach2 Yes, I know someone. I used to spend a lot of time with a man whom I suspected was gay. I also suspected he was in denial about it, but he seemed to hang out only with women who were "safe" (i.e. I am much older than he is, and he hung out with a married woman also we worked with). This is not by any means the only reason I thought he was probably gay - there were many reasons.

Well, he started dating a very nice young woman and got engaged to her, much to my surprise. I was invited to the wedding. About a week before it, he called me (he called the list of his invitees and she called her list) to tell me his fiancee had called off the wedding. I thought "that was one of the best decisions she'll ever make." My friend remains unmarried and this wedding would have taken place maybe 15 yrs. ago. I hope he has also come to gripes with some things about himself, but we aren't in touch any more other than occasionally running into each other at a supermarket.

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tansy — Thu, 23 Jun 2016 21:45:04 GMT

Cheaper than a divorce later but that doesn't take away the immediate heartbreak.

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hckynut — Thu, 23 Jun 2016 21:45:20 GMT

What was your previous nic?

hnj

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Spinach2 — Thu, 23 Jun 2016 21:46:44 GMT

@hckynut wrote:

What was your previous nic?

hnj

Spinach - LOL

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colliegirls — Thu, 23 Jun 2016 21:51:47 GMT

It happened to my friend's daughter. Cancelled about 1-2 weeks before the EXTRAVAGANT wedding and the bride was pregnant. Eventually got back together and married after the baby was born. Not long afterward they divorced. OY!

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Mz iMac — Thu, 23 Jun 2016 21:51:59 GMT

Magic Johnson stood up his current wify, Cookie 3xs at the altar.

The first 2xs was the NIGHT before the wedding. The 3rd time was the day of the wedding.

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My cousin cancelled her wedding AFTER all us bridesmaid spent $$$$$ on our dresses 2 weeks before the wedding. To this day, no one knows why the wedding was cancelled. The rumor in the family is that the groom wanted her to sign a pre-nuptual agreement.

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Spinach2 — Thu, 23 Jun 2016 21:53:02 GMT

@colliegirls wrote:
It happened to my friend's daughter. Cancelled about 1-2 weeks before the EXTRAVAGANT wedding and the bride was pregnant. Eventually got back together and married after the baby was born. Not long afterward they divorced. OY!

Oh my goodness! Sorry to hear that!

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alliswell — Thu, 23 Jun 2016 21:54:37 GMT

It's definitely an awkward situation.

But it may prove to be a "blessing in disguise."

As @hoosieroriginal said, . . . "celebrate anyway."

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hckynut — Thu, 23 Jun 2016 21:54:01 GMT

@Spinach2 wrote:
@hckynut wrote:

What was your previous nic?

hnj

Spinach - LOL

Tells me all I need to know.

hnj

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Spinach2 — Thu, 23 Jun 2016 21:54:51 GMT

@Mz iMac wrote:
Magic Johnson stood up his current wify, Cookie 3xs at the altar.

The first 2xs was the NIGHT before the wedding. The 3rd time was the day of the wedding.

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My cousin cancelled her wedding AFTER all us bridesmaid spent $$$$$ on our dresses 2 weeks before the wedding. To this day, no one knows why the wedding was cancelled. The rumor in the family is that the groom wanted her to sign a pre-nuptual agreement.

At least if he did as for a pre-nup it was the night before the wedding, which happened to my sister-in-law. She didn't sign it and they married but the marriage crumbled.

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Anniecamp — Thu, 23 Jun 2016 21:56:33 GMT

I'm sure the bride doesn't quite know what to do at this point. Since these things cost thousands, I would definately have the guests come to a party!

No way would let it go to waste! Once the initial awkwardness is past, all

could have a great time. People can wear what they want to, and the bridesmaids can, as well.

As for the gown, I would sell it.

Sure, still a lot of money down the tubes, but at least the reception money would still be used. I would even have the cake cut up and served, but maybe that's just me. Wedding cakes cost hundreds of dollars these days.

The bride can hold her head high, these things happen.

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MomCat — Thu, 23 Jun 2016 21:57:08 GMT

I don't know anyone like this, but I sure know a couple of people who probably wished it would have happened rather than having to divorce shortly after the wedding.

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Spinach2 — Thu, 23 Jun 2016 21:59:13 GMT

@Anniecamp wrote:
I'm sure the bride doesn't quite know what to do at this point. Since these things cost thousands, I would definately have the guests come to a party!
No way would let it go to waste! Once the initial awkwardness is past, all
could have a great time. People can wear what they want to, and the bridesmaids can, as well.

As for the gown, I would sell it.

Sure, still a lot of money down the tubes, but at least the reception money would still be used. I would even have the cake cut up and served, but maybe that's just me. Wedding cakes cost hundreds of dollars these days.

The bride can hold her head high, these things happen.

She's already sent out emails cancelling the wedding.

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GCR18 — Thu, 23 Jun 2016 22:01:32 GMT

I'm sure it's difficult to go through, but it's better than marrying and divorcing.

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Q4u — Thu, 23 Jun 2016 22:02:24 GMT

That's just awful..... I believe that whomever got stuck with the bill for all that should send half of the bill to the ~~bum~~ guy..... seems only fair.