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Do you admit when you're wrong?

Mellie32 — Wed, 15 Jun 2016 03:48:49 GMT

Are you a person who immediately admits that you were wrong or do you find it hard to do? I know someone who will swear up and down one thing, but when proven wrong she will never say she was wrong. It's some sort of pride thing, I guess.

What do you all think?

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Sooner — Wed, 15 Jun 2016 03:54:33 GMT

Absolutely I do! I'm certainly not too big to admit when I'm wrong. I would feel very bad about myself if I didn't.

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IamMrsG — Wed, 15 Jun 2016 03:55:33 GMT

I'll let you know ~~when~~ if it happens.

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itiswhatitis — Wed, 15 Jun 2016 03:57:57 GMT

@Mellie32 wrote:
Are you a person who immediately admits that you were wrong or do you find it hard to do? I know someone who will swear up and down one thing, but when proven wrong she will never say she was wrong. It's some sort of pride thing, I guess.

What do you all think?

Many people will never admit when they are wrong. Even when they are on a forum such as this (where no one knows them). I will admit when I am wrong (if it is proven) that I am wrong. You have to show me in the face of facts I'm not aware of and then I'll admit. I do this because I want to learn too.

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MrsSweetieBear — Wed, 15 Jun 2016 04:02:20 GMT

"When I'm wrong, I say I'm wrong".

"I carried a watermelon"

"No one puts Baby in the corner."

Oh wait, woops this isn't the Quote thread...

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ECBG — Wed, 15 Jun 2016 04:13:34 GMT

I'm never wrong! Just ask my husband!!!

(I feel sorry for someone who can't admit the truth.)

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Desertdi — Wed, 15 Jun 2016 04:19:05 GMT

Most times, it's a matter of opinion.......and that's why we have lawyers and courts of law...................

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gabstoomuch — Wed, 15 Jun 2016 04:27:23 GMT

Oh heck, I admit I am wrong even when I didn't do anything !!

Yes, I always admit when I am wrong. I don't mind being wrong. I usually learn something when I do.

I don't have much patience for "right fighters". I just walk away from right fighting, waste of energy.

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Mellie32 — Wed, 15 Jun 2016 04:32:16 GMT

I'm usually pretty good at saying that I'm wrong. I guess it depends on who I am arguing with.

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shoekitty — Wed, 15 Jun 2016 04:35:13 GMT

I am one of those people who thinks carefully before speaking. As a rule, lol! If I am not sure about something I tell whom ever I am speaking with, "I am not sure",,,, If I am wrong about something I am pretty quick to own up. I am not prideful that way. However, I can be persnickity when I know I am right, I do not give in easy if the other person will not let up. LOL! It is usually my husband/

I don't know why, but the last few years I have this almost photo-memory thing. I remember great detail, dates, even clothes myself or other were wearing. I worked in a museum as co-ordinatoer for years, and did tons of geneology and tours. I could run up the dates, marriages, biths , etc of founding fathers. What is that about?? I sort of scare myself. I was hoping it wasn't some brain disease or something, hahahahaha, lol!

I always vetted info, so when I spoke I was pretty darn sure it was the truth, But who knows.

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AKgirl2 — Wed, 15 Jun 2016 04:50:01 GMT

I sure do, especially if it feels wrong I,mediatelynafter the last word leaves my lips...usually, I appreciate being "proven" wrong😁

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NycVixen — Wed, 15 Jun 2016 04:59:51 GMT

I strongly believe that people that have a hard time admitting they are wrong do a huge disservice to themselves. Everyone makes mistakes and/or is wrong from time to time.

If you cannot admit when you're wrong, you cannot learn from your mistakes and grow.

If you believe you're never wrong, you won't feel the need to seek knowledge and learning to improve and become wiser. I truly believe that learning never ends; there never comes a time IMO when we know everything about anything.

Therefore, this type of mindset leads to stagnation as well as resentment from those that you wrong yet cannot apologize to.

Being able to admit when you're wrong takes courage and humility. I consider it an act of kindness to yourself and to others. It allows self-actualization and for the betterment of society.

It also may avoid negative consequences if the mistake is admitted on a timely basis. Pride, ego and saving face I'm certain can be attributed to many tragedies. Hubris is not a good adviser.

As a reasonable person, I have no problem admitting when I'm wrong when presented with a good argument to the contrary. I'd rather be wrong about how to approach a problem etc. and stand corrected than to keep moving in the wrong direction.

However, as a researcher, I can admit when I don't know enough about a subject but I find that many people simply have a hard time doing so.

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Alsee — Wed, 15 Jun 2016 04:53:34 GMT

I can't answer that - it's never happened

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hckynut — Wed, 15 Jun 2016 05:44:05 GMT

@Mellie32 wrote:
Are you a person who immediately admits that you were wrong or do you find it hard to do? I know someone who will swear up and down one thing, but when proven wrong she will never say she was wrong. It's some sort of pride thing, I guess.

What do you all think?

You putting the word "immediately" into your question seems misplaced to me. If someone knows "immediately" that they were wrong? I see them as lying, not wrong.

Been wrong about lots of things, but some took quite some time to prove to myself, I was indeed wrong. Sure, I will admit when I am wrong, but many times being wrong does not necessarily mean another person was involved.

I tell myself, "hey man, you missed that one", and try to be right the next time. Spent a lot of time in my 30+ years as an on ice hockey referee saying: "my fault, I blew that call". Have no problem admitting that I was/am wrong.

hnj

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daisyk — Wed, 15 Jun 2016 06:17:08 GMT

Generally I have no problem admitting I was wrong if I feel that I was. My mom was one of those people who would never admit to being wrong. Maybe she never felt she was- I can be stubborn depending on the situation, but I will usually speak up and say I was wrong if I was.

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Kachina624 — Wed, 15 Jun 2016 06:24:01 GMT

I have no trouble at all admitting I'm wrong. It happened once, in 1974.

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AngelPuppy1 — Wed, 15 Jun 2016 09:57:15 GMT

I do. And I think things would go much more smoothly if more people would. It's not like it's fun to be wrong and to admit that you are. But I really can't not do it and feel good about myself.

I have several people in my family and several people as friends (well, at least I did), who refuse(d) to admit they are wrong. They will not say so and will not apologize no matter what and no matter what evidence is presented to them. They also do not seem to care how much they upset you by it.

I think this shows lack of regard for other people and that you don't feel other people are as intelligent as you are.

I gave up trying to make my point with any of the people mentioned above because I found that I got no where and ended up beyond frustrated and upset. It's like --- o.k. - you're right, you're right -- you'll always be right no matter what. Are you happy now???

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goldensrbest — Wed, 15 Jun 2016 10:21:04 GMT

Hey ,i am human, yes i admit i am wrong, but know people that will not, don't understand that.

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jubilant — Wed, 15 Jun 2016 10:31:23 GMT

Yep, I do. I will never admit to wrong, however, if I think I am right. To me that is lying.

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Mary Bailey — Wed, 15 Jun 2016 10:44:32 GMT

My dear departed Dad used to say "I thought I was wrong once, but I was mistaken"

truthfully yes, I admit it.