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Friend turned MK representative-not the same.

pegsue — Tue, 07 Jun 2016 20:03:20 GMT

One of my friends/neighbors announced 5 days ago she is now a MK consultant and since then she is not the same person. She acts different, talks different. In those last 5 days she has contacted me every single day to "help her meet her goal of...." as well as her manager has contacted me. I have been asked to sit and listen for 15 minutes about how I can too be a MK rep (not interested at all but I did that to help) and to go to meetings to help her attain goal X (no) and to get a facial for her training to reach goal X (to which I said no). Anyone who knows me knows that I do not go to or have those parties, they also know that I am loving the skincare I have been using for years and no interest in changing and they also know I would never want to be any kind of consultant for any of those types of home businesses. Ever. On one hand she says not to feel obligated but on the other hand when I tell her no it's like she just ignores me. She wanted me to go to a meeting w/her tonight after work that is held over an hour away from my house. I told her no the first time she mentioned it and yet she texts me to let me know what time, etc. and that she will be doing a facial on me as well! O M G. I again told her that I was not going, that I felt it was best for her to take someone w/her who is interested in MK and that I am not and that she already knows I am not interested in the product. And she keeps coming back w/this help me reach my goal of......I saw the boxes of MK delivered to her house-they were stacked up and almost as tall as her-she's about 5"5"! This is not how she would normally act towards me. She is a smart, pretty lady. I do wish the best for her in this endeavor but I'm afraid that this will strain and/or end our friendship. Any suggestions on how I can keep that from happening?

Re: Friend turned MK representative-not the same.

chickenbutt — Tue, 07 Jun 2016 20:05:14 GMT

Sorry I couldn't read the entire post because it's all smooshed together in one paragraph, but as to the thread title and first sentences - Yeah, MK is like a lot of pyramid scheme type businesses in that it's pretty cultish. That's how they keep people buying as much as possible.

Re: Friend turned MK representative-not the same.

hoosieroriginal — Tue, 07 Jun 2016 20:09:37 GMT

As WendyWilliams would say "Use your pinky finger" and tell her you don't appreciate being pressured by her sales tactics and that you miss her as a FRIEND.

Re: Friend turned MK representative-not the same.

qualitygal — Tue, 07 Jun 2016 20:15:22 GMT

Just say, "I want to remain a good friend, however, I can't do MK stuff with you, so other than that, I'm sure you understand." If she starts in on MK blah blah blah, just say, see, that's what I mean, that's the stuff. Walk away. She can either call to you and apologize and say ok to your terms, or not. JMHO

Re: Friend turned MK representative-not the same.

deepwaterdotter — Tue, 07 Jun 2016 20:17:53 GMT

Your friend sounds kind of scary.

Re: Friend turned MK representative-not the same.

Mz iMac — Tue, 07 Jun 2016 20:18:51 GMT

What or who is MK? Mary Kay?

Re: Friend turned MK representative-not the same.

MacDUFF — Tue, 07 Jun 2016 20:19:46 GMT

Every time she pressures you, tell her how concerned you are about her association with MK and refer her to either the 2012 Forbes article entitled Mary Kay Preys on Women or to the pink truth site. Your friend's recruiter/sales director will recoil in horror and may tell your friend to leave you alone. Your friend is being put under tremendous pressure and I feel for her. Is she in dire straits that she needs the $$?

Re: Friend turned MK representative-not the same.

jaxs mom — Tue, 07 Jun 2016 20:21:18 GMT

What is MK? I don't think it's Michael Kors. I didn't think Mary Kay was even still around.

Re: Friend turned MK representative-not the same.

Kachina624 — Tue, 07 Jun 2016 20:24:16 GMT

If you say "yes" once, which you already did, she'll take that as a green light and bug you forever. You must be more emphatic. Apparently she's reading your voice to mean "maybe". Don't waver.

Re: Friend turned MK representative-not the same.

QVCkitty1 — Tue, 07 Jun 2016 20:24:33 GMT

I remember years ago my best friend at the time, was taken in by Amway. I thought I would help her by purchasing some things, however when I asked how much each item cost, she wouldn't tell me. I guess that it was part of the deal, cost is not important because the product is so superior, blah, blah , blah. II told her price was important to me, and I wouldn't buy without knowing. It took awhile but the spell wore off, and she and Amway parted company.

Re: Friend turned MK representative-not the same.

jaxs mom — Tue, 07 Jun 2016 20:28:41 GMT

@QVCkitty1 wrote:
I remember years ago my best friend at the time, was taken in by Amway. I thought I would help her by purchasing some things, however when I asked how much each item cost, she wouldn't tell me. I guess that it was part of the deal, cost is not important because the product is so superior, blah, blah , blah. II told her price was important to me, and I wouldn't buy without knowing. It took awhile but the spell wore off, and she and Amway parted company.

How are you supposed to pay for it, if you don't know what it costs?

Re: Friend turned MK representative-not the same.

missy1 — Tue, 07 Jun 2016 20:29:34 GMT

Tell her you are allergic to it.

I don't know anyone who sells this, anymore.

Back in the day there was some good products.

My friend fell for being a rep and buying their starter kit. She didn't make any money, or get the pink car.

Re: Friend turned MK representative-not the same.

sidsmom — Tue, 07 Jun 2016 20:32:42 GMT

@pegsue wrote:
Anyone who knows me knows that I do not go to or have those parties, they also know that I am loving the skincare I have been using for years and no interest in changing and they also know I would never want to be any kind of consultant for any of those types of home businesses. Ever. On one hand she says not to feel obligated but on the other hand when I tell her no it's like she just ignores me.

Pssst....she's not your friend.

If she did say that, it's obvious it's a friend of convenience.

In your own words it's clear she's not your friend:

"Anyone who knows me": She doesn't....she's not your friend

Other tell-tale signs:

"I do not go to or have those parties": She's not your friend

"I am loving the skincare I have been using": She not your friend

"no interest in changing": She's not your friend

"I would never want to be any kind of consultant": She's not your friend

And if 'she just ignores me"....Pssst....she's not your friend.

Remember, the 'ignoring' part is a projection placed upon her.

She probably hasn't given your response a second thought.

Just say no 'thank you' & release it.

Re: Friend turned MK representative-not the same.

Mz iMac — Tue, 07 Jun 2016 20:34:15 GMT

@missy1 wrote:
Tell her you are allergic to it.

I don't know anyone who sells this, anymore.

Back in the day there was some good products.

My friend fell for being a rep and buying their starter kit. She didn't make any money, or get the pink car.

Not just any car either. A pink Caddy!

Re: Friend turned MK representative-not the same.

Q4u — Tue, 07 Jun 2016 20:36:18 GMT

This is (and has been) a deal breaker for me personally. I have actually told a friend what a wonderful person she was but our friendship had to be suspended until she could separate herself from her new "business" around me because it was driving me nuts. I was just not interested in what she was selling and I wasn't going to buy something I had no interest in just based on our friendship... I would NOT do that to her!

Of course I never expect to hear from her again (and I'm sorry for that) but how much worse was my leveling with her than her own constant pitch and pressure for me to buy the product whether I liked it or not?? She was offended...... and I can't help that.

Sad.

Re: Friend turned MK representative-not the same.

Mj12 — Tue, 07 Jun 2016 20:36:32 GMT

@pegsue wrote:
One of my friends/neighbors announced 5 days ago she is now a MK consultant and since then she is not the same person. She acts different, talks different. In those last 5 days she has contacted me every single day to "help her meet her goal of...." as well as her manager has contacted me. I have been asked to sit and listen for 15 minutes about how I can too be a MK rep (not interested at all but I did that to help) and to go to meetings to help her attain goal X (no) and to get a facial for her training to reach goal X (to which I said no). Anyone who knows me knows that I do not go to or have those parties, they also know that I am loving the skincare I have been using for years and no interest in changing and they also know I would never want to be any kind of consultant for any of those types of home businesses. Ever. On one hand she says not to feel obligated but on the other hand when I tell her no it's like she just ignores me. She wanted me to go to a meeting w/her tonight after work that is held over an hour away from my house. I told her no the first time she mentioned it and yet she texts me to let me know what time, etc. and that she will be doing a facial on me as well! O M G. I again told her that I was not going, that I felt it was best for her to take someone w/her who is interested in MK and that I am not and that she already knows I am not interested in the product. And she keeps coming back w/this help me reach my goal of......I saw the boxes of MK delivered to her house-they were stacked up and almost as tall as her-she's about 5"5"! This is not how she would normally act towards me. She is a smart, pretty lady. I do wish the best for her in this endeavor but I'm afraid that this will strain and/or end our friendship. Any suggestions on how I can keep that from happening?

Don't most if not all of these kinds of salespeople say that? "No one is ever obligated, just friends getting together to chat." So annoying. How good a friend is she otherwise? You may want to cut ties with her. o/t - I didn't know Mary Kay was still around.

Re: Friend turned MK representative-not the same.

croemer — Tue, 07 Jun 2016 20:38:35 GMT

E-Gads...your story could be mine. I had a nieghbor who hardly spoke to me a few years back. She became an MK representive and the calls began. Every single day...wanting to come over...wanting to recruit me. I finally had to tell her I do not wear MK and if I need something I will call HER. It was very hard for me to be so forward but she pushed me to have to finally speak up.

Re: Friend turned MK representative-not the same.

nunya — Tue, 07 Jun 2016 20:40:57 GMT

@missy1 wrote:
Tell her you are allergic to it.

I don't know anyone who sells this, anymore.

Back in the day there was some good products.

My friend fell for being a rep and buying their starter kit. She didn't make any money, or get the pink car.

I had a friend who did my makeup for a portfolio. I looked like a street walker LOL

I remember driving home, thinking if anyone sees me .......

Re: Friend turned MK representative-not the same.

Peaches McPhee — Tue, 07 Jun 2016 20:41:27 GMT

Be honest with her! Tell her you are not interested in MK, and that you miss your prior interactions. You are doing no one any favors, including yourself, by keeping this to yourself. She is not a mind-reader, and needs to hear the truth.

If she is your friend, you should be able to be honest. If she takes it badly, well, I guess she is no longer your friend, but at the same time you won' t be taken advantage of.

Re: Friend turned MK representative-not the same.

missy1 — Tue, 07 Jun 2016 20:43:00 GMT

http://www.pinktruth.com/2014/07/31/the-truth-about-the-mary-kay-pink-cadillac/

They don't get to keep the car, if's a co-lease. Got to make the sales quotas each month or they have to pay part of the payment, all ,or taken away.

There are about 1300 pink cars on the road. 0.2% . (out of 600,000 consultant's.)