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Charitable donations

dex — Thu, 07 Apr 2016 18:50:42 GMT

it seems that everyone needs something these days.My husband has a deduction from his pay monthly and I donate to breast cancer.We also buy diapers for the food bank.The problem is that a couple of ladies at my gym belong to a club and they are always collecting for something.I don't want to donate to any more causes.My family also needs things.How do I say no without looking like a bad person.

Re: Charitable donations

Krimpette — Thu, 07 Apr 2016 18:52:10 GMT

I would tell them that I have my own favorite causes to which I contribute and I can't take on any more at this time.

Re: Charitable donations

Meowingkitty — Thu, 07 Apr 2016 18:53:06 GMT

I just say no thank you and carry on with what I was doing.

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Peaches McPhee — Thu, 07 Apr 2016 18:58:49 GMT

Good people say no all the time. Politely of course.

Re: Charitable donations

dex — Thu, 07 Apr 2016 19:21:44 GMT

@Peaches McPhee@I find it hard especially when they are so passionate about it.....I can't help but feel bad.These ladies seem to really believe in their causes.

Re: Charitable donations

ChynnaBlue — Thu, 07 Apr 2016 19:27:23 GMT

@dex wrote:
it seems that everyone needs something these days.My husband has a deduction from his pay monthly and I donate to breast cancer.We also buy diapers for the food bank.The problem is that a couple of ladies at my gym belong to a club and they are always collecting for something.I don't want to donate to any more causes.My family also needs things.How do I say no without looking like a bad person.

First, stop worrying about that. Your worry about looking bad is on you, not them. If they are themselves good people, they aren't going to judge you for saying no. And if they do judge you, then I would worry even less about what they think.

Second, just say no. You don't owe them an explanation. If you feel you want to give one anyway, just say that you have already chosen your charities and while the ones they are collecting for did not make your own list, you're very glad that someone is helping them.

Re: Charitable donations

dex — Thu, 07 Apr 2016 19:31:23 GMT

Thanks Chinablue...you really make some good sense in all of your posts.I am always interested in what you have to say about a topic.

Re: Charitable donations

Adamlambert — Thu, 07 Apr 2016 20:21:42 GMT

we donate a lot to causes we care deeply about. I never donate without checking charity navigator. I would just say no thanks, I donate often to other causes. A friend of mine always wants me to give to. Xxx cause but not enough goes to the actual cause for my preferences. I just tell her no thanks.

Re: Charitable donations

RainyDayGal — Thu, 07 Apr 2016 20:26:07 GMT

If you can't come right out and say "no", then say, "Maybe next time." Some people do have a hard time saying no.

Re: Charitable donations

ChynnaBlue — Thu, 07 Apr 2016 20:37:31 GMT

@dex wrote:
Thanks Chinablue...you really make some good sense in all of your posts.I am always interested in what you have to say about a topic.

Thank you, @dex. What a nice thing to see.

Re: Charitable donations

Caligurll — Thu, 07 Apr 2016 20:37:47 GMT

If you want to put a stop to them asking you, just let them know you have a limited amount of money for charitable donations and that you have causes that are important to you that you prefer to give to. Everyone has their own causes that are important to them and these ladies should understand that.

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beckyb1012 — Thu, 07 Apr 2016 20:38:23 GMT

I have had two and give to the local branch of each here in my town every month. Once the decision was made which two to donate then I never felt any guilt saying no to others. Not just at Christmas for giving, since people go hungry all year long.

For some reason so many charity's know that you give to others so they contact you as well.

Re: Charitable donations

Adamlambert — Thu, 07 Apr 2016 21:14:32 GMT

Beckyb, I'd love to be able to give to anyone that asks but it's just not possible. 😕😕😕

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GCR18 — Thu, 07 Apr 2016 21:16:12 GMT

The charitable donation requests happen to me too. I say no, I already have my contributions selected for the year.

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SeaMaiden — Thu, 07 Apr 2016 21:24:17 GMT

Just say NO.

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jackthebear — Fri, 08 Apr 2016 02:03:37 GMT

say NoThank you

don't go into explanations of why or why not no matter how noble they may be , no need to offer your explanations

I read once something to use the DEAR defend, explain, argue, reason

or something along those lines about having to explain why you don't want to do X

Re: Charitable donations

SydneyH — Fri, 08 Apr 2016 02:19:39 GMT

I have no difficulty saying no.

Re: Charitable donations

september — Fri, 08 Apr 2016 02:29:17 GMT

I say that I've already promised what I can give to the causes I already support, but recognize them for the time and effort they're putting in for their cause.

As someone who has been involved in fundraising in the past....the worst thing is to be ignored. The second worse thing is to have someone give you the run-around, and then fail to make a donation before your fundraising deadline. Just be honest.

Re: Charitable donations

Lila Belle — Fri, 08 Apr 2016 03:24:10 GMT

Turn them on to your causes !

Re: Charitable donations

september — Fri, 08 Apr 2016 03:49:52 GMT

@Lila Belle wrote:
Turn them on to your causes !

yes...I was selling raffle tickets once, and the woman said to me..."I'll buy one of yours, if you'll buy one of mine"

We did an even exchange.