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Are you happy?

griggy — Fri, 11 Mar 2016 04:36:25 GMT

Just wondering are you happy? I work at a busy medical clinic and meet all kinds of people. My heart hurts for those that truly are not happy. One can tell, the spirit is broken. We may be in physical pain, yes and still be happy in the heart. So are you happy?

Before you judge, I have lupus, fibromyalgia, and Hughes syndrome. However, I have wonderful family and friends for support. So yes I am happy in the heart.

Re: Are you happy?

september — Fri, 11 Mar 2016 04:45:17 GMT

@griggy wrote:
Just wondering are you happy? I work at a busy medical clinic and meet all kinds of people. My heart hurts for those that truly are not happy. One can tell, the spirit is broken. We may be in physical pain, yes and still be happy in the heart. So are you happy?

Before you judge, I have lupus, fibromyalgia, and Hughes syndrome. However, I have wonderful family and friends for support. So yes I am happy in the heart.

I think caring family members/ friends make such a difference. So even though my life has had more downs than ups lately, I will say that overall, I am happy.

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Snowpuppy — Fri, 11 Mar 2016 04:51:59 GMT

Many days I'm dragging home from an exhausting job but yes, overall I'm happy.

I got happy finding my own life, deciding what I trully wanted.

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ECBG — Fri, 11 Mar 2016 04:53:20 GMT

There are a few things I'd like to happen but I'm always up!

So, yes, I'm happy!

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RoughDraft — Fri, 11 Mar 2016 04:56:59 GMT

I'm happy when I can make someone else happy.

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Karnerblue — Fri, 11 Mar 2016 05:38:04 GMT

@griggy It must be hard to get through each day with all those ailments. As you said, happy is felt in the heart. I don't think I've truly ever been happy deep in the heart. I think that's where it starts and lives when you're happy with who you are. I think if you don't learn that, if it's not put there when you're young, then as you grow and age you're less likely to figure it out. It can become a very lonely place.

It's good that you have love and support from friends and family. That's priceless.

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Lovingq — Fri, 11 Mar 2016 05:41:54 GMT

Yes, I am happy!

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hckynut — Fri, 11 Mar 2016 06:56:14 GMT

Yes.

hckynut(john)

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Desertdi — Fri, 11 Mar 2016 07:39:46 GMT

I discovered eons ago that an "unhappy" state of mind can actually MAKE a person sick.............

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Pook — Fri, 11 Mar 2016 09:56:36 GMT

Yes I am happy. I learned early in life that we are in charge of our own happiness and no one else should be the reason we are not happy! We cannot change certain things that happen and the way others are but we do have control of how we react to life. Some of the happiest people I know have many health issues, have lost many loved ones and have had what many would say is not a great life but they are so positive and happy. Then there are many who appear to have it all - health, great friends and families, enough money, etc but yet they boo hoo about every little thing and their unhappiness is their own doing.

My sister is an extremely unhappy person and as a result she complains and is critical about anyone and everything. We were raised in the same household and she chose to pick out every negative thing and hold onto it while I chose to embrace life and not let anything make me unhappy.

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gmkb — Fri, 11 Mar 2016 11:02:02 GMT

Happiness is a choice you make. That doesn't mean you won't have hard times. So yes, I am content and at peace.

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ID2 — Fri, 11 Mar 2016 11:09:38 GMT

My dh just retired last June. So we are now living our dream at our new cottage up north. Happy? Extremely!

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bri20 — Fri, 11 Mar 2016 12:08:03 GMT

Yes, very happy.

Life is challenging sometimes, but ultimately I'm a very upbeat person.

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Herfy — Fri, 11 Mar 2016 12:55:49 GMT

This stopped me in my tracks this morning. I am so miserable and not sure what I'm going to do about it. I have a wonderful husband and I recently went from working 5 days a week to three days so a lot less stress there. I go to the gym four days a week and just keep plugging away.

I had dental surgery last August which resulted in an infection that the dentist could not figure out and told me my body will absorb it. Ended up in the hospital with a portion of my jaw removed. All the implants that were placed did not take and I was on an IV every 8 hours for two months. I gained 10 lbs. from not being allowed to do anything for two months and I have been taking an oral antibiotic for 3 months. Still trying to get my money back from the dentist.

I have three grown children, all living two hours away in the same city. My oldest has given me two beautiful grandchildren, 2-1/2 and 2 mos. Unfortunately we are the ‘other grandparents’. My daughter-in-law does not like company and of course her family babysits a lot. We only see them once a month because their weekends are very busy and they don’t want to travel with the baby yet. They will be coming for Easter. My granddaughter will not go anywhere with us she only wants her parents or the other grandparents. My second son’s unemployment ran out so we are paying his bills. He recently got a minimum wage job so hopefully that will help. My daughter and I have not spoken to each other for a month. I did not take sides in argument she had with her brother so she told me to (you know what) myself and she hates her family. She has blocked my calls. It’s terrible but when one of them calls I don’t even want to answer the phone because I get so down in the dumps when they call.

I am trying to figure what I can do to make myself happy. I hate feeling like this.

Sorry to be debbie-downer but it helps to just write it down.

Thanks

Re: Are you happy?

cotton4me — Fri, 11 Mar 2016 18:02:25 GMT

I think this is a complex issue because various factors come into play. Genetics play a role in happiness levels. Here’s an excerpt from one article (http://greatist.com/happiness/are-some-people-just-born-be-happy).

“Brain structure also plays a role in the happiness equation. The brain has billions of neurons, or brain cells, and neurotransmitters, or chemical messengers that communicate between brain cells. Certain neurotransmitters regulate emotions, and deficiencies in neurotransmitter levels can bring on the blues. Genetic factors partially determine the amount of neurotransmitters in the brain, meaning some people are predisposed to psychological issues like depression.”

I used to be quite negative, always believed in Murphey’s Law, etc. I was raised that way but I later realized genetics play a role too. At one point I took a course that really helped me change my outlook and perspective and I became much more positive. However, I still feel that I have to work at being positive; whereas, for some people it comes more naturally.

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Say Nay — Fri, 11 Mar 2016 13:02:28 GMT

I am content. I much prefer being content than being happy which ebbs and flows.

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Pearlee — Fri, 11 Mar 2016 13:05:10 GMT

If you're happy and you know it clap your hands.....

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Goldengate8361 — Fri, 11 Mar 2016 13:08:40 GMT

@cotton4me cotton ball is right. Physiology plays a significant role. For my entire life, I've been prone to depression - which can have nothing to do with external events. Fortunately, antidepressants help to some extent. Also, many of us do not have a support network and may not have time to devote to building friendships or doing volunteer work,etc .....because we must work; we have jobs. Some of us are single, no family, and very few--if any-- friends. I'm not complaining about it; I just wanted to give voice to a different situation that some may not be privy to.

Re: Are you happy?

deepwaterdotter — Fri, 11 Mar 2016 14:40:42 GMT

@gmkb wrote:
Happiness is a choice you make. That doesn't mean you won't have hard times. So yes, I am content and at peace.

Well put, and I agree.

Re: Are you happy?

ladyroxanne — Fri, 11 Mar 2016 14:55:29 GMT

yes i am.