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Giving and receiving compliments...

hoosieroriginal — Thu, 21 Jan 2016 23:04:22 GMT

Today I went to Sam's Club. Upon entering, a gentleman walked up to me and asked if I could do him a favor. I said, "Sure, what?" He said, "Never lose that beautiful smile."

Boy that made my day. At 63 years old it has been ages since I've received a compliment. Reminds you to saying something nice to someone can start their day right.

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croemer — Thu, 21 Jan 2016 23:07:28 GMT

How nice.

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deepwaterdotter — Thu, 21 Jan 2016 23:08:22 GMT

How lucky for you to meet such a charming gentlman today!

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sunshine&rainbows — Fri, 22 Jan 2016 00:08:07 GMT

hoosieroriginal wrote:

Today I went to Sam's Club. Upon entering, a gentleman walked up to me and asked if I could do him a favor. I said, "Sure, what?" He said, "Never lose that beautiful smile."

Boy that made my day. At 63 years old it has been ages since I've received a compliment. Reminds you to saying something nice to someone can start their day right.

@hoosieroriginal

You so deserved his compliment, because you made his day too!

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LUVNLIFE — Fri, 22 Jan 2016 01:49:32 GMT

I'm glad that made your day. I wish you many more feel good moments.

I probably would have said thank you and thought that was like a cheesy flirtation- pick up line. I find older gentleman tend to do this and they think it's charming.

I appreciate a more direct compliment like " You really have a beautiful smile".

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susan kay — Fri, 22 Jan 2016 02:17:04 GMT

hoosieroriginal, how nice! Keeping things on a positive note, if someone came up to me and said that, I would definitely have a BIGGER smile on my face as I said "thank you". Very rare to have complete strangers give you a compliment, but how nice when someone recognizes something about you.............and tells you! I do believe that a smile or a kind gesture can make someone's day.

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VanSleepy — Fri, 22 Jan 2016 03:59:08 GMT

Yes, something like that really does make you smile for the rest of the day, doesn't it? I always compliment strangers lol. Sometimes I'll keep looking at someone because I like her purse or hair style or blouse, whatever. Finally I decided, why not tell her? If someone said it to me, I would appreciate it, so why not?

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Zita — Fri, 22 Jan 2016 13:28:47 GMT

Ah, how nice. For both the giver and the receiver. I love these little "60 second flirtations" that occur when I'm out and about. Just a smile or an acknowledgement that one looks good. Lifts the spirits.

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Sunnyfield — Fri, 22 Jan 2016 14:52:56 GMT

Compliments are so wonderful - both to give and to receive!

I remember about 20 years ago when my mom was taken to the emergency room (broken hip)...naturally I was harried and worried...mom was calmer than me! Anyway, one of the ER nurses came in to check on my mom - this was the middle of the night - and said to me, "You are so pretty - you look just like your mom!" Such a wonderful compliment (my mom looked like the 40's movie star Myrna Loy) and so unexpected - I still remember it so many years later.

I have tried to give compliments on occasion to strangers - like a girl checking me out at the grocery store who had the most gorgeous curly hair...it really lifts the spirits of both the recipient and the giver!

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AliJoi5 — Fri, 22 Jan 2016 14:58:26 GMT

I can't think of a better compliment @hoosieroriginal!! Take it to heart.

I have a philosophy that if I'm thinking something nice about someone else, whoever and wherever that may be, I make sure I say it. People need all of the support and encouragement they can get. I have a friend who truly does see the best in people, regardless of the layers you may have to peel to reveal it. I aspire to be that way!

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spix — Fri, 22 Jan 2016 15:30:50 GMT

I volunteer at O'Hare Airport, Info Desk, try to go out of my way to complement travelers, outfit, hair, shoes, smile, etc, sure helps to ease their stress during what's usually a frustrating time, btw it also makes me feel good knowing that just maybe I brightened someone's day

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hoosieroriginal — Fri, 22 Jan 2016 17:36:34 GMT

@AliJoi5 wrote:
I can't think of a better compliment @hoosieroriginal!! Take it to heart.

I have a philosophy that if I'm thinking something nice about someone else, whoever and wherever that may be, I make sure I say it. People need all of the support and encouragement they can get. I have a friend who truly does see the best in people, regardless of the layers you may have to peel to reveal it. I aspire to be that way!

@AliJoi5 - Thanks! - At my age I'll take what I can get. Sure made me feel good at my age (63). I think he was just truly being a gentleman. I stopped a young man in Target the other day and told him how nice he looked. I, too, try to give compliments when I can.

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Puzzle Piece — Fri, 22 Jan 2016 17:39:29 GMT

I have always found it hard to receive compliments. I like to give them but feel uncomfortable receiving them.

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hoosieroriginal — Fri, 22 Jan 2016 17:39:46 GMT

@luvnlife wrote:
I'm glad that made your day. I wish you many more feel good moments.

I probably would have said thank you and thought that was like a cheesy flirtation- pick up line. I find older gentleman tend to do this and they think it's charming.
I appreciate a more direct compliment like " You really have a beautiful smile".

@LUVNLIFE - no, don't think he was flirting, he was clearly younger than me. I just think he was being kind - but it really made my day.

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freakygirl — Fri, 22 Jan 2016 17:40:07 GMT

I always try to pay someone a compliment. I'm sure they appreciate it, but it makes me more happy to give it 😊

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Tinkrbl44 — Fri, 22 Jan 2016 17:45:24 GMT

What a lovely gesture ..... and it's so important to be gracious about receiving the compliment.

Some people cannot do this. It reminds me of talking to a friend years ago that had recently met a new lady and he had hopes for the relationship.

Weeks later, to my surprise, he had ended it. He said it was hard to be with someone who couldn't receive .... she couldn't receive compliments, small gifts, actually, anything ..... and he didn't want to be with that kind of person. Food for thought, eh?

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freakygirl — Fri, 22 Jan 2016 19:00:55 GMT

tinkrbl44, maybe she felt she did not deserve compliments nor gifts. I know someone like that. it comes from being insecure. sad, but some people do feel that way.

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VanSleepy — Fri, 22 Jan 2016 19:39:25 GMT

I had an embarrassing experience complimenting someone once lol. I was at a party and there was a 20-something guy who I kept looking at because he reminded me of someone, and I couldn't figure out who it was. Finally it hit me and I said to him, "Did anyone ever tell you that you look like Justin Timberlake?" He asked me if that was a good thing, and I said, "Oh yeah. He's hot." OMG I immediately felt like an idiot thinking I looked like some old lady flirting with this kid!

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Tinkrbl44 — Sat, 23 Jan 2016 04:33:13 GMT

@freakygirl wrote:
tinkrbl44, maybe she felt she did not deserve compliments nor gifts. I know someone like that. it comes from being insecure. sad, but some people do feel that way.

Oh, no doubt about it .... low self esteem .... she didn't love herself. Well, she needed to do some growth work on herself. I hope my friend breaking up with her was a real wake up call. He's such a nice and loving guy.