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What Do You Think About The Pop In

Jordan2 — Thu, 12 Nov 2015 23:35:15 GMT

I really don't like when someone comes to visit, doesn't call, and says I was in the neighborhood. I like a little notice to tidy up or maybe I'm not feeling up to company.What do all of you think, is it rude or okay?

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ValuSkr — Thu, 12 Nov 2015 23:37:27 GMT

I don't like it. Considerate people call ahead.

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MaggieMack — Thu, 12 Nov 2015 23:40:31 GMT

Rude not to give you advance notice. There are only two people in my life that I wouldn't care if they just dropped by. Others better call first.

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chickenbutt — Thu, 12 Nov 2015 23:41:17 GMT

This is always a fun subject here. hehe

I'm also in the camp that it is incredibly poor manners to just show up at anybody's house. For ME, anyway.

I could never imagine just showing up at somebody's house uninvited or unexpected. When people do that I probably won't answer the door, but it hasn't happened to me in years, thankfully. Most people I know have manners.

I also don't like the 'I'm in your area and I'll be there in 10 minutes' drill. Really? Inviting yourself over and not only that, but you're already on your way? Not at all civilized, IMO.

If something else works out for others, hey, go for it. It's not my call to make. But for me that doesn't work.

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ChynnaBlue — Thu, 12 Nov 2015 23:48:31 GMT

None of my friends have my address and it's not listed in the phone book. That's how strongly I feel about the pop-in.

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Kachina624 — Thu, 12 Nov 2015 23:50:15 GMT

I need some warning or I probably won't open the door.

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ChynnaBlue — Thu, 12 Nov 2015 23:54:19 GMT

@chickenbutt wrote:
This is always a fun subject here. hehe

I'm also in the camp that it is incredibly poor manners to just show up at anybody's house. For ME, anyway.

I could never imagine just showing up at somebody's house uninvited or unexpected. When people do that I probably won't answer the door, but it hasn't happened to me in years, thankfully. Most people I know have manners.

I also don't like the 'I'm in your area and I'll be there in 10 minutes' drill. Really? Inviting yourself over and not only that, but you're already on your way? Not at all civilized, IMO.

If something else works out for others, hey, go for it. It's not my call to make. But for me that doesn't work.

You're absolutely right, @chickenbutt. I have only lived in BIG states - California and Texas. One of the "blessing and a curse" things about living in such big states is that friends from out of state would visit and say, "I am coming to your state - let's get together for lunch!" I would love to, but I am in San Francisco and you are going to be in Los Angeles for a convention. That's a 6 hour drive. Same with Texas. If you come to Dallas to visit family, I'm not going to drive 3 and a half hours to meet you for lunch and then drive 3 and a half hours home. But enjoy your stay in my state!

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deepwaterdotter — Thu, 12 Nov 2015 23:57:11 GMT

@Kachina624 wrote:
I need some warning or I probably won't open the door.

Me too.

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chickenbutt — Fri, 13 Nov 2015 00:01:43 GMT

Hey CB! Oh I hear that.

I don't mind the call AHEAD, as in way ahead like - I'm going to be in your area in June, or 'next month' or something like that - maybe we could set something up. I'm cool with that.

Yeah, I think people who are not from this part of the country don't realize how large a state that CA is. Same would go for TX, of course.

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Meowingkitty — Fri, 13 Nov 2015 00:03:03 GMT

My rule is if I didn't ask or tell you it's ok to come over don't bother because we don't answer the door unless we are expecting you.

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Pearlee — Fri, 13 Nov 2015 00:26:05 GMT

@ChynnaBlue wrote:
None of my friends have my address and it's not listed in the phone book. That's how strongly I feel about the pop-in.

Therefore, none of your friends have ever been to your home? So do you just go to theirs or meet out somewhere? If they don't have your exact address, they could still stop by if they've ever been to your place, so I guess not.

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missy1 — Fri, 13 Nov 2015 00:47:33 GMT

rude

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missy1 — Fri, 13 Nov 2015 00:50:49 GMT

@ChynnaBlue wrote:
None of my friends have my address and it's not listed in the phone book. That's how strongly I feel about the pop-in.

Then they aren't your real friends, but acquaintances imo.

Do you know where they live?

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sunshine45 — Fri, 13 Nov 2015 00:55:03 GMT

i dont mind it generally.....it is part of our culture.

however, if i was in the shower, or sleeping , or busy on the phone or doing work i probably would not necessarily answer the door.

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colliemom4 — Fri, 13 Nov 2015 01:00:23 GMT

It depends on who it is, but it's not ok for anyone to pop in at any time.

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Pearlee — Fri, 13 Nov 2015 01:57:37 GMT

Never mind. Sorry missy1.

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missy1 — Fri, 13 Nov 2015 05:34:51 GMT

delete

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foundinlv — Fri, 13 Nov 2015 01:17:03 GMT

Life was a lot simpler when I was in my 20's as I hadn't accumulated so much stuff. We always popped in on one another and didn't think anything of it.

And too many cats (3). If you open my front door and one runs out, that's not going to be good.

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Pearlee — Fri, 13 Nov 2015 01:58:19 GMT

@missy1 wrote:
@Pearlee wrote:
@missy1 wrote:
rude
Not being rude but rather curious. I can't imagine my friends never having been to my home, and I don't think I've ever had friends for any length of time when I haven't been to their home. So I'm having trouble figuring out how this is.....?

But thanks so much for your constructive comment.

It's rude for people to pop-in without calling etc.. I was replying to the Op.

Your post wasn't rude.

@Pearlee

@missy1 Oh so sorry I misunderstood. I changed my post. Thanks mssy1 for explaining.

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Lucky Charm — Fri, 13 Nov 2015 02:52:52 GMT

I don't mind the pop ins really.

I have so much family that lives close by. They. along with their friends do come over and I'm used to it.

I'm not ashamed to still be in my jammies in the afternoon. Everyone knows that!

But we're in a new area right now working on a house. I mean the place is TORE UP. Sometimes I'll just sit out on the front porch to get away from the noise, the dust or the madness.

And along will come a neighbor to introduce themselves. And they are dressed really nice and I'm wearing the worst of the worst of clothes.

The other day my brother laughed because I put on lipstick to go sit outside. Mind you I had paint all over my hand and arm. Paint on my jeans, and flips flops. And speckles of paint all over my face and in my hair.