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When men get sick....

Deb1010again — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 07:25:28 GMT

My poor DH has a bad head cold. You'd think the poor guy was on his deathbed. Of course I've been very attentive and loving. The best is he was saying he thought he caught it from the cat because the cat has been sneezing. I had to tell him that's not possible for us to give or get a cold from a cat. He's a smart guy... must be delirious.

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PeterDM — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 07:51:03 GMT

I assure you that not all men turn into whiny morons when they get a cold.

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Deb1010again — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 08:02:30 GMT

@PeterDM wrote:
I assure you that not all men turn into whiny morons when they get a cold.

That's good to know. Although I find DH to be cute when he's like this as he's usually more independent.

BTW, I loved the Christmas decorations you posted in the other forum.

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hckynutjohn — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 08:36:04 GMT

@PeterDM wrote:
I assure you that not all men turn into whiny morons when they get a cold.

Thank you. Been way enough to go around in our home and we have done our best to take good care of each other.

hckynut(john)

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CelticCrafter — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 12:10:19 GMT

When my husband gets sick, he can only focus on one thing and that's being sick.

I on the other hand still have to get up, multi-task and do what I normally do every day.

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curlywhitedog — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 12:59:38 GMT

Deb1010again wrote:
My poor DH has a bad head cold. You'd think the poor guy was on his deathbed. Of course I've been very attentive and loving. The best is he was saying he thought he caught it from the cat because the cat has been sneezing. I had to tell him that's not possible for us to give or get a cold from a cat. He's a smart guy... must be delirious.

Hope your hubby feels better soon.

My husband is just the opposite, he'll struggle through a cold and never say a word. About 5 years ago he collapsed on the kitchen floor with, as it turns out, double pneumonia and stayed in the hospital for almost a week. Doctor said it was one of the worst cases he had ever seen and yet hubby was up and out to work every single day the days and weeks prior to being diagnosed. In fact, just a few minutes prior to his collapse he was out raking leaves - the man just muddles through. .

Maria

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MaggieMack — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 13:05:42 GMT

If only I could complain about my husband sniffling and wanting to be babied with a cold! Here's what I discovered about my man: the sicker he got and the more serious it became, the less he complained, the stronger he became. He went out fighting like a warrior. Be happy that you can pamper your guy with a little extra love, not all of us can, it's really all he's asking for.

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151949 — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 13:29:55 GMT

My Dh is the same way when he is sick, OP. Fortunately, he doesn't get sick very often. Also, he has never been more ill than a bad flu. I shudder to think what he'd be like if he was ever really ill.

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qualitygal — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 13:34:21 GMT

Poor guy, those cat-colds are tough!

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debic — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 15:06:15 GMT

LOL, while I do know such men, my husband has to be on his death bed to stay in bed. He passed 2 humongous kidney stones and never even left work.

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dex — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 15:09:47 GMT

My husband tends to think life is over when he gets sick too and he loves to be pampered during that time.I find though that the more I pamper the longer he is sick.My mom believed that you got going no matter what and that is how I was raised.My husbands mother felt that you needed to lie down and be cared for if you just had a headache so there is the difference.I kind of raised my son with a combo of both ideas .

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dex — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 15:12:43 GMT

@debic wrote:
LOL, while I do know such men, my husband has to be on his death bed to stay in bed. He passed 2 humongous kidney stones and never even left work.

Oh oh my goodness that must have been killer pain.

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I like celery — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 15:47:57 GMT

@Deb1010again Have you ever seen the "Man Cold" video on YouTube?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rXLHWmjA5IE

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ShowMe — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 15:54:44 GMT

When I go for my chemo treatments we are in a large room with recliner chairs and wraps on each one. I would say there are more women in there than men...... It amazes me how many of the husbands are there with their wives and how attentive they are. Do anything to comfort their wives. It is so sweet to see that.

And yes, there are some older and younger men getting treatments too. Some do have their wives there attending to them. But seems more men come alone.....like I do.

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RedTop — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 16:00:52 GMT

My husband used to be one of those men who never let an injury or illness slow him down. He actually suffered his big MI on the job, and even tho he had been to the doctor, two times that week before the MI, and two times after, his MI was not diagnosed until Mon., when his third EKG was different. Afterwards, when I confronted our doctor as to why they didn't pick up on the classic signs of an MI, his response was that my husband never acted sick, nor did he describe his symptoms in a way that made him suspect it was the heart. My husband had described his chest pain as "discomfort"----about a 4 on the pain scale. In hindsight, the doctor realized diabetes had masked the pain, and a patient without diabetes would have been describing that same level of pain at 10+. Had my husband shared his inner feelings that he felt he was going to die, the doctor might have suspected a more intense issue, and things might have been done differently.

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Citrine1 — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 16:38:36 GMT

@Deb1010again, Funny thread! And so true of so many men. When my husband has a cold, it's never "just a cold". It's bronchitis or a sinus infection or the flu. Haha. When I have a cold, it's "just a little cold".

Edited to say -- sorry, I meant funny post, not funny thread. Obviously, I don't think it's funny that some of your husbands have had serious health issues. I'm sorry to those of you who have lost your spouses.

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blackhole99 — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 16:56:39 GMT

My husband has always been overly sensitive when it comes to illness or injury One time he cut his finger when he was doing a home project and wanted to be taken to the ER. I treated the cut for him, but I can tell you he monitored that cut for 3 days until it healed. I can only imagine what he'll be like when something serious happens to him.

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Mmsfoxxie — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 17:29:45 GMT

My hubby has to be babied, too, when he's sick, lol. Heck, imo, he's so old school (woman doing most things in the house) that unconsciously, he expects more than he should anyway. Sometimes if I go out early and come home around 11 in the morning, he still might not have eaten breakfast. Sometimes I'll fix him something, sometimes I won't. I can get stubborn, too. (Of course if he's sick, I'll fix it before I leave).

When we women mention things about our husbands like wanting to be babied, I think it's done in love, not meanness or lack of appreciating them still being with us. Truth is truth.

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Newgate — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 18:05:29 GMT

My husband does complain a lot when he is sick with even just a cold but would not ask me to drop everything to take care of him but I do! And he loves it!! I chalk that up to him having a mother who did not do much for any of her children as far as I can tell from stories I hear from his siblings!! The house was always dirty and she did not cook much! She just was not a "happy camper" and I think thats how she showed it!! Because of that I will always over pamper him!!

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Vivian — Sun, 06 Dec 2015 18:15:50 GMT

If anything is wrong,my husband assumes he's on death's door. He has had several surgeries, mostly orthopedic, and has called his doctors several times because he assumed something horrendous was going wrong. After back surgery in nyc, he called his doctor's offfice several times. He spoke to the nurses who could not relieve his fears. Finally, the doctor called him to say he was fine. That put a stop to that particular situation. I told my husband that if a second knee replacement is warranted, he had better get some help because I cannot deal with him.