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Need Advice-What Would You Do?

patticakes — Mon, 06 Dec 2010 19:14:07 GMT

We have a friend (more like an acquaintance) who lives completely across the country who we've only seen face to face 3 times in 20 years. She was a friend of a friend. She's a very bold, imposing woman and not really one that we would associate with on a day to day basis if she lived near us. Well, now she's coming to our area of the country on a work related trip and has invited herself to our house to spend a few days. First, she wanted to come for Thanksgiving week and we very nicely told her that wasn't going to work. Now, again, she's invited herself to come for a long weekend visit and we're trying to avoid that without seeming hurtful or blunt; but, I'm thinking with one so pushy and presuming, it's hard to get the message across without being very direct. We've told her we'll meet up with her at a location that's about midway for both of us and spend one overnight so we could visit but that's not seeming to satisfy her. What would you do?

Re: Need Advice-What Would You Do?

handygal2 — Thu, 19 Nov 2015 14:45:33 GMT

If you let this woman make the rules now, you're setting a bad precedent for the future. I would be very firm in telling her that your house isn't set up for overnight visitors, or that you're already "booked" with other overnight guests for that weekend. I think your idea of meeting her "halfway" and staying overnight is more than reasonable. Good luck, and let us know how it turns out!

Re: Need Advice-What Would You Do?

Suziepeach — Thu, 19 Nov 2015 14:49:13 GMT

I'd tell her I had other plans but would meet her halfway, as you originally suggested. I don't mean to be rude but what an imposition especially at a holiday, when you probably do have your own plans.

Re: Need Advice-What Would You Do?

Preds — Thu, 19 Nov 2015 14:55:57 GMT

This is an old post from 2010.

Re: Need Advice-What Would You Do?

SydneyH — Thu, 19 Nov 2015 14:58:28 GMT

Cut to the chase and be truthful, why drag it out?

Re: Need Advice-What Would You Do?

brii — Thu, 19 Nov 2015 15:01:45 GMT

@Preds wrote:
This is an old post from 2010.

LOL

I wonder whatever happened.

Re: Need Advice-What Would You Do?

Suziepeach — Thu, 19 Nov 2015 15:02:29 GMT

@Preds wrote:
This is an old post from 2010.

@Preds, well then let's hope this person got it all worked out.. LOL

Re: Need Advice-What Would You Do?

Mj12 — Thu, 19 Nov 2015 15:04:54 GMT

@Preds wrote:
This is an old post from 2010.

Then I'm going out on a limb here and say that the vist already happened. Or not.

Re: Need Advice-What Would You Do?

Preds — Thu, 19 Nov 2015 15:06:37 GMT

Hey @patticakes ... Whatever happened? Enquiring minds need to know.

Re: Need Advice-What Would You Do?

missy1 — Thu, 19 Nov 2015 15:31:22 GMT

No...... Here is a list of local hotels/motels to stay at.

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sidsmom — Thu, 19 Nov 2015 15:35:30 GMT

Ah, old posts....

Re: Need Advice-What Would You Do?

handygal2 — Thu, 19 Nov 2015 15:48:21 GMT

@Preds wrote:
This is an old post from 2010.

Thanks, @Preds. My bad! I saw that there were 0 replies, so l automatically assumed it was a new post.

Re: Need Advice-What Would You Do?

Suziepeach — Thu, 19 Nov 2015 15:57:22 GMT

@handygal2 wrote:
@Preds wrote:
This is an old post from 2010.
Thanks, @Preds. My bad! I saw that there were 0 replies, so l automatically assumed it was a new post.

@handygal2,

Re: Need Advice-What Would You Do?

hckynutjohn — Thu, 19 Nov 2015 16:08:37 GMT

BE DIRECT. Always works for me!

hckynut(john)

Re: Need Advice-What Would You Do?

Lucky Charm — Thu, 19 Nov 2015 16:06:48 GMT

So, it's been a while.....what did you end up doing?

Re: Need Advice-What Would You Do?

Lipstickdiva — Thu, 19 Nov 2015 16:37:35 GMT

Why are these posts being dragged up? Not blaming the first person to answer. I'm betting it was here, on the first page. Not sure why 5 year old posts are still even around.

Re: Need Advice-What Would You Do?

Mominohio — Thu, 19 Nov 2015 16:46:31 GMT

@Lipstickdiva wrote:
Why are these posts being dragged up? Not blaming the first person to answer. I'm betting it was here, on the first page. Not sure why 5 year old posts are still even around.

I've noticed this happening as well. And if one doesn't think to check the dates, it is off and running again.

Not that it isn't a timely topic, with the holidays coming around again, but how the heck are these things popping up from so long ago?

Re: Need Advice-What Would You Do?

brii — Thu, 19 Nov 2015 16:52:25 GMT

Why is a thread from so many years ago still available to post on?

I would think that they would have been deleted long ago.

Re: Need Advice-What Would You Do?

betteb — Thu, 19 Nov 2015 17:05:58 GMT

What I can't believe (more than the fact that the post is so old) is that this person did not get any responses. Knowing the regular posters on this board, it really seems out of character

Re: Need Advice-What Would You Do?

goldensrbest — Thu, 19 Nov 2015 23:27:00 GMT

Why do people do this,bring back old posts?