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Do You Ever Offer Unsolicited Advice

Jordan2 — Sat, 17 Oct 2015 23:00:50 GMT

I never do but I was in the supermarket yesterday. An elderly woman left her bag opened in the top part of the cart while her back was turned to it reaching for something. I couldn't help myself. I told her it was unsafe to leave her bag unattended and she should keep it on her. She told me I was right and thanked me. I just didn't want her to be taken advantage of.

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GCR18 — Sat, 17 Oct 2015 23:11:19 GMT

I have never done it, but think I would have done the same as you.

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Preds — Sat, 17 Oct 2015 23:15:55 GMT

@Jordan2 ... I've done the same thing. I don't mean to intrude in others business, but I will "add my 2 cents worth" when I think it may make a diffence.

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Lucky Charm — Sat, 17 Oct 2015 23:16:24 GMT

Well before I would alerted her, I would've taken a $10 bill and helped myself to a lifesaver or two.

Kidding!

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jlkz — Sat, 17 Oct 2015 23:25:09 GMT

Have done this alerting many times--so far no objections.

If I see someone is confused while looking at something, I might offer a suggestion or ask if I can help. Sometimes I just commiserate and that opens the door to conversation.

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Bellabutterfly — Sat, 17 Oct 2015 23:38:40 GMT

I live in a large city...When I am grocery shopping I always use a cross body handbag. I have been witnessed on two seperate occasions of a handbag being stolen. I was only feet away from both women when it had happened.

The first time I witnessed this it was a week before Christmas two years ago...It happened in the baking isle of an upscale grocery store. This women, only feet away from me she turned to get something behind her and turned around and screamed OMG my handbag is gone. Someone...took her handbag in a second. All of us who were in that isle saw nothing. It happened that fast.

The second time I witnessed this was in a pack it yourself grocery store. This woman was packing her bags and her shopping cart was to the side of her with her handbag in the front section. She turned to put into the cart another bag of groceries and her handbag was gone. That fast...No one saw a thing.

Crooks work fast...

So yes...Whenever I see someone being..."Oh so casual". I do say something...And I have yet to have someone say..."Mind your own business".

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VaBelle35 — Sat, 17 Oct 2015 23:42:39 GMT

I can't help myself. It's never been a problem. No one has ever taken me to task for it. I do it judiciously, though.

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NycVixen — Sat, 17 Oct 2015 23:55:55 GMT

I do when needed. I still remember the times when total strangers did the same for me and I'm very grateful. I've gone out of my way to help others. My FIL was shocked when I made my DH stop the car so I could run to tell a young lady that was crossing the street with a baby carriage that her money was falling out of her back pocket. I remember going through hard times when that 'pocket money' was all I had. She may have been in a similar situation.

As long as you are not rude and preachy, I find that it's appreciated.

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Dusty1 — Sun, 18 Oct 2015 01:02:08 GMT

I don't offer, but I did have a "gentleman" come up to ME in the grocery to tell me that the Diet Coke that I had in my cart was going to kill me, because it was made of the same thing that car coolant (or something) is. Then he pointed his finger at me & told me that it "obviously wasn't helping me lose weight, either".

I told him that it must have also given me Alzeheimer's, because I didn't remember asking for his opinion. Then I cried on the way home. :[

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Jordan2 — Sun, 18 Oct 2015 01:19:55 GMT

@Dusty1 wrote:
I don't offer, but I did have a "gentleman" come up to ME in the grocery to tell me that the Diet Coke that I had in my cart was going to kill me, because it was made of the same thing that car coolant (or something) is. Then he pointed his finger at me & told me that it "obviously wasn't helping me lose weight, either".
I told him that it must have also given me Alzeheimer's, because I didn't remember asking for his opinion. Then I cried on the way home. :[

Wow that was really rude. I'm sorry he hurt your feelings. The guy is an idiot and you shouldn't give him or his comments another thought.

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Sunshine Kate — Sun, 18 Oct 2015 01:26:50 GMT

Many years ago, I was walking into a grocery store and there was a man in a wheelchair attempting to open the door to go in.

I said, "Let me hold the door open for you, and he said, mind your own business lady."

To this day, I hesitate to offer or help anyone.

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hicindy2 — Sun, 18 Oct 2015 15:36:13 GMT

My approach is more about paying unsolicited compliments. I pay compliments to total strangers if they have a nice outfit on, an interesting piece of jewelry, their hair is perfect etc. Some people have tears in their eyes when they thank me, the thought that someone even notices brightens their day.

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winamac1 — Sun, 18 Oct 2015 11:15:49 GMT

@Jordan2 wrote:
I never do but I was in the supermarket yesterday. An elderly woman left her bag opened in the top part of the cart while her back was turned to it reaching for something. I couldn't help myself. I told her it was unsafe to leave her bag unattended and she should keep it on her. She told me I was right and thanked me. I just didn't want her to be taken advantage of.

Someone told me the same thing a few months ago. I need to be more careful about that, and she was right.

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winamac1 — Sun, 18 Oct 2015 11:17:17 GMT

@Jordan2 wrote:
@Dusty1 wrote:
I don't offer, but I did have a "gentleman" come up to ME in the grocery to tell me that the Diet Coke that I had in my cart was going to kill me, because it was made of the same thing that car coolant (or something) is. Then he pointed his finger at me & told me that it "obviously wasn't helping me lose weight, either".
I told him that it must have also given me Alzeheimer's, because I didn't remember asking for his opinion. Then I cried on the way home. :[
Wow that was really rude. I'm sorry he hurt your feelings. The guy is an idiot and you shouldn't give him or his comments another thought.

WOW--that was SO rude. I'd never tell anyone not to buy fried foods or diet sodas or anything. That was just wrong, and I'd be appalled if someone criticized what types of food I was purchasing! I eat very healthy, but I'd never tell others what not to buy!!

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qualitygal — Sun, 18 Oct 2015 11:49:18 GMT

I try not to, for myself, if I ask then it's wanted, If I don't, then I don't want it.

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Silver Lining — Sun, 18 Oct 2015 14:44:20 GMT

If someone drops something or leaves a phone or whatever behind on a table, of course, I would tell them or pick it up and "run after" them. That's not the same thing as unsolicited advice.

One time I was grocery shopping and there was a toddler in the baby seat struggling to hold a large glass jar of mayonnaise. I was afraid she would drop it and the glass and contents would splash up on her. The mother was several feet away so I told her. She got really angry and told me off.

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SharkE — Sun, 18 Oct 2015 13:24:33 GMT

Depends.

What with all the whack a do's out there now days I let most stuff slide.

If both of us are wanting the same parking space I don't want to get shot I let 'em have it and keep driving. LOL

People, now days will pop a cap in your a*s just for the fun of it.

Leave the good samaritan stuff to Batman. Place a 911 call and keep moving is my motto.

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occasionalrain — Sun, 18 Oct 2015 14:20:32 GMT

@Dusty1 wrote:
I don't offer, but I did have a "gentleman" come up to ME in the grocery to tell me that the Diet Coke that I had in my cart was going to kill me, because it was made of the same thing that car coolant (or something) is. Then he pointed his finger at me & told me that it "obviously wasn't helping me lose weight, either".
I told him that it must have also given me Alzeheimer's, because I didn't remember asking for his opinion. Then I cried on the way home. :[

Nice come back but a kick in his shin would have made a stronger, longer lasting, impression.

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blackhole99 — Sun, 18 Oct 2015 14:34:28 GMT

I don't think helping some one out is necessarily offering advice, but I do offer advice to young people even if they don't ask. I always say I'm giving them the benefit of my experience and to take it for what it's worth. No one has ever told me to mind my own business.

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Jordan2 — Sun, 18 Oct 2015 14:37:26 GMT

My sister's BIL is an oral surgeon so he is a smart man. He was in Costco shopping. He had his money in one place and credit cards in another. He was conned by a team working together. One was distracting him asking a question while the other stole from him. He paid with cash at Costco and didn't realize anything had happened. He got a call from one of the credit card companies asking if he made an expensive purchase, he didn't. The thieves got away with all his credit cards and driver's license. Moral of the story especially with the holidays coming be aware and alert of your surroundings.