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HONY

Say Nay — Sat, 04 Jul 2015 19:12:27 GMT

Did anyone see yesterday's fb post from HONY? He says, "I'm homosexual and I'm afraid about what my future will be and that people won't like me."

Over a half million thumbs up and almost 45,000 comments, even some words of encouragement from HC. I hope the support shown somehow eases his sadness. Of all of the HONY stories, and many are poignant, this one really got to me.

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debic — Sat, 04 Jul 2015 19:23:29 GMT

I don't do FB, but sounds amazing. Hopefully he'll have everything he wants in life.

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tansy — Sat, 04 Jul 2015 19:26:47 GMT

debc -- just go to the actual site. I don't do FB either.

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Marp — Sat, 04 Jul 2015 19:27:35 GMT

It got to me too. Some of the comments are also heartrending.

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Say Nay — Sat, 04 Jul 2015 19:32:54 GMT

here's the link:

https://www.facebook.com/humansofnewyork?fref=ts

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Preds — Sat, 04 Jul 2015 19:43:17 GMT

I pray he finds his "support system". He has a life to live and needs to know how to do it ... on his terms. Blessings and encouragement to him .

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debic — Sat, 04 Jul 2015 19:51:55 GMT

@Preds wrote:
I pray he finds his "support system". He has a life to live and needs to know how to do it ... on his terms. Blessings and encouragement to him .

.....

With any luck he will. My sister once brought a friend to our house, she was a lesbian. We all had a great time, my husband took her out rock collecting. When she left she hugged us practically crying and thanked us for treating her like a human being. Even tho my sister guarenteed her we would she was afraid. Some of us will never know that kind of pain.

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kdgn — Sat, 04 Jul 2015 20:05:43 GMT

I've read HONY for a long time now but that photo yesterday got to me in ways that others have not. The despair and pain in that little boy's face and posture is heartbreaking. His one sentence made me cry for him and for others who feel or have felt that way in their lives. He's too young to feel that pain but he does.

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lovescats — Sat, 04 Jul 2015 20:33:27 GMT

When I see something like this I have to wonder who sent it in? Would his parents post this? I hope he is ok.

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esmerelda — Sat, 04 Jul 2015 22:15:45 GMT

facebook took it down, according to an article yesterday afternoon:

http://roygbiv.jezebel.com/facebook-removes-humans-of-new-yorks-picture-of-gay-tee-1715644762

Does anyone think this photo and post on FB could be harmful to the teen?

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151949 — Sat, 04 Jul 2015 22:18:39 GMT

How old is this child? He looks like he is just a little boy, way too young to be aware of his sexuality.

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esmerelda — Sat, 04 Jul 2015 22:29:00 GMT

I didn't know there was a specific age when one knows. Is there? What is it?

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kdgn — Sat, 04 Jul 2015 22:30:20 GMT

The photo is still on the HONY site.

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Moonchilde — Sun, 05 Jul 2015 00:31:11 GMT

Many older teen and adult gay men and lesbians have said they "knew" as 5-6 year olds, even if they didn't yet understand the physiological and hormonal realizations that would come later.

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FUTURE — Sun, 05 Jul 2015 02:48:46 GMT

The story is still on IG as of right now, too. He certainly does not look like a teen. I thought maybe 9-11. Either way, I hope he has a good support system.

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lovescats — Sun, 05 Jul 2015 03:02:30 GMT

I think he could be aware of his sexuality but I think his parents should have to give persmission before something like this is posted. When I first saw it the first thing that came to my mind is hoax but maybe it isn't. To me it looks like a sad little boy and it could be real or could be a model.

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YorkieonmyPillow — Sun, 05 Jul 2015 04:34:20 GMT

That looks like a staged photo.

Some of the stories repeated here are amazing; I live in a small rural community, and gay people aren't mistreated here. Heck it's practically a status symbol. Yet I read these stories of gay people who are mistreated.......perplexing.

You would think if that sort of thing was so widespread it would certainly happen here.

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debic — Sun, 05 Jul 2015 11:06:20 GMT

@YorkieonmyPillow wrote:
That looks like a staged photo.

Some of the stories repeated here are amazing; I live in a small rural community, and gay people aren't mistreated here. Heck it's practically a status symbol. Yet I read these stories of gay people who are mistreated.......perplexing.

You would think if that sort of thing was so widespread it would certainly happen here.

You're lucky to live in a good community. I live in Wy. Not so nice here, think Matthew Shepard. There are a lot of places that are not so nice openly. I always thought the south was the most racist of places but I'm from the north and I once heard someone say they ran the last one out. This was referring to black people.

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debic — Sun, 05 Jul 2015 11:09:34 GMT

@lovescats wrote:
I think he could be aware of his sexuality but I think his parents should have to give persmission before something like this is posted. When I first saw it the first thing that came to my mind is hoax but maybe it isn't. To me it looks like a sad little boy and it could be real or could be a model.

In the link above about it being removed said he was a teen. Staged or not, it's a very real problem for young kids. I know a family that I'm 100% sure their son is gay. He'll never come out to them and they are in denial.

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lovescats — Sun, 05 Jul 2015 13:08:54 GMT

I think saying this young boy is a teen rather than a definite age like 13 speaks to it being a staged or stock photo. and then in the article about it being removed it refers to an interview with him about his hopes and dreams besides the one statement--- was the interview also posted before the post was removed. The photo just doesn't fit for me.