topic Re: ••• COMPLAINING ••• in Community Chat

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newziesuzie — Sat, 27 Jun 2015 17:46:11 GMT

I saved this from a Facebook blog a few years ago and feel like posting it.

EDITING to POINT OUT:

It's regarding CHRONIC COMPLAINING
not ALL complaining.
(I'm not yelling but I can't use bold or colors etc on my
iPad to make words stand out.)
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"The act of complaining is more than simply negative because what you're saying is negative.

That negativity impacts your life. When you complain, you're focusing on what is WRONG as opposed to what is RIGHT.

Since we are all made up of energy, our thoughts, feelings, words carry energy as well.

The negative vibration that stems from complaining goes out into the universe, grabs other negative things, and brings them into your life in the form of unfulfilling relationships, careers, etc.

I have a challenge for you.

It requires you to be very aware and mindful, to have some present moment consciousness as I like to call it.

Take one day―a solid 24 hours―and every time you start to complain, catch yourself, and stop.

How often do you want to complain and say something negative?

It may be more often than you think. Know that bringing awareness to the habit is the first step in overcoming it and replacing it with a more positive one.

How did the challenge go for you? What did you learn? Maybe you can dig deeper and get to the root of why you complain and the dissatisfaction you feel.

Your emotional wellbeing and relationships
are worth the time and effort
to overcome
the CHRONIC COMPLAINER SYNDROME.

You don’t like being around a complainer, and neither does anyone else. Be the positivity you want to draw to you." ~Terri Cole, The Uncomplain Challenge

Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words.
Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior.
Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits.
Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values.
Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.

~Mahatma Gandhi"

(It's from positivelypositive.com)

❤️peace❤️

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SydneyH — Sat, 27 Jun 2015 03:45:18 GMT

Sounds like the same author of the gossip poem, lol. There's nothing wrong with complaining, in fact I'd find people who never do so kinda strange.......

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Adelina — Sat, 27 Jun 2015 03:49:27 GMT

@newziesuzie, thanks for that!

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Susan in California — Sat, 27 Jun 2015 03:56:11 GMT

I like this. great to keep in mind. And true. Thank you.

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newziesuzie — Sat, 27 Jun 2015 04:14:23 GMT

Sometimes people like excuses for negative behavior imho
but in the long run I think it's physically harmful
to the complainer when it's CHRONIC constant complaining,

I think even doctors would tell us that
(the author is a therapist and I think Gandhi was very wise imho)

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Sydney
It doesn't say people should NEVER
complain.😊

Adelina and Susan
You're welcome!😊

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gmkb — Sat, 27 Jun 2015 10:38:17 GMT

Webster - 'express grief, pain, discontent, something that is the cause of protest or outcry'
Chronic petty complaining is never good, but there are instances where complaining is good and necessary. Examples: wrongs that need to be made right, injustices that need to be corrected, wrongdoers that need to be stopped.

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humpty dumpty — Sat, 27 Jun 2015 12:47:12 GMT

Something I read somewhere, cut out and taped to my computer desk:

"Thoughts become things ... choose the good ones" ...

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sidsmom — Sat, 27 Jun 2015 13:47:48 GMT

Thank you for posting this!

Yes, complaining is a slippery slope....the more you do it, the better you get at it. No one wants to hear you randomly complain. A BFF, a spouse...it's ok to set time to vent to them, but just being randomly grumpy to total strangers...not cool.

Complaining on these boards, to total strangers, makes me think the poster has burnt too many bridges w/ his/her friends & family so the only place they can vent is here. Just constantly complaining about the same thing (celebrities, vendors, hosts) over and over and over and over again REALLY says a lot about that grumpy person. Who would want to be around someone like that? No one. That's why they're here!

I DO have to say this clunky new format has tempered my visits here...and yes, I have a happier mindset. Reading all the negativity can leave a major footprint on your mind.

"A happy person is not a happy person
in a certain set of circumstances,
but rather a person
with a certain set of attitudes."

---Hugh Downs

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muttmom — Sat, 27 Jun 2015 16:29:51 GMT

If it weren't for complaining some posters would have nothing to add to the forums.

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Burnsite — Sat, 27 Jun 2015 16:40:13 GMT

I think everyone has kvetchy (sp?) days, it's just human nature. But this topic made me think about different cultures and how they view complaining.

We have sayings like "the squeaky wheel gets fixed first" or words to that effect. Translation: If you don't complain, the problem will not go away.

The Japanese have a contrary saying, something like "The nail that sticks out gets hammered down first." Translation: Complaining can backfire.

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cotton4me — Sat, 27 Jun 2015 16:48:07 GMT

I went through a difficult time last year and I know I kept complaining about the same things over and over to my family. I’m sure they got tired of it. Heck, I was tired of it. I decided to try something different - - to only speak about my concerns and frustrations to a higher power (you choose what that is) and not say anything to others. I’m not always successful but it helps me think about what I put out there.

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hckynutjohn — Sat, 27 Jun 2015 17:34:19 GMT

Sorry OP--------------I ain't buying what you saved from FB. Complaing is a diverse thing. Some complain to anyone/everyone they see or may visit with in any situation. I listened to so many people complain to me that I came up with my own standard replies to them, which is what I always do and have done. Now this does not pertain to online websites or any other minute' things in my life. I would say to them: "Tell it to someone in a position to do something about your b****, and that ain't me". I have done a lot of complaing about many things in many occasions in my life. I however went to people or committies that had the power to change things. It is a very long list but here are 2 of them: (1)--- Got smoking in Public Indoor City Buildings in my City banned.---(2)--- Got smoking in AT&T Omaha Plants banned. Took many years, but got them done, all starting with me COMPLAINING. Now you think I would spend years of my own free hours to do that, and it effects my life negatively? You got some "splainin" to do to this old man!--------hckynut(john)---------E.T.A. I am and have been, since my teens, an Eternal Optimist. I did not live through 8 events in my life that kill thosands of people every single day by being a Pessimist. I very strongly believe that my mental strength and body's excellent physical conditioning allowed me to do so, with the help of some higher power. Your FB "quote" makes absolutely no sense in my personal life's experience, but maybe it does to some.

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cowboy sam — Sat, 27 Jun 2015 17:06:38 GMT

Sometimes if you don't speak up..how will it be fixed if it's broken??

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cotton4me — Sat, 27 Jun 2015 17:40:57 GMT

I think there are different types of complaining, some is needless and not helpful. At other times it can bring about positive change. I'm reminded of the serenity prayer.

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

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newziesuzie — Sat, 27 Jun 2015 17:48:59 GMT

It's interesting that some people didn't notice the very
point of the article is about
CHRONIC COMPLAINING
and doesn't say complaining is ALL bad.

So I edited the OP to help point out the fact.☺️

Thanks for the comments!

❤️peace❤️

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sidsmom — Sat, 27 Jun 2015 18:08:44 GMT

I would say an edit is not needed. Complaining is complaining. There's a saying in my plant-based eating world that's parallel to complaining:

"People like to hear good things about their bad habits"

If we add the addendum of "Chronic", many people reading this thread will go, "Whew...that's not me". Ah, yeah it is. I stand by my post upthread. People just have to have more love in their lives...or channel that pent up frustration some other way (!!).

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hckynutjohn — Sat, 27 Jun 2015 18:09:55 GMT

"newziesuzie"----But YOU ARE the OP!

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lovescats — Sat, 27 Jun 2015 18:13:36 GMT

I subscribe to the belief that it is the squeaky wheel that gets the grease.

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newziesuzie — Sat, 27 Jun 2015 18:24:39 GMT

hckynutjohn said:
"Re: ••• COMPLAINING ••• [ New ]
8m ago

"newziesuzie"----But YOU ARE the OP!"

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John the OP abbreviation can mean Original Post as well
which was what I meant but I should've spelled it out
so sorry for the confusion.😊

The point was the article isn't about ALL complaining
it's only about CHRONIC COMPLAINING
and CHRONIC NEGATIVITY
but for some readers the meaning is getting lost
and they're taking it as meaning to never complain.

So I was trying to clear it up FWIW.

(Again my all caps isn't yelling,
I wish we could quote and use bold and underline etc on our iPads.?

HTH.😊👍

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Preds — Sat, 27 Jun 2015 18:27:12 GMT

I try to practice my complaining several times a day ... usually at work. I want to make sure I'm good at it when I really need it. LOL Practice makes perfect!