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The guy across the hall?

Pqfan — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 20:49:46 GMT

I am not interested in him but he asked me if I ever need help or just want to talk let him know. I just politely thanked him and left it at that. I don't know him I just say hi if I see him just to be polite.Yet I know there is or was a lady over there. Why would a man ask to help another woman when he has a lady already? They were fighting last night (not about me) Am I supposed to be the replacement lol ugh....

Re: The guy across the hall?

Elstongunn — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 20:55:09 GMT

Who knows why? He could be trying to strike up a friendship, relationship; or he might just wanted to let you know if you ever need help you can ask him.

Anyway, a simple "thank you. I'll let you know if I ever want help or to talk" and leave it at that. I wouldn't spend too much time trying to read something into it.

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Preds — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 20:58:35 GMT

ktlynam is right. And maybe he is the one that needs someone to talk to.

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PIT-HAG Melissa — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 21:00:59 GMT

On 3/8/2015 Preds said:
ktlynam is right. And maybe he is the one that needs someone to talk to.

Maybe but I would still steer clear.. You do not know how dramatic the woman is...A simple thank you was the perfect response...

Re: The guy across the hall?

Pqfan — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 21:02:48 GMT

On 3/8/2015 ktlynam said:
Who knows why? He could be trying to strike up a friendship, relationship; or he might just wanted to let you know if you ever need help you can ask him.

Anyway, a simple "thank you. I'll let you know if I ever want help or to talk" and leave it at that. I wouldn't spend too much time trying to read something into it.

Thanks. Yes you are right. He was just being friendly he didn't say anything inappropriate but I am glad I didn't knock on his door wanting anything lol Not that I would ever do that. The lady might kick my _ _ _ lol

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Preds — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 21:07:53 GMT

Just keep being you ... polite. If he wants to "talk" out in the drive or hallway, that's fine. Watch yourself and you'll be okay.

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ShowMe — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 21:11:08 GMT

Hey.....I have a "the guy across the hall", and couldn't ask for a nicer person to be living there. He too has said if I ever need anything, just let him know. He was very helpful to me last month when I was going through all the doctors and tests, then had to deal with having my car inspected to get new license stickers. He took my car in to work with him (he's an auto mechanic"} and saw to it that it was inspected. And, he has taken my trash out to the dumpster a couple times when I had just placed it outside my back door.

And, he does have girls (ladies) that come to visit him. I have met a couple of them. Heck, they know I'm harmless......lol.

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Plaid Pants — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 21:12:19 GMT

I think he was just being neighborly and friendly.

I don't think there is anything ""sinister"" going on.

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YorkieonmyPillow — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 21:15:51 GMT

I'd hate to have to live across from that situation. To be on the safe side, I would only greet either of them; I wouldn't get too friendly with either one. If they are fighting then they will probably each hope they can turn to you. I would keep my distance!

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reiki604 — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 21:27:38 GMT

There's nothing wrong with getting to know your neighbors. I know most of the people in my immediate vicinity and we look out for each other.

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Plaid Pants — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 21:31:21 GMT

On 3/8/2015 reiki604 said: There's nothing wrong with getting to know your neighbors. I know most of the people in my immediate vicinity and we look out for each other.

Agreed.

All couples argue.

Some just do it louder than others.

It doesn't necessarily mean that they are bad people.

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ShowMe — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 21:32:12 GMT

On 3/8/2015 reiki604 said: There's nothing wrong with getting to know your neighbors. I know most of the people in my immediate vicinity and we look out for each other.

Exactly.....that's the same way it is here. It is kind of nice when you open your door and your neighbor across the hall is either coming in or going out, and they speak to you. I definitely know who belongs here and who doesn't.

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Pqfan — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 21:35:00 GMT

Would it bother you if your guy offered to help the lady across the hall perhaps without your knowledge? That would bother me a little. It would be different if they both said it but it was just him.

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NoelSeven — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 21:39:46 GMT

Maybe he's just being a nice guy, letting you know he'd be happy to help if you needed it.

I always fall on the side of being careful, though.

Re: The guy across the hall?

Plaid Pants — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 21:41:53 GMT

On 3/8/2015 Pqfan said: Would it bother you if your guy offered to help the lady across the hall perhaps without your knowledge? That would bother me a little. It would be different if they both said it but it was just him.

It would depend on the kind of "help".

When I come back from the grocery store, I've had my (male) next door neighbor offer to help me carry my groceries in.

If my guy did that, no, I would not be bothered.

It's called being gentlemanly.

Maybe she knows that he's a nice guy, who will go out of his way to help others.

It's sad that women are scared of their own shadows today.

Afraid to speak up for themselves at the hair salon, when they don't like the cut/style, or topic of conversation, for fear of "upsetting the stylist".

Afraid of even saying "hi" to our neighbors, and getting to know them.

Then they complain about how in the "old" days, everybody knew everybody.

Hello!

That's because they took the time to get to know everybody.

Re: The guy across the hall?

croemer — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 21:42:35 GMT

Depends on why he said this???

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lovescats — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 21:44:25 GMT

I wouldn't read that much into it. Maybe he'll ask you to pick up their mail when they go on vacation. Some people are just more outgoing.

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Pqfan — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 21:47:05 GMT

On 3/8/2015 croemer said:
Depends on why he said this???

I think because a lot of medical people come to our house for my mom. He can hear them because the walls are so thin.

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Tinkrbl44 — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 21:48:32 GMT

On 3/8/2015 Pqfan said: I am not interested in him but he asked me if I ever need help or just want to talk let him know. I just politely thanked him and left it at that. I don't know him I just say hi if I see him just to be polite.Yet I know there is or was a lady over there. Why would a man ask to help another woman when he has a lady already? They were fighting last night (not about me) Am I supposed to be the replacement lol ugh....

Are you saying the lady lived there .... or was there frequently, as a girlfriend would be?

Give the guy the benefit of the doubt .... his mother may have raised him to be a good neighbor, and there's nothing wrong with that.

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croemer — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 21:51:17 GMT

On 3/8/2015 Pqfan said:
On 3/8/2015 croemer said:
Depends on why he said this???

I think because a lot of medical people come to our house for my mom. He can hear them because the walls are so thin.

Ah...then I think his intentions were pure and he meant well Pqfan.