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Wedding Invite

CelticCrafter — Thu, 05 Mar 2015 12:18:56 GMT

to our nieces wedding.

It was addressed to Mr. & Mrs. and our daughters name.

Our daughter is 26 years old, doesn't live with us and is the brides only cousin on her fathers side of the family.

At the very least, I think our daughter deserved her own invitation.

Am I being overly sensitive?

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colliegirls — Thu, 05 Mar 2015 14:03:22 GMT

I would not worry about it or give it a second thought.

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brii — Thu, 05 Mar 2015 14:04:49 GMT

It wouldn't matter to me.

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route 7 — Thu, 05 Mar 2015 15:19:43 GMT

Overly sensitive - yes

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loveschocolate — Thu, 05 Mar 2015 15:46:40 GMT

Does she have your daughter's address???

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terrier3 — Thu, 05 Mar 2015 15:47:26 GMT

Overly sensitive.

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happygolfcartrider — Thu, 05 Mar 2015 16:00:34 GMT

Not a second thought, I would however send one gift with all three names.

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CardinalGirl — Thu, 05 Mar 2015 16:02:10 GMT

Definitely over sensitive. Yes, the bride should have taken the time to inquire about her cousin's address and mailed her her own invitation. But, really--is it really such a big deal? Just be honored that she wants the three of you to be a part of her special day.

I hope you have the good taste not to mention it to anyone that may spread the word to the bride or her parents.

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BellaPaprika — Thu, 05 Mar 2015 16:09:42 GMT

Because your daughter was included on your invitation as if she were still a child, does that mean she can bring a date or not? And, yes, in the grand scheme of things it's no big deal but when there's a small family as in your case it is slightly hurtful to think the bride couldn't be bothered to find out her cousin's address. But that's how so many things are done today - with no bother and very little thought.

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Charming1 — Thu, 05 Mar 2015 16:11:07 GMT

On 3/5/2015 BlueCollarBabe said:
Because your daughter was included on your invitation as if she were still a child, does that mean she can bring a date or not? And, yes, in the grand scheme of things it's no big deal but when there's a small family as in your case it is slightly hurtful to think the bride couldn't be bothered to find out her cousin's address. But that's how so many things are done today - with no bother and very little thought.

Nicely stated.

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dmod nj — Thu, 05 Mar 2015 16:12:14 GMT

On 3/5/2015 CardinalGirl said:
Definitely over sensitive. Yes, the bride should have taken the time to inquire about her cousin's address and mailed her her own invitation. But, really--is it really such a big deal? Just be honored that she wants the three of you to be a part of her special day.

I hope you have the good taste not to mention it to anyone that may spread the word to the bride or her parents.

ITA, CG.

Hope you are doing well.

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brii — Thu, 05 Mar 2015 16:12:55 GMT

I'm guessing the invite doesn't include a date for the daughter.

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goodstuff — Thu, 05 Mar 2015 16:31:38 GMT

To be 100% "proper", your adult daughter should have received her own invitation, mailed to her own address. However, I do think you're being overly sensitive. Perhaps the bride didn't have your daughter's current address, was short of invitations, or didn't know the best Emily Post protocol.

I'd suggest you share the invitation with your daughter and that you all attend the wedding if you are able. Take along a gracious attitude and celebrate the happy event. Why go out of your way to take offense at something so insignificant?

And in response to another poster's comments, NO wedding invitee should bring a date or guest unless that person is specifically named on the invitation envelope. The planning for weddings and reception is often very challenging when it comes to allocation of space, food, and costs. There is no automatic "single wedding guests are free to bring a date" clause. If your S.O. is not specifically named on the invitation, don't expect to bring him/her to the event!

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kibbi — Thu, 05 Mar 2015 16:32:27 GMT

no you are not! Our adult kids who have lived at home [out of college and working] even got separate invite to weddings from family & family friends. I think the bride just didn't want to be "bothered" to call you to ask for her address. Just plain lazy.

Yesterday I got an email from my cousin[ whose son is getting married in the fall], asking me to send her the addresses of my 4 adult kids. I would think it strange if all 4 invites came to my house.

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terrier3 — Thu, 05 Mar 2015 16:32:45 GMT

On 3/5/2015 brii said:
I'm guessing the invite doesn't include a date for the daughter.

It doesn't have to, does it?

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brii — Thu, 05 Mar 2015 16:35:37 GMT

On 3/5/2015 terrier3 said:
On 3/5/2015 brii said:
I'm guessing the invite doesn't include a date for the daughter.

It doesn't have to, does it?

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BellaPaprika — Thu, 05 Mar 2015 16:36:01 GMT

On 3/5/2015 terrier3 said:
On 3/5/2015 brii said:
I'm guessing the invite doesn't include a date for the daughter.

It doesn't have to, does it?

But it would have if it had been sent to her at her own address as she is an adult and most likely would like to bring an escort.

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hovis — Thu, 05 Mar 2015 16:38:01 GMT

She most certainly should have received her own invitation. And it should have been addressed Miss --- and Guest.

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brii — Thu, 05 Mar 2015 16:39:06 GMT

On 3/5/2015 BlueCollarBabe said:
On 3/5/2015 terrier3 said:
On 3/5/2015 brii said:
I'm guessing the invite doesn't include a date for the daughter.

It doesn't have to, does it?

But it would have if it had been sent to her at her own address as she is an adult and most likely would like to bring an escort.

I think that's why she was included on her parents' invitation.

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CelticCrafter — Thu, 05 Mar 2015 17:14:49 GMT

They had her address when they invited her to the engagement party and the bridal shower.....