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walk vs argue

foggy! — Thu, 26 Feb 2015 03:26:52 GMT

The longer I stay here the easier it becomes to walk away from flaming or calm discussions. To argue my opinion seems less important when no one is listening anyway. Do you add to discussions or walk away...especially if your thoughts have more or less been posted? Do you enjoy poking/stirring/provoking or being right or adding to the facts/(dis)agreement?

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sunshine45 — Thu, 26 Feb 2015 03:30:00 GMT

foggy, i totally agree......it is so easy for me to walk away now......it makes my life easier AND my blood pressure stays normal. i know how i feel and i know that it is easier for me to argue/discuss it in real life versus trying to present my views here. there are some threads that make me mad or upset, but i just dont even bother to post on them.

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LyndaGee — Thu, 26 Feb 2015 03:31:32 GMT

If my opinion has already been posted by others, I just read. I don't mind controversial topics, but I don't start those threads.

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Marmalade_1 — Thu, 26 Feb 2015 03:31:44 GMT

Usually I walk away I could say so much more.

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reiki604 — Thu, 26 Feb 2015 03:32:55 GMT

I read and stay away far more than I participate. Once in a while I'm moved to voice my opinion but it doesn't matter in the long run , I say my piece and leave. No one here is willing To consider opinions or even facts that differ with their preconceived notions. We talk at each other rather than to each other and unless you are a prolific poster, you are pretty much ignored.

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Kalli — Thu, 26 Feb 2015 03:35:51 GMT

I enjoy reading a spirited debate as long as folks present their side with respect and insight. I've noticed that a lot of the time, threads may begin like that but as they get longer, folks seem to tire of politeness, especially when they realize they're not going to change their opponent's mind. Then the name-calling starts and that's the end of the intelligent responses.

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Surfnturf — Thu, 26 Feb 2015 03:36:01 GMT

Hi foggy! I stop posting on a thread when a dicussion becomes circular.

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RoughDraft — Thu, 26 Feb 2015 03:39:37 GMT

I've walked so much lately, I'm almost ready for a new pair of shoes.

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ShowMe — Thu, 26 Feb 2015 03:40:47 GMT

It is very easy to walk away from where I am uncomfortable and feel unwelcomed. It doesn't hurt me in any way. Want nothing to do with whatever has been going on with some of these threads where they're confrontations going on. There was a time when that went on on a daily basis. Thank goodness it doesn't happen that often any more. But then too, I don't post on a lot of the threads today either.

And right now, I don't need nor want any extra stress in my life.

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Burnsite — Thu, 26 Feb 2015 03:41:12 GMT

HI, foggy, It does get easier but I do get sucked in sometimes. When a few people start repeating their same point overandover...I walk then.

The thing is, I find the threads on current events much more interesting than the "hi there" threads, the entertainment/celebrity ones. Not that those lite threads are never interesting, they often are. But to me there are so many bright posters here. Their comments on the more substantive topics draw me the most. But it's true that one has to walk away when the discussion gets repetitive.

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ShowMe — Thu, 26 Feb 2015 03:41:56 GMT

And right now, I don't need nor want any extra stress in my life.

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nunya — Thu, 26 Feb 2015 03:46:22 GMT

Hi Foggy!!

I try to be civil, but I feel like I talk to myself a lot. It's easier to walk away, I can't take this place too seriously. I may add a few comments to the subject, but I don't have the stamina to pound it into the ground.

Hope you are all doing well.

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issiestorm — Thu, 26 Feb 2015 03:47:40 GMT

It depends on the situation. I frequently state what I feel and then walk away. One thing I refuse to do is become involved in a snark fest or trading insults. And sometimes you know that's going to happen. I don't come back and check in case I'm tempted to lash back again. This forum is certainly not worth a hike in blood pressure.

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sylviahomeatlast — Thu, 26 Feb 2015 03:51:50 GMT

walk away...it's been on my mind lately

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ROMARY — Thu, 26 Feb 2015 03:55:23 GMT

I've walked (in a laughingly way) when folks kept saying that I was someone else........ p.s. I've learned so much, reading these threads. Often times changing my original point of view. My gosh, where else would we be able exchange info and views with folks all across the country? It really is amazing.

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Surfnturf — Thu, 26 Feb 2015 03:59:30 GMT

I should have said I USUALLY walk away when a discussion becomes circular. I did get s*cked in on the ebola subject. I should have walked away and knew it, but...I didn't. We miss you around here. I hope you and your family are well.

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Bestdressed — Thu, 26 Feb 2015 04:06:21 GMT

I'm invisible...so it easier to just walk away.

I hate pot stirrer's and flame throwers. But sometimes you just can't help it...

and respond back.

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sylviahomeatlast — Thu, 26 Feb 2015 04:22:12 GMT

invisibility is my refuge. sort of wraith-like.

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mewsmomtoo — Thu, 26 Feb 2015 04:35:22 GMT

I don't think I have ever "stirred the pot", certainly not intentionally. Besides by the time I see one of the controversial threads, my opinion has usually been expressed by others and I don't feel as though I have anything to add to the conversation. I almost always read all the responses if I open a thread because they are interesting and there are several posters from whom I often learn something.

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Mominohio — Thu, 26 Feb 2015 04:53:49 GMT

For me it depends on just how important I feel a topic is. If I have very strong opinions or I feel it is something that is or should be of great concern to society in general, I will stay in and 'fight my battle' so to speak.

The ones I tend to really get involved in are where you have people piling on the opposite view point by degrading the intelligence or even the right of others to think some way different than they do. The threads where a few try to bully anyone who disagrees with their opinion. Those I just don't pass by, but stand my ground. And those usually have to do with a difference of opinion on health matters, shall we say, or people's rights.