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Facebook selfies rant

madzonie — Tue, 24 Feb 2015 23:24:46 GMT

First - if you don't "do" Facebook, pleeeeease don't post "dislike" messages. I don't want this to be a like vs dislike or use vs don't use discussion about FB. I'd just like some input. Thank you!!

So.....I've noticed that so many women post what I consider "suggestive" or "provocative" pics on their pages. At least this is what happens with many of the folks I'm friends with on FB. It doesn't seem to matter their age, their marital status, their familial status, their jobs....it seems to run the gamut.

These pics are all selfies, taken with flirty looks, low cut tops, pouty lips, heavy makeup, tilted heads, etc. A woman friend of my son's (she's mid 40's with hubby and 3 kids) continually posts pic after pic of her with "come hither" looks and plenty of cleavage. She works in real estate!! She recently posted a shot of her in a bikini, lounging at some resort - with TONS of "girls" just spilling out.

I have other friends much younger (20's & 30's) and close to my age (mid 60's) who do this. One woman seems to take a new selfie almost everyday while in her car, getting ready to go to work.

I'm guess I'm becoming an old prude - I used to think I was pretty opened minded and figured people could & should be themselves. But I'm also old school modest enough to feel that people should keep this type of display of themselves between them and their partners/lovers/significant others.

Am I losing my grip on being a modern woman of the 21st century?

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WenGirl42 — Tue, 24 Feb 2015 23:29:24 GMT

I think maybe you just aren't as needy for the superficial approval of others

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Preds — Tue, 24 Feb 2015 23:47:41 GMT

You haven't seen my pic! DD did it while my glasses were a little off and my hair was slicked back. No make-up and no excuses. It's all me. Next pic will be a Glam Shot!

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brii — Tue, 24 Feb 2015 23:50:17 GMT

I don't get the duck lip pose. Whatever...

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croemer — Tue, 24 Feb 2015 23:52:27 GMT

On 2/24/2015 brii said: I don't get the duck lip pose. Whatever...

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brii — Tue, 24 Feb 2015 23:53:29 GMT

Lol. I like her hair.

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croemer — Tue, 24 Feb 2015 23:56:36 GMT

On 2/24/2015 brii said: Lol. I like her hair.

You're right...I do too brii.

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Autumn in NY — Tue, 24 Feb 2015 23:57:50 GMT

ITA with the OP!

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LilacTree — Wed, 25 Feb 2015 00:12:45 GMT

All of my grandnieces post selfies like that, and one has dialogue that wouldn't be suitable for Hustler magazine. It's too bad, because she is really beautiful and loved my sister (and my sister loved her). She has changed since my beloved sister died three and a half years ago.

Only one of my girls has a FB page and she posts only about Lyme and peaceful nature photos.

I have a FB page and post only family photos, mostly from the past, which everyone appreciates. Other than that, it's just "happy birthdays" or a short response to their post. I also get the newsfeed on Lyme.

I believe the day will come when social media sites are going to be disallowed as a threat to our country. That will not bother me at all. I think it's mostly a negative thing.

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sylviahomeatlast — Wed, 25 Feb 2015 00:13:44 GMT

I'm shaped like an immature boy--no cleavage here

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sylviahomeatlast — Wed, 25 Feb 2015 00:15:18 GMT

On 2/24/2015 Autumn in NY said:
ITA with the OP!

why is her face red?

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Suziepeach — Wed, 25 Feb 2015 00:59:39 GMT

Her face looks like it is packed with cocoa..

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madzonie — Wed, 25 Feb 2015 01:19:03 GMT

Thanks for the chuckles!

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naturalfan — Wed, 25 Feb 2015 01:19:34 GMT

yea - what is the deal with the face? I guess if a male is looking at the pic, he would not even notice the face.

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Vamp — Wed, 25 Feb 2015 02:44:48 GMT

I hear you, madzonie! I am FB friends with a woman I went to high school & church with. I haven't seen her since I graduated in 1978. Back then, she was sweet and shy. Boy, was I shocked to see her 55-year-old self in low, low cut tops and what I would call "boudoir" photos, flirting with men from all over the world, most of whom she obviously hasn't met. There are a couple of gals like that from my HS school days who choose to present themselves that way. I don't get it at all...so bizarre. I am happily married, but even if I were single, I can't imagine putting myself out there in that manner. If that makes me an "old prude" then I am happy to have that moniker.

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Suziepeach — Wed, 25 Feb 2015 03:39:31 GMT

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sylviahomeatlast — Wed, 25 Feb 2015 03:41:28 GMT

On 2/24/2015 sylviahomeatlast said:
On 2/24/2015 Autumn in NY said:
ITA with the OP!

why is her face red?

hmmmmm I think she's embarrassed...

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Moonchilde — Wed, 25 Feb 2015 04:33:03 GMT

I don't post many pix of myself because like many people I hate how I look in photos. I don't have friends or relatives who post the kind of pictures you describe (thankfully) but I do have one (female) friend who posts a new model head tilt pose a week. All the pix are very similar - if I was going to do that, I'd think the point would be why bother if they all look the same? and they do. Same hair, same ordinary makeup, same smile, same pose, same facial expression. I don't get why there has to be a new one once a week.

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Shorty2U — Wed, 25 Feb 2015 04:56:58 GMT

On 2/24/2015 WenGirl42 said:
I think maybe you just aren't as needy for the superficial approval of others

I agree with WenGirls comment. People who post pics like that are what she stated. So you are not a prude.

And to add I have 200 and some friends and family on my facebook (of all ages) and none of them post the kinds of pics you describe OP.

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Mominohio — Wed, 25 Feb 2015 15:59:54 GMT

On 2/24/2015 WenGirl42 said:
I think maybe you just aren't as needy for the superficial approval of others

This pretty much sums it up. I would be more understanding if it was just the young girls in high school, many not old enough to have developed a strong sense of self and identity, still relying on the approval of others.

But what is it with mature (and downright getting old) women who feel this need? I thought we had come so much farther than this.

I have to say I find it disgusting at any age. And it is another down side to today's technology. I have to wonder if so many do it as they feel 'peer pressured'. Kind of the 'everybody is doing it' thing.