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Sharing e-mail addresses

judgejudith — Mon, 12 Jan 2015 14:10:16 GMT

So, I would like to vent a little today. A gal that I know only slightly asked me to e-mail her some information. She said as she wrote down her address...well, it's my husband's e-mail but we share our address. I said you don't have your own e-mail address? At which time she went into this 5 minute dissertation about why she did not have her own e-mail.

Actually, I thought if you are too lazy to get your own e-mail...I'm too lazy to e-mail your husband. I was irritated because we both had access to the information asked for....she just didn't keep it. Then when she went in to this 5 minute explanation about how busy she was and how she couldn't remember her own address...etc., etc., and how she hadn't kept the asked for info. She made me tired just listening to her! Through her husband's e-mail address into my trash bag in the car.

If you are going to tell me I'm a rude snot...you won't hurt my feelings...as I already know that.

Re: Sharing e-mail addresses

colliegirls — Mon, 12 Jan 2015 14:14:41 GMT

I wouldn't care if she shared an email address with her husband, but I would not want to hear how busy she is (everyone is busy doing what they choose to do) and all those other petty excuses.

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insomniac — Mon, 12 Jan 2015 14:58:04 GMT

I do not understand how anyone can share an email address.

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faeriemoon — Mon, 12 Jan 2015 15:08:21 GMT

I agree about being more annoyed about the "busy" speech than the shared email address. If she asks you again for the information, tell her you were so busy you forgot.

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Peaches McPhee — Mon, 12 Jan 2015 15:10:00 GMT

Well, you are not a rude snot (), but don't agree with you. Every one has some sort of annoying quirk, and this is her's.

I think, back in the day, when email was new, lots of couples shared. Some never got away from it.

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brii — Mon, 12 Jan 2015 15:13:58 GMT

I share an email with my husband, but we each have our own too.

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PamelaSue72 — Mon, 12 Jan 2015 15:20:34 GMT

My husband and I have shared an email address since we got our first computer. I don't understand what the problem is in sharing an address? What's the big deal?

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Preds — Mon, 12 Jan 2015 15:20:59 GMT

On 1/12/2015 brii said:
I share an email with my husband, but we each have our own too.

Same here. Of course, he never uses our joint one and I only check it about once a month or so.

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betteb — Mon, 12 Jan 2015 15:26:09 GMT

On 1/12/2015 Peaches McPhee said:
Well, you are not a rude snot (), but don't agree with you. Every one has some sort of annoying quirk, and this is her's.

I think, back in the day, when email was new, lots of couples shared. Some never got away from it.

I agree with this, but I wonder why she even mentioned it?? If it were me, I would have just given you the address, thanked you and moved on.

I also wonder if this is someone you work with and is the info work related? If it is work, I think you should give her the info. I can't stand cut throat office games. JMO

Re: Sharing e-mail addresses

Say Nay — Mon, 12 Jan 2015 15:27:52 GMT

Maybe she has one and doesn't want to share it with you?

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brii — Mon, 12 Jan 2015 15:28:59 GMT

On 1/12/2015 Preds said:
On 1/12/2015 brii said:
<em>I share an email with my husband, but we each have our own too.</em>

Same here. Of course, he never uses our joint one and I only check it about once a month or so.

Mine never even pays attention to it. LOL

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apple1964 — Mon, 12 Jan 2015 15:53:48 GMT

I agree, maybe she does not want to give you her email address.

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sidsmom — Mon, 12 Jan 2015 16:26:42 GMT

On 1/12/2015 betteb said:
On 1/12/2015 Peaches McPhee said:

I agree with this, but I wonder why she even mentioned it??

....because the OP asked. "You don't have your own email address?" The OP wanted to continue the conversation. The onus lies upon the one who questions (OP), so be prepared w/ whatever answer comes about.

Re: Sharing e-mail addresses

betteb — Mon, 12 Jan 2015 16:29:29 GMT

On 1/12/2015 sidsmom said:
On 1/12/2015 betteb said:
On 1/12/2015 Peaches McPhee said:

I agree with this, but I wonder why she even mentioned it??

....because the OP asked. "You don't have your own email address?" The OP wanted to continue the conversation. The onus lies upon the one who questions (OP), so be prepared w/ whatever answer comes about.

The OP didn't ask until the person volunteered that they shared an address. Just wondered why.

She said as she wrote down her address...well, it's my husband's e-mail but we share our address. I said you don't have your own e-mail address? At which time she went into this 5 minute dissertation about why she did not have her own e-mail

Re: Sharing e-mail addresses

Still Raining — Mon, 12 Jan 2015 17:01:00 GMT

Sounds like you were rightly irritated by being asked to forward info she had lost and she was defensive about having to ask and sensitive about not being together enough to have her own email. Who knows, maybe it was her husband who deleted the info. I would go ahead and forward it though just to be kind.

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VanSleepy — Mon, 12 Jan 2015 18:38:25 GMT

It sounds like you are most irritated by the fact that she didn't keep the information in the first place; because if you were willing to forward it to her, it wouldn't make a difference what address you used.

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missy1 — Mon, 12 Jan 2015 18:45:29 GMT

I wouldn't want to share an email address with anyone. It's not hard to get a throw away free email address. Who uses just one email address these days, anyways?

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missy1 — Mon, 12 Jan 2015 18:46:09 GMT

On 1/12/2015 PamelaSue72 said:
My husband and I have shared an email address since we got our first computer. I don't understand what the problem is in sharing an address? What's the big deal?

I like my privacy.

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chickenbutt — Mon, 12 Jan 2015 18:55:17 GMT

I can totally understand how you feel, on both fronts. First about people who ask for info and then don't retain it and keep asking - I end up, at some final point, saying NO. I'm not telling you again because you keep losing/forgetting it, so clearly it doesn't matter to you.

I know somebody like this with my birthday. I've told her, upon request. I've seen her write it down. I've told her a few more times, when she asked and finally the last time I said I'm not telling you again. Geez, some people act like petulant children with no sense of responsibility or social grace.

My husband has done this (not about my birthday of course) and one time I finally told him that I was not going to re-tell him something I had told him numerous times. If he can remember one play in a football game 40 years ago, he can remember something simple that he needs to know and has been told ad nauseam. (maybe even some day he can also remember to lock the door - but I digress) ha!

As for the sharing email part, I have to admit I'm kind of curious as to what the reason was. I hope it wasn't some creepy 'my husband won't let me have my own email address' reason.

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Marienkaefer2 — Mon, 12 Jan 2015 18:57:00 GMT

I don't think you should have questioned her about the email address. What difference does it make to you? Then you threw it away. So, she gave you the address, expecting you to send her the info. If you don't, she will probably ask you about it. Obviously this woman annoys you, but not sending her the info will just get you more contact with her, not less. You should have just emailed her and be finished with it. Jmo.