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Feeling devastated tonight

Brokenhearted — Tue, 23 Dec 2014 03:06:44 GMT

My ds ripped my heart out --never knew he felt this way. We had problems yes but not in my wildest imagination did i think the problems were of this magnitude.--im shocked. His words hurt deeply - they cut like a knife. i love my family, gave him everything I could. i thought id share. Please share ur feelings and tell me what to do. He is 25- almost 26. I am blocking you from text and calls after I send you this message. Know that I despise you. You are not my mother. I want you to have absolutely no part of my future. You will not know where I live, when I get married, or when I have kids. I want you 100% gone. You are the worst thing that's ever happened to me. I don't want to hear from anyone else about how you are or what you're doing, because I couldn't care less. You are the one person in the world to whom I can truthfully and wholeheartedly say, I hate you.

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Mom2Dogs — Tue, 23 Dec 2014 03:08:53 GMT

Those are horrible words, and I am very sorry....something had to happen that would make your son speak to you in that way.........

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faeriemoon — Tue, 23 Dec 2014 03:10:05 GMT

Does anyone else think Viewpoints is one big college Sociology experiment?

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AnikaBrodie — Tue, 23 Dec 2014 03:11:31 GMT

I'm sorry and can't begin to imagine why your son would send you such a vindictive and hateful message. I hope you have family you can talk to about this and get to the bottom of the situation. Why, why, why???

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Lotus — Tue, 23 Dec 2014 03:15:41 GMT

I am very sorry you are going thru this.

No mother deserves to hear/read those words.....trust me I know.

Hugs to you.

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VioletEyes — Tue, 23 Dec 2014 03:21:38 GMT

Perhaps, you could provide some background in why you think he sent you this email?

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Say Nay — Tue, 23 Dec 2014 03:24:22 GMT

Wow. Only 57? For some reason I thought she was in her 70s.

SNS

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Brokenhearted — Tue, 23 Dec 2014 03:25:43 GMT

I can assure you I am a real poster - embarrassed to admit my ds feels this way under my other name. There is no point talking to his father, he is part of the problem - he is why my ds for may years has been allowed to disrespect me. My husband has never had my back or came to my rescue. My ds resents me for financial difficulties when all the blame belonged oh his father. I was always the bad guy- the one in control - - my son feels his father should of stood up to me. So much to say. There have been a couple issues with his gf too. I am shocked and hurt he feels the way he does.

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SnowPink — Tue, 23 Dec 2014 03:25:47 GMT

So what did you do to him?

The first person I thought of was the poster named nickiebird because I'll never, ever, ever forget when she said that she loves her pets and she likes her children.

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SnowPink — Tue, 23 Dec 2014 03:29:33 GMT

Well, we know it's someone who uses an iPad. Text is smaller when using an iPad, right?

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tansy — Tue, 23 Dec 2014 03:30:29 GMT

On 12/22/2014 Brokenhearted said: I can assure you I am a real poster - embarrassed to admit my ds feels this way under my other name. There is no point talking to his father, he is part of the problem - he is why my ds for may years has been allowed to disrespect me. My husband has never had my back or came to my rescue. My ds resents me for financial difficulties when all the blame belonged oh his father. I was always the bad guy- the one in control - - my son feels his father should of stood up to me. So much to say. There have been a couple issues with his gf too. I am shocked and hurt he feels the way he does.

there is probably not much you can do about the situation right now, unfortunately. As he gains more maturity and life experience, he may see things differently.

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SnowPink — Tue, 23 Dec 2014 03:31:00 GMT

On 12/22/2014 Brokenhearted said: I can assure you I am a real poster - embarrassed to admit my ds feels this way under my other name. There is no point talking to his father, he is part of the problem - he is why my ds for may years has been allowed to disrespect me. My husband has never had my back or came to my rescue. My ds resents me for financial difficulties when all the blame belonged oh his father. I was always the bad guy- the one in control - - my son feels his father should of stood up to me. So much to say. There have been a couple issues with his gf too. I am shocked and hurt he feels the way he does.

K - I'm gonna ask it. Why did you stay with this man who allows people to disrespect you and doesn't have your back?

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colliegirls — Tue, 23 Dec 2014 03:31:21 GMT

You need to apologize to your son whether or not you are responsible. If a child of ours feels a certain way, it is real to them, warranted or not. Talking it out is the only way to repair the relationship and offer NO EXCUSES on your part. Do not play the martyr. Good luck to you.

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anon — Tue, 23 Dec 2014 03:31:55 GMT

Surely you saw this coming or had some idea of his feelings. Harsh feelings like this don't develop overnight. I too wonder what you did to him to make him feel this way towards you.

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tansy — Tue, 23 Dec 2014 03:32:16 GMT

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Marianne1 — Tue, 23 Dec 2014 03:34:39 GMT

Oh, I don't agree with apologizing for this (as described by the op).

I do agree that talking it out, honestly, is in order.

But not sure how that can happen if he is just going to avoid his mother.

Counseling is in order for anyone of you that will go. You, your husband, and your child would all benefit in hashing this all out with a professional.

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tansy — Tue, 23 Dec 2014 03:34:45 GMT

LOL...how annoying. There's my empty reply box again.

I can make the font larger and paragraph when I remember to put in the programming code...like I should have to do that

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RoughDraft — Tue, 23 Dec 2014 03:37:11 GMT

Not going to say it...nope.

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Brokenhearted — Tue, 23 Dec 2014 03:40:18 GMT

Actually im on my cell phone. After receiving the text, my husband doing nothing, saying nothing , i left. Im sitting in a parking lot thinking. there ia an issue with ds gf, as I was speaking to her on the phone being respectful but firm trying g to work out issues, her mom gets on the phone screaming, telling me- I am a piece of poop- a blank for calling her dd(foul word for a female) and a wh*re. This lady doesn't know me, never met me - - I've been married for almost forever- my husband is the second person ive ever been with. Ds wasn't going to say anything to the mother in my defense-- that alone made me cry. Everything continued to go south.

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Puzzle Piece — Tue, 23 Dec 2014 03:40:27 GMT

Only two posts and all the drama.........hmmmmmmmm..