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Wedding Gift Etiquette

LuvMyBoyz — Thu, 30 Oct 2014 21:09:39 GMT

Hi folks -

I'm looking for some advice and thought I'd try here. A relative is getting married. We aren't very close, but she is my first cousin. Should I give cash? There are several items on their registry that are still available and I'd rather buy and wrap gifts (just something I enjoy I'm not sure what the proper etiquette is. Anyone have any suggestions? Thanks!

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straykatz — Thu, 30 Oct 2014 21:12:18 GMT

If there is something on her registry that fits your budget then go with it...:-)

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shamalamadingdong4 — Thu, 30 Oct 2014 21:18:04 GMT

It's your choice. Do whatever makes you happy.

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kdgn — Thu, 30 Oct 2014 21:18:13 GMT

I'd go with the gift registry if you enjoy the wrapping, etc. I've only given cash when I'm stuck on what to give-

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RetRN — Thu, 30 Oct 2014 21:24:10 GMT

I would utilize the gift registry, I find it very useful. I assume their selections are things they really want and will use.

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mewsmomtoo — Thu, 30 Oct 2014 21:53:53 GMT

Yep, I would go with something on the gift registry if you can afford it. If not, you can give a gift card for one of the places they are registered. If you don't want to bother with any of that, cash is a traditional wedding gift so I think it comes down to what you want to do.

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brii — Thu, 30 Oct 2014 21:55:34 GMT

Either is fine.

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Vamp — Thu, 30 Oct 2014 21:57:11 GMT

Buy her something off the registry if you like to give a wrapped gift. After all, the couple is asking for those things. It's not like you are going to give her something she doesn't want.

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LuvMyBoyz — Thu, 30 Oct 2014 22:00:21 GMT

Oh good! I'm glad to hear so many people say it's ok to buy from the registry for the wedding. I forgot to ask... how much should I spend on a gift? Is there a ""standard?""

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lulu2 — Thu, 30 Oct 2014 22:00:37 GMT

On 10/30/2014 mewsmomtoo said:
Yep, I would go with something on the gift registry if you can afford it. If not, you can give a gift card for one of the places they are registered. If you don't want to bother with any of that, cash is a traditional wedding gift so I think it comes down to what you want to do.

I would give a gift card from the place she is registered or cash.

If you choose a gift off the register, it should be sent to her, not taken to the wedding.

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Hoovermom — Thu, 30 Oct 2014 22:01:03 GMT

You can order off the bridal registry and they will wrap it for you and send if you are not attending the wedding. If you are attending, do what you are comfortable doing. I am sure whatever you do she will appreciate your thoughtfulness.

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gidgetgh — Thu, 30 Oct 2014 22:06:37 GMT

Isn't that actually the point of a registry? So people will give you gifts from that registry? If not, why have one? Absolutely buy her something from the registry.

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VanSleepy — Thu, 30 Oct 2014 22:23:00 GMT

I think the registry is more for the bridal shower than the wedding, but nothing wrong with getting the wedding gift from there. Send it to the house, though, instead of bringing it to the reception.

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AuntG — Thu, 30 Oct 2014 23:34:04 GMT

On 10/30/2014 gidgetgoeshawaiian said: Isn't that actually the point of a registry? So people will give you gifts from that registry? If not, why have one? Absolutely buy her something from the registry.

Exactly, plus you love to wrap so it just makes sense.

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LuvMyBoyz — Fri, 31 Oct 2014 00:24:35 GMT

Thank you all so much for taking the time to reply. Like VanSleepy mentioned, I wasn't sure if the registry was more or less for the shower and cash was expected for the wedding. Sounds like there's nothing wrong at all with going with registry gifts for the wedding. I appreciate the help! Have a good night

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Love my grandkids — Fri, 31 Oct 2014 04:21:01 GMT

Cash should never be ""expected."" I never heard of a wedding registry being for the shower!

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bells4me — Fri, 31 Oct 2014 04:41:37 GMT

The registry is for the shower or the wedding.

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Big Sister — Fri, 31 Oct 2014 06:47:18 GMT

I would buy from her registry, then you know you are giving her what she really wants.

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hckynut — Fri, 31 Oct 2014 21:01:56 GMT

It this is not her 1st wedding, and she is a cousin with which you "are not very close"? I know what I would give and it would be nothing for either reason or a combination of both.

But remember, this is a male perspective and I don't know many males that make these types of decisions. These things are usually made by their SO or wife.

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chrystaltree — Fri, 31 Oct 2014 21:36:53 GMT

A bridal registry is not and has never been for the shower; it's for wedding gifts. If you aren't going to the wedding, choose something from her registry and have it sent to her. The store will wrap the gift. If you are going to the wedding, do what makes you feel comfortable. You can give cash or a gift card but you can also select something she registered for and have it delivered. The items on their registery are things the couple want and hope to receive, you cannot go wrong that way.