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When you're angry how do you express that anger?

TheKingsMistress — Sat, 16 Aug 2014 21:05:08 GMT

Do you raise your voice?

Do you swear?

Do you cry?

Do you yell?

Do you fester?

Do you seek revenge?

Trying to make sense of why some who get mad resort to violence as a way to express their pain, hurt, anger.

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deepwaterdotter — Sat, 16 Aug 2014 21:09:31 GMT

I get very quiet.

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TheKingsMistress — Sat, 16 Aug 2014 21:11:43 GMT

I yell and cuss.

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HisElk — Sat, 16 Aug 2014 21:34:14 GMT

Depending on the situation and "how" angry I am, I would say I raise my voice. If the other person is screaming at me, then I usually stop talking and let them ramble on. Sometimes, I just choose to walk away. It takes 2 to argue.

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hckynut — Sat, 16 Aug 2014 21:36:00 GMT

When you're angry how do you express that anger?

Depends on the source of my anger and where it happens. Of the choices you've listed I will go with "raise my voice" especially if a business is trying to "take me for a ride".

I ain't into destruction or revenge, only letting the person(entity)know that I am not too happy. Never use any foul language unless my anger is directed towards myself, then all bets are off.

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Preds — Sat, 16 Aug 2014 21:37:09 GMT

I do all the above, but I've never hurt anyone. I work it out in my mind, fist to a pillow, screaming at the top of my voice ..... let the pressure off. Revenge ..... maybe, but not likely.

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tansy — Sat, 16 Aug 2014 21:43:12 GMT

I eat chocolate. I'm not much of a screamer.

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jeanlake — Sat, 16 Aug 2014 22:02:00 GMT

I've been known to do all, except revenge. Revenge just doesn't get the results I'm looking for. The best revenge truly is a good life. However, I'm all about 'do no harm' and I've been working on my temper for decades. Doing much better.

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Bird mama — Sat, 16 Aug 2014 22:16:50 GMT

My reaction depends on who or what caused the anger.

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evelomaddict — Sat, 16 Aug 2014 22:31:22 GMT

i have a punching bag that gets a rather good beating quite often. when i'm really stressed i go to the shooting range. :=)

when all else fails, there's always twitter.

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deepwaterdotter — Sat, 16 Aug 2014 22:34:21 GMT

On 8/16/2014 tansy said: I eat chocolate. I'm not much of a screamer.

I wish I only ate chocolate when I was mad.

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croemer — Sat, 16 Aug 2014 22:35:21 GMT

I am capable of all the above depending on the circumstances. Revenge...not likely...standing up for myself...yes.

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Vivian — Sat, 16 Aug 2014 22:37:48 GMT

I become sarcastic and use caustic language. Sometimes I raise my voice and use objectionable language but it's the sarcasm that prevails.

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KarenQVC — Sat, 16 Aug 2014 23:14:29 GMT

I try to practice patience. The operative word there is TRY.

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Irshgrl31201 — Sat, 16 Aug 2014 23:18:28 GMT

On 8/16/2014 evelomaddict said:
i have a punching bag that gets a rather good beating quite often. when i'm really stressed i go to the shooting range. :=)

when all else fails, there's always twitter.

The shooting range is a great stress reliever.

I think exercise often helps get rid of aggression.

It really depends on what makes me mad. Nothing has made me mad enough in quite a while to scream or yell. I cuss all the time and can be in a perfectly good mood when I do it.

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nunya — Sat, 16 Aug 2014 23:19:49 GMT

colorful words

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dooBdoo — Sat, 16 Aug 2014 23:40:18 GMT

I have an unhealthy tendency to hold in my anger. Yes, I've had plenty of therapy for that.

When I participated in the Dale Carnegie course, one of the sessions was all about expressing anger, outrage, that sort of thing, and boy did I flunk that activity.

Yelling, screaming don't come easily to me, and I think the best way to tell off someone is with a great vocabulary that doesn't include swear words (the Shakespearean insults are pretty incredible). I've noticed, over time, the fact that I'm not a yeller or swearer results in people paying attention if I do raise my voice or read them the riot act.

Revenge? I think the desire for it, or the attempt to exact it is only harmful to the one seeking revenge. In my belief system, we all will receive our appropriate "rewards" eventually as a matter of the natural course of life and death.

(Disclaimer: This is my opinion, and I could be wrong, and I could change my mind.)

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evelomaddict — Sat, 16 Aug 2014 23:47:13 GMT

On 8/16/2014 Irshgrl31201 said:
On 8/16/2014 evelomaddict said:
i have a punching bag that gets a rather good beating quite often. when i'm really stressed i go to the shooting range. :=)

when all else fails, there's always twitter.

The shooting range is a great stress reliever.

I think exercise often helps get rid of aggression.

It really depends on what makes me mad. Nothing has made me mad enough in quite a while to scream or yell. I cuss all the time and can be in a perfectly good mood when I do it.

i like you even more now. :=)

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kittymomNC — Sat, 16 Aug 2014 23:48:30 GMT

Depending on the anger level, I have been known to go in the backyard and throw rocks at a tree! Problem is, I don't have any BIG rocks.....

And dooBdoo, I understand where you're coming from.

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ShowMe — Sat, 16 Aug 2014 23:54:57 GMT

Very interesting thread you've got going here.

It really takes a lot to make me angry......Guess that goes with getting old.......

Usually I keep my mouth shut and my thoughts to my self........ But have been known to be so angry that I cry.......And by the time I'm through crying I am ok.......

But, you will find that I do try to defend myself.......don't like it when folks try to run over me......or use me......for their betterment.....