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a scary & sad story

151949 — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 19:45:04 GMT

My SIL was telling me yesterday that a little boy in her grandson's preschool had to be rushed to the hospital with a very bad allergic reaction because another kid had eaten peanut butter at home for breakfast and then the one who is allergic and the one who ate the peanut butter were playing together. The one who had the peanut butter's mom said she didn't realize that even eating it before he came to school was prohibited, and she is currently looking for a different preschool for her son because she finds this to be too prohibitive, as her son is a poor eater and loves PB so she wants him to be able to have it for his breakfast.

IMO - and this is just me - if my child was that allergic to such a common thing I would home school before I'd put him at risk like that. i am an asthmatic and I can really relate to the poor allergic kids dilemma.I understand they want to be like all the other kids but sometimes that is not prudent. Certainly, no one did anything wrong here. It was just a lack of total understanding on the part of the mom who let her kid eat his favorite breakfast before school.

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AngusandBuddhasMom — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 19:50:39 GMT

Yes by osmosis the mom of the peanut butter breather should of known better.

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Jerz-girl — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 19:53:03 GMT

I feel bad for the little boy for sure but I don't think eating peanut butter BEFORE school while at home should be prohibited, regardless.

Jerz

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Emma bunting — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 19:54:09 GMT

There was a child in my son's Junior High who had some issue with regulating his body heat. So all winter the thermostat in his wing of the school had to be kept excessively high.....just for him. The other kids were sweating...and getting drowsy because of the heat. In my opinion, you do whatever you can to accommodate a child with special needs......short of actually affecting others around them in a really adverse way like this.

And I agree.....if my child was that deathly allergic to peanut butter I would home school him. There is no way you can control everybody around you all of the time.

ETA: now I want peanut butter!

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bikerbabe — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 19:54:43 GMT

I feel bad for the poor kid who ended up in the hospital but prohibiting kids from eating PB at home is ridiculous.

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Jerz-girl — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 19:55:51 GMT

Let me add, if the little boy who has such a sever allergic reaction just by coming in contact with someone who ate peanut butter earlier in the day, maybe his parents should look into other options for him. Too risky.

Jerz

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scotttie — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 19:56:55 GMT

The child that is that allergic to peanut butter to the point of peanut breath is the one who needs to stay home. Even if all the parents do their best to cooperate to protect the poor child, here is simply no way to ensure that the allergic child doesn't come into contact somehow. Suppose one of the children "snuck" a finger lick of pb before school.

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scotttie — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 19:59:05 GMT

PS: Isn't there a method now by which people who are so severely allergic and gradually become desensitized?

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Jerz-girl — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 20:00:27 GMT

On 6/5/2014 scotttie said:
The child that is that allergic to peanut butter to the point of peanut breath is the one who needs to stay home. Even if all the parents do their best to cooperate to protect the poor child, here is simply no way to ensure that the allergic child doesn't come into contact somehow. Suppose one of the children "snuck" a finger lick of pb before school.

Gianna Marie does that now, sneaks a finger lick of peanut butter! (Hates jelly)

Jerz

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ROMARY — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 20:04:57 GMT

My gosh.........feel sorry for the boy. Then I wondered why kids were so healthy many, many years ago.......none of the kids in elementary school in those days were ill, allergic, etc. (We all continued from grade to grade without any major or even minor problems, as I recall.) What's happening now-a-days? Any research as to why kids are so allergic? Just wondering. And, yes, this child should be home schooled or put into a school with other severely allergic children. I'm hoping he outgrows this, otherwise, he won't be able to ride a bus, train, or plane. Or even be around people at parties, or attend classes in a college. And what about work? Tough situation. Wishing him well.

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seattlegirl98026 — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 20:06:17 GMT

I'm fully sympathetic to both children. However, it's unrealistic for the one with the peanut allergy to think that he (or his parents) can control the diet and environment of everyone who comes into contact with him. I agree that home schooling may be his best option.

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cater — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 20:08:52 GMT

We deal with this peanut butter issue every day. My little niece is the one who has this problem and has been life-flight to children hospital a couple of times, has had to go to the emergency room also on different occasions. She has to be careful every place she goes and always has the pen with her in case there is a need. When we bake all the items we are doing that we know she will want to eat every item we use is all washed to make sure there are no hints of nuts on any thing. In her school no peanut items are allowed to be brought in for snacks for the kids. Her Mom actually sends her daily snack with her rather then take a chance. We do not use peanut oil to cook with if we know she is coming. She can't even go into some of the restaurant that cook with peanut oil. As soon as she walks in the door and if they cooked with peanut oil she in to another reaction.

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Elstongunn — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 20:09:35 GMT

On 6/5/2014 scotttie said:
The child that is that allergic to peanut butter to the point of peanut breath is the one who needs to stay home. Even if all the parents do their best to cooperate to protect the poor child, here is simply no way to ensure that the allergic child doesn't come into contact somehow. Suppose one of the children "snuck" a finger lick of pb before school.

ITA.

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abbeythe 8th — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 20:09:45 GMT

On 6/5/2014 Emma bunting said:
There was a child in my son's Junior High who had some issue with regulating his body heat. So all winter the thermostat in his wing of the school had to be kept excessively high.....just for him. The other kids were sweating...and getting drowsy because of the heat. In my opinion, you do whatever you can to accommodate a child with special needs......short of actually affecting others around them in a really adverse way like this.

And I agree.....if my child was that deathly allergic to peanut butter I would home school him. There is no way you can control everybody around you all of the time.

ETA: now I want peanut butter!

I had a main-streamed student who was just the opposite. He needed to be in an air conditioned room that was positively frigid. The school had a special room where all his classes were held. Every period there was a different teacher in the room, so luckily I was in there just once a day. As much as we discouraged the behavior, students constantly complained about the conditions in the room.

It was a difficult situation.

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Cranberries — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 20:10:46 GMT

I agree that the kid with the allergy should be home schooled. You can't dictate what people eat inside their own homes.

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cater — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 20:14:16 GMT

Romary, when my little niece fly's on a plane they actually let her Mom on the plane early to wipe around the seat she will be sitting in. All the airlines they have used have been very nice to this family. We are lucky her school does not allow any thing in it that has to do with nuts there are so many other kids with this problem.

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chrystaltree — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 20:18:07 GMT

Most schools prohibit peanut butter and nuts. Letters are sent home to classmates parents. The school nurse and the teacher have the kid's medication, just in case. But let's get real. How would any mom know that her kid's peanut butter breath could trigger an allergic reaction? That's not to say that I believe it's even possible. I doubt it. I'm not a professional teacher, so I wouldn't even think about home schooling beyond grade 3. Plus most families need two incomes if they want a good life and if they want to send their kids to college. So that isn't an option for most are families. You just do the best you can.

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Shorty2U — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 20:22:13 GMT

That's sad. Thank God he's ok. I don't know what I would do as far as teaching at home or not.

I worked with a girl whose sister is deathly allergic to peanut butter and she is a Dr. One time she ate sugar cookies at work in the café at the hospital. Well they didn't clean the bowls right after making peanut butter cookies BEFORE the sugar cookies so evidently some of the peanut butter got into the sugar cookies.

She ended up falling over at work with an allergic reaction, and almost died. Thankfully she worked at the hospital (being a Dr.) so they could help her immediately.

One has to be very careful with these food allergies.

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scotttie — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 20:23:12 GMT

On 6/5/2014 Jerz-girl said:
On 6/5/2014 scotttie said:
The child that is that allergic to peanut butter to the point of peanut breath is the one who needs to stay home. Even if all the parents do their best to cooperate to protect the poor child, here is simply no way to ensure that the allergic child doesn't come into contact somehow. Suppose one of the children "snuck" a finger lick of pb before school.

Gianna Marie does that now, sneaks a finger lick of peanut butter! (Hates jelly)

Jerz

*ahem* I have been known to sneak a fingerfull myself ...

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chrystaltree — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 20:25:34 GMT

On 6/5/2014 Emma bunting said:
There was a child in my son's Junior High who had some issue with regulating his body heat. So all winter the thermostat in his wing of the school had to be kept excessively high.....just for him. The other kids were sweating...and getting drowsy because of the heat. In my opinion, you do whatever you can to accommodate a child with special needs......short of actually affecting others around them in a really adverse way like this.

And I agree.....if my child was that deathly allergic to peanut butter I would home school him. There is no way you can control everybody around you all of the time.

ETA: now I want peanut butter!

Sorry that was WRONG! It was abusive to the other students! And bit was mean. No, you don't do NOT accommodate or protect a special needs kid by putting other kids at risk or adversely affecting their ability to LEARN. Even the law only mandates 'reasonable accommodation". Do you think those drowsy, kids were in an atmosphere that was healthy and conducive to learning?