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Thank You Notes???

evergreen — Mon, 26 May 2014 23:27:10 GMT

I recently attended a baby shower for a grandniece and she said to be sure and put our addresses on a sheet of paper so she could send out "thank you" notes. She also added that she hadn't sent out thank you notes for her wedding because she didn't have addresses.. It's amazing to me that they can find my address for invitations but not for thank you notes. One of her friends suggested that she just say thanks on Facebook. I guess I don't understand this kind of thinking.

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Mom2Dogs — Mon, 26 May 2014 23:33:02 GMT

Dh and I sent a nice gift of money to a bride last year...check was cashed, never got a thank you...I don't get it...they send the invite and you know darn well they know they will receive a gift, the least they could do is say thank you.

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hckynut — Mon, 26 May 2014 23:46:53 GMT

Join the world of "text/facebook and all the other social media". Many I believe were not taught what used to be common sense when receiving a gift or card or whatever. In my young days it was "face to face", thank you. Later to become "phone call" thank you. Later to become "e-mail" thank you. Since I don't do any social media or text?

Will be honest my day of sending cards or anything other than for someone that is close to me has died and I know their family well. With them I do not expect any response from them since they have many more important and sad emotional things on their minds.

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lulu2 — Mon, 26 May 2014 23:51:37 GMT

On 5/26/2014 evergreen said:
I recently attended a baby shower for a grandniece and she said to be sure and put our addresses on a sheet of paper so she could send out "thank you" notes. She also added that she hadn't sent out thank you notes for her wedding because she didn't have addresses.. It's amazing to me that they can find my address for invitations but not for thank you notes. One of her friends suggested that she just say thanks on Facebook. I guess I don't understand this kind of thinking.

I've been to showers where the guests addressed the envelopes......and a few times, we never received the thank you note that went with the envelope.

I've been to a shower where we signed a list, gave our email address and what gift we gave.

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RetRN — Mon, 26 May 2014 23:51:39 GMT

Lately, I'm more surprised if I do get a thank you note than if I don't. Times sure have changed.

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azterry! — Tue, 27 May 2014 00:04:11 GMT

The complaint of not receiving a thank you note isn't a problem limited to today. I remember reading Dear Abby columns complaining about the very same thing when I was a kid.

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SugarNSpice — Tue, 27 May 2014 00:05:43 GMT

It starts with the parents teaching them to send Thank you notes and Thank you cards. It should start at a young age.

My business partners who have children have them send Thank you notes and/or cards all the time. We did the same, my mom and aunt did the same and so on.

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madzonie — Tue, 27 May 2014 00:07:32 GMT

I have decided to not send cash gifts (or any gifts) to the grandkids of an old friend. Because I have no grandkids of my own, I thought I'd like to play "granny" to my friend's. I have never received a thank you note - not from the kids as they got older, nor from their parents. I would always have to contact them to even be sure they received my gifts. I decided i've had enough.

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MurphiesLaw — Tue, 27 May 2014 00:08:08 GMT

On 5/26/2014 Hildegarde Withers said:
On 5/26/2014 evergreen said:
She also added that she hadn't sent out thank you notes for her wedding because she didn't have addresses.. It's amazing to me that they can find my address for invitations but not for thank you notes.

I would have nicely told her, in front of everyone, to get the addresses from the person/people who had sent out the invitations. Or asked her how she got the addresses to send out the invitations to the wedding.

I think it's laziness that she doesn't find out certain addresses on her own. I'd ask friends/relatives or check online. If necessary, I'd call that person the next day to ask for their address.

I totally agree.

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missy1 — Tue, 27 May 2014 00:09:38 GMT

People lack manners today. They can be on FB all day, but can't handwrite a few lines in a thank you card. I think the etiquette of getting a wedding thank you card for a year is rediculous. They might be divorced in a year!

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nunya — Tue, 27 May 2014 00:24:15 GMT

On 5/26/2014 SugarNSpice said:
It starts with the parents teaching them to send Thank you notes and Thank you cards. It should start at a young age.

My business partners who have children have them send Thank you notes and/or cards all the time. We did the same, my mom and aunt did the same and so on.

I agree. From the time my daughter was little the rule was, she couldn't spend the money or play with the gift until she wrote a Thank You. It worked pretty well.

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SugarNSpice — Tue, 27 May 2014 00:28:41 GMT

On 5/26/2014 nunya said:
On 5/26/2014 SugarNSpice said:
It starts with the parents teaching them to send Thank you notes and Thank you cards. It should start at a young age.

My business partners who have children have them send Thank you notes and/or cards all the time. We did the same, my mom and aunt did the same and so on.

I agree. From the time my daughter was little the rule was, she couldn't spend the money or play with the gift until she wrote a Thank You. It worked pretty well.

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spud188 — Tue, 27 May 2014 00:55:54 GMT

Our rule too nunya.

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ive been framed — Tue, 27 May 2014 01:18:56 GMT

That was ours as well, nunya! And no generic 'thank you for the gift it will come in handy' nonsense!!

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SugarNSpice — Tue, 27 May 2014 02:20:32 GMT

Besides being the right thing to do in general. I don't believe people in business realize how far a Thank note and/or card will go.

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stilltamn8r — Tue, 27 May 2014 02:29:59 GMT

i would be so flabbergasted that she wanted to send thank you notes, that I would make it as easy for her as possible...

I was beginning to think that only my family even did this anymore....

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pinkskates4 — Tue, 27 May 2014 17:40:36 GMT

If karma really worked, the people that can't be bothered to send thank you notes for wedding gifts would be the same people who had guests refuse to RSVP - and then show up anyway.

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JobGirl — Tue, 27 May 2014 19:57:26 GMT

They know the address to not only send an invitation but a ""save the date"" before that

I don't know what bothers me more-the people who don't send them or the people who make excuses for those who don't send them.....

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Hooty — Tue, 27 May 2014 20:06:38 GMT

This new generation, does not send thank you notes, half the time they don't even tell you thanks verbally!

I sent a thank-you note to my Granddaughters (ages 5 & 18 Mos.) for the lovely tulips they sent me for Mother's Day!

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FUTURE — Tue, 27 May 2014 20:07:09 GMT

It really annoys me when I don't get a THANK YOU note, even though it probably shouldn't in this day and age. And for the record, I'm in my early 30s, and I ALWAYS send THANK YOU notes. My mother drove that one home from a VERY young age. A lot of people were just not raised yo do that, but honestly, I don't see it as an excuse. It really is common courtesy. The I-don't-have-your-address thing is just ridiculous. If they can come to your shower and buy a gift, you can get their addresses.