topic Re: Staring in Community Chat

Staring

colliemom4 — Thu, 22 May 2014 05:14:53 GMT

Has anyone here ever met someone that stared at them in an odd way while carrying on a conversation with them? I mean to the point of them looking at you too long and it being creepy? I get this from another lady that I must spend time around sometimes. We get along fine but I've never had anyone stare at me while conversing in the manner that she does. It doesn't seem normal. Bad habit maybe? And I don't think it's any type of attraction to me.

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sylviahomeatlast — Thu, 22 May 2014 05:16:13 GMT

makes me feel examined---I have to leave

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Azcowgirl — Thu, 22 May 2014 05:21:18 GMT

Can't stand that either. Would be even more creepy, if a woman did that. eta....seems as though some people don't have a concept of personal boundaries. Then sometimes you get that feeling that someone is staring at you and turn to see and sure enough they are , and you feel like saying .....what are you staring at ?

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Cyndog — Thu, 22 May 2014 05:24:31 GMT

Little kids always stare at me, ha, ha, don't know why. I think some people aren't even aware that they're staring at you, that they're spacing out and thinking of something else and that some people stare hard because they're trying to figure out where a person's at or really interested in what they're saying. Those are my theories, that's all I have, ha, ha. Maybe eyesight problems.

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colliemom4 — Thu, 22 May 2014 05:36:22 GMT

On 5/21/2014 sylviahomeatlast said: makes me feel examined---I have to leave

It is awkward!

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colliemom4 — Thu, 22 May 2014 05:39:31 GMT

On 5/21/2014 Azcowgirl said: Can't stand that either. Would be even more creepy, if a woman did that. eta....seems as though some people don't have a concept of personal boundaries.

Yes some people do have a problem with personal boundaries. Very strange!

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colliemom4 — Thu, 22 May 2014 05:40:32 GMT

On 5/21/2014 cyndog said: Little kids always stare at me, ha, ha, don't know why. I think some people aren't even aware that they're staring at you, that they're spacing out and thinking of something else and that some people stare hard because they're trying to figure out where a person's at or really interested in what they're saying. Those are my theories, that's all I have, ha, ha. Maybe eyesight problems.

cyndog, all good theories. A kid I could accept.

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sylviahomeatlast — Thu, 22 May 2014 06:46:11 GMT

no examination , please. 8-0

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CharleyHorse — Thu, 22 May 2014 07:57:57 GMT

I've known people hard of hearing who look intently at people because they are reading lips. It may be that someone has ADHD and are staring because they don't want their mind to wander while they are trying to listen to you. There could be several reasons why they stare.

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colliemom4 — Thu, 22 May 2014 14:30:33 GMT

She's not hard of hearing and doesn't have ADHD.

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colliemom4 — Thu, 22 May 2014 14:54:15 GMT

On 5/22/2014 Hildegarde Withers said:
In some cases, it's meant to be condescending.

I do realize this and that might be it. If so she really needs to check herself because she's not all that

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colliemom4 — Thu, 22 May 2014 15:07:25 GMT

On 5/22/2014 Hildegarde Withers said:
On 5/22/2014 colliemom3 said:
On 5/22/2014 Hildegarde Withers said:
In some cases, it's meant to be condescending.

I do realize this and that might be it. If so she really needs to check herself because she's not all that

Those kind of people usually aren't...they just like to think they are.

She may think she's more special than others. It doesn't affect my confidence. Just creeps me out lol.

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Madame Lorrraine — Thu, 22 May 2014 15:09:51 GMT

On 5/22/2014 Hildegarde Withers said:
I know one person who does something similar...and she usually has a little smirk on her face. She does this with everyone and I'm sure it makes some people uncomfortable. Don't know if she does it on purpose or not.

it could be an intimidation technique.

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colliemom4 — Thu, 22 May 2014 15:22:18 GMT

On 5/22/2014 Hildegarde Withers said:
I feel that way about people who stand too close to me...it's as if we're standing in a crowded room and they have no choice. I always back up...I don't care what they think.

Yes. I understand what you are saying and I don't blame you for backing up.

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Catitude — Thu, 22 May 2014 15:30:18 GMT

She must be admiring your beauty, your impeccable manicure, your pearly white teeth, your shiny hair, your glistening skin, your gorgeous wardrobe, your elegant mannerisms. Take it as a compliment.

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maryebrown_1 — Thu, 22 May 2014 15:39:21 GMT

I worked with some "starers" when I was in FL for a year. It WAS an intimidation technique, and I avoided those people as much as I possibly could.

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circles — Thu, 22 May 2014 15:48:32 GMT

Yes, I worked with a woman who did that....if we went to lunch she would just stare and barely say a word...if she came to my home...the same thing...if we spoke at work..same again....it was not only annoying...it was creepy.....

I don't know what I hated more...the stare...or her not talking...it was like she expected me to keep the conversation going...all the time...Lord help me when she called on the phone...there would be dead silence on her end....and I would be groping for something to talk about....

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croemer — Thu, 22 May 2014 15:48:59 GMT

Yes...its as though they are visually invading your ""space."" creepy

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focksie — Thu, 22 May 2014 16:21:33 GMT

On 5/22/2014 Hildegarde Withers said:
I feel that way about people who stand too close to me...it's as if we're standing in a crowded room and they have no choice. I always back up...I don't care what they think.

I worked with a guy who was a close talker (remember Seinfeld?). He'd be in my face, I'd back up, he'd come close again, I'd back up. This would go on and on. Once, I backed up so much I almost fell down a staircase.

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chrystaltree — Thu, 22 May 2014 16:25:40 GMT

Lots of people have quirks. It's no big deal.