https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877390#M345506 <P>I didn't have a long engagement, and that worked out fine for me. A month after our wedding, DH got laid off from his job and we moved to Houston. Newly married, new state, new adventure, with plenty of jobs available. <IMG src="http://community.qvc.com/DesktopModules/ExactTarget/Controls/TextEditor/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/thumbup1.gif" alt="{#emotions_dlg.thumbup1}" /></P> Fri, 16 May 2014 21:02:57 GMT maryebrown_1 2014-05-16T21:02:57Z https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877200#M345403 <P>I mean like 5 years or more?</P> Fri, 16 May 2014 19:12:30 GMT https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877200#M345403 croemer 2014-05-16T19:12:30Z https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877205#M345406 <P>Why not? Gives you time to chase them off if you change your mind. <IMG src="https://community.qvc.com/" /></P> Fri, 16 May 2014 19:14:05 GMT https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877205#M345406 Preds 2014-05-16T19:14:05Z https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877210#M345409 <P>That would be a "NO". Something around a year to two is normal, I think. </P> Fri, 16 May 2014 19:15:12 GMT https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877210#M345409 Spinach 2014-05-16T19:15:12Z https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877215#M345412 <P>HaHa...I just think if you are engaged that long something isn't right...something is missing.</P> Fri, 16 May 2014 19:15:30 GMT https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877215#M345412 croemer 2014-05-16T19:15:30Z https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877220#M345415 <P>I have no problem with a couple living together for 5 years or more but an engagement is a promise to marry, right? Yes I would think something is amiss in the relationship with a 5 year engagement. </P> Fri, 16 May 2014 19:15:41 GMT https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877220#M345415 focksie 2014-05-16T19:15:41Z https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877225#M345417 <P>I guess I don't.</P> <P>My husband proposed 6 days after meeting and we married 9 months later, the delay being he was in the military or the wedding would have been sooner.</P> <P>The marriage lasted 44 years until his death.</P> Fri, 16 May 2014 19:15:59 GMT https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877225#M345417 harcon 2014-05-16T19:15:59Z https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877230#M345420 <P>I knew a couple who became engaged in the late 1950's. They married within the last 10 years and both died within the last 5 years.</P> <P>Personally I think a year is a sufficient amount of time to be engaged.</P> Fri, 16 May 2014 19:16:17 GMT https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877230#M345420 lulu2 2014-05-16T19:16:17Z https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877235#M345422 <BLOCKQUOTE><SPAN class="quote_author">On 5/16/2014 <STRONG>focksie</STRONG> said:</SPAN> <P>I have no problem with a couple living together for 5 years or more but an engagement is a promise to marry, right? Yes I would think something is amiss in the relationship with a 5 year engagement.</P> </BLOCKQUOTE> <P>Exactly!</P> Fri, 16 May 2014 19:16:29 GMT https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877235#M345422 Spinach 2014-05-16T19:16:29Z https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877240#M345424 <P>Each couple is different. What works for one, won't for another.</P> <P>Some people are engaged for a short time, and the marriage lasts forever.</P> <P>Other times, not.</P> <P>Just the opposite is true too.</P> <P>Just because one couple is engaged for years and years, and years, is not guarantee that the marriage will last.</P> <P>Also, the couple may have their reasons for having a long engagement. It could be for financial, or whatever.</P> <P>There is no hard and fast "rule" on how long a couple should be engaged for.</P> Fri, 16 May 2014 19:16:58 GMT https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877240#M345424 Yuban3 2014-05-16T19:16:58Z https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877245#M345426 <BLOCKQUOTE><SPAN class="quote_author">On 5/16/2014 <STRONG>focksie</STRONG> said:</SPAN> <P>I have no problem with a couple living together for 5 years or more but an engagement is a promise to marry, right? Yes I would think something is amiss in the relationship with a 5 year engagement.</P> </BLOCKQUOTE> <P>Yes...that is a different situation. Engagement means the relationship is moving to a more serious phase.</P> Fri, 16 May 2014 19:17:43 GMT https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877245#M345426 croemer 2014-05-16T19:17:43Z https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877250#M345428 <P>No. Seems people having long engagements have a problem with commitment.</P> Fri, 16 May 2014 19:18:37 GMT https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877250#M345428 AnikaBrodie 2014-05-16T19:18:37Z https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877255#M345430 <BLOCKQUOTE><SPAN class="quote_author">On 5/16/2014 <STRONG>AnikaBrodie</STRONG> said:</SPAN> <P>No. Seems people having long engagements have a problem with commitment.</P> </BLOCKQUOTE> <P>Not always. As long as both parties in the couple are happy and satisfied with the arraignment, what difference does it make to anybody else?</P> <P>None.</P> Fri, 16 May 2014 19:20:37 GMT https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877255#M345430 Yuban3 2014-05-16T19:20:37Z https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877260#M345432 <BLOCKQUOTE><SPAN class="" quote_author="">On 5/16/2014 <STRONG>AnikaBrodie</STRONG> said:</SPAN> <P>No. Seems people having long engagements have a problem with commitment.</P> </BLOCKQUOTE> <P>I have known several couples who had long engagements...and a short marriage.</P> Fri, 16 May 2014 19:22:02 GMT https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877260#M345432 croemer 2014-05-16T19:22:02Z https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877265#M345434 <P>No I don't. If someone proposes, the intention should be to get married. If you don't want to get married, why propose? It doesn't make sense to me. You should be taking the next step which is marriage.</P> Fri, 16 May 2014 19:22:48 GMT https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877265#M345434 Lipstickdiva 2014-05-16T19:22:48Z https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877270#M345436 <P>My husband and I had a long engagement - more than 5 years. </P> <P>Whatever works for people.</P> Fri, 16 May 2014 19:25:03 GMT https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877270#M345436 RainyDayGal 2014-05-16T19:25:03Z https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877275#M345438 <BLOCKQUOTE><SPAN class="quote_author">On 5/16/2014 <STRONG>LipstickDiva</STRONG> said:</SPAN> <P>No I don't. If someone proposes, the intention should be to get married. If you don't want to get married, why propose? It doesn't make sense to me. You should be taking the next step which is marriage.</P> </BLOCKQUOTE> <P><IMG src="http://community.qvc.com/DesktopModules/ExactTarget/Controls/TextEditor/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/thumbup1.gif" alt="{#emotions_dlg.thumbup1}" /></P> Fri, 16 May 2014 19:26:10 GMT https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877275#M345438 croemer 2014-05-16T19:26:10Z https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877280#M345440 <BLOCKQUOTE><SPAN class="quote_author">On 5/16/2014 <STRONG>RedConvertibleGirl</STRONG> said:</SPAN> <P>My husband and I had a long engagement - more than 5 years.</P> <P>Whatever works for people.</P> </BLOCKQUOTE> <P>Exactly. Every couple is different.</P> <P>Just because a couple has an engagement that last for years and years and years, does NOT mean that there is anything "suspicious", or that someone has a "fear of commitment".</P> <P>As long as both parties in the relationship is HAPPY with the long engagement, it is nobody's business why the engagement is so long.</P> <P>As I said, they could have that for financial reasons.</P> <P> </P> Fri, 16 May 2014 19:32:42 GMT https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877280#M345440 Yuban3 2014-05-16T19:32:42Z https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877284#M345442 <P>We dated a few years and then our engagement was just under a year and a half, for a total of 4 years. We've been married only to each other and it's going on 36 yrs. It worked for us. That said, I've heard of people who married quickly and are just as committed and solid, so to each their own.</P> Fri, 16 May 2014 19:36:10 GMT https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877284#M345442 JeanLouiseFinch 2014-05-16T19:36:10Z https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877288#M345444 <P>Yes, it's called "living together". If you don't subscribe to that then...as the old saying goes, "sh:t or get off the pot". <img id="smileyhappy" class="emoticon emoticon-smileyhappy" src="https://community.qvc.com/i/smilies/16x16_smiley-happy.png" alt="Smiley Happy" title="Smiley Happy" /></P> Fri, 16 May 2014 19:37:08 GMT https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877288#M345444 sidsmom 2014-05-16T19:37:08Z https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877293#M345446 <P>Whatever works for the couple..that said..to me ususally when the engagement lasts longer then a year or two during wedding planning..the ring was just a formality to make somebody else happy..not in all cases ...</P> Fri, 16 May 2014 19:38:09 GMT https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Do-You-Believe-In-Long-Engagements/m-p/877293#M345446 CouponQueen 2014-05-16T19:38:09Z