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Why would anyone say this?

hyacinth003 — Fri, 02 May 2014 19:08:29 GMT

My daughter told me something yesterday that blew me away. I don't think it's exclusive to her situation either.

She said while taking care of customers in a fast food restaurant, she is sometimes asked "when are you going to get a real job?"

As if any job isn't a real job!! They are instructed NEVER to be unpleasant with a customer.

I said I would merely stop what I was doing and stare back at them!!

I just wonder what possesses anyone to say something like that to a total stranger.

Hyacinth

Re: Why would anyone say this?

Topaz Gem — Fri, 02 May 2014 19:12:48 GMT

>>>I just wonder what possesses anyone to say something like that to a total stranger.

Ignorance. Pure and simple.

Re: Why would anyone say this?

QueenDanceALot — Fri, 02 May 2014 19:17:09 GMT

I would agree with Topaz.

And I think they're passive aggressive types who have to do this in order to make themselves feel superior.

Re: Why would anyone say this?

ahoymate — Fri, 02 May 2014 19:18:27 GMT

U post on this forum and know that many people are:

discourteous, rude, lack of manners etc. This is a put down comment. I would tell the customer: "this is a real job".

Re: Why would anyone say this?

brii — Fri, 02 May 2014 19:19:48 GMT

People are rude. They have no filter.

Re: Why would anyone say this?

deepwaterdotter — Fri, 02 May 2014 19:21:15 GMT

There is no 'polite' response to such an inquiry, I would continue serving the customer while not acknowledging the question.

Re: Why would anyone say this?

NoelSeven — Fri, 02 May 2014 19:22:42 GMT

People say awful things all the time. If it's something she's heard more than once, maybe she can come up with a good comeback.

Have you had the talk with her about how to handle people like that and not to take it personally? I had it with my girl when she got her first job in a bookstore as a teen. She was so surprised by the things some people said to her.

Re: Why would anyone say this?

Yuban3 — Fri, 02 May 2014 19:24:57 GMT

On 5/2/2014 deepwaterdotter said:
There is no 'polite' response to such an inquiry, I would continue serving the customer as if I didn't hear the question.

Agreed. Sometimes the best response, is no response. Saying something, anything in reply could land you in trouble with the boss.

Re: Why would anyone say this?

scotttie — Fri, 02 May 2014 19:34:23 GMT

As a former waitress, people think they own you when you work in a service job.

Wouldn't it be fun to say "when are you going to eat in a fancy restaurant?" I know she can't say that but sometimes it is fun to think up snappy comebacks even if you can't use them!

I agree with those who recommend saying nothing.

Re: Why would anyone say this?

kdgn — Fri, 02 May 2014 19:34:42 GMT

Obviously that person/s have never worked in a fast food place. It's a real job and can be a difficult job at that.

Re: Why would anyone say this?

scotttie — Fri, 02 May 2014 19:36:04 GMT

When my oldest worked at a Wal-Mart while in college some of the things she had said to her would not be allowed to be repeated here. People can be such pond scum sometimes.

Re: Why would anyone say this?

KarenaJeannette — Fri, 02 May 2014 19:37:33 GMT

That's horrible! I am so sorry people have said that to your daughter!

Re: Why would anyone say this?

LyndaGee — Fri, 02 May 2014 19:38:08 GMT

I'm sorry your daughter has to put up with such rude behavior.

Re: Why would anyone say this?

Preds — Fri, 02 May 2014 19:38:50 GMT

The best response is a polite smile while thinking of all the other responses listed here. People just blurt out anything and everything when they are trying to make conversation. She could also say she volunteers their in order to study the type of people that eat there for her thesis.

Re: Why would anyone say this?

brii — Fri, 02 May 2014 19:39:49 GMT

I like the comeback it's a real job and they pay me real money. Puts people in their place.

Re: Why would anyone say this?

Yuban3 — Fri, 02 May 2014 19:43:07 GMT

On 5/2/2014 brii said: I like the comeback it's a real job and they pay me real money. Puts people in their place.

But, if one were to say that, then the customer could demand to see the manager, and complain that you have a rude and nasty attitude.

That's why it's best to just ignore the person's comment.

Re: Why would anyone say this?

hyacinth003 — Fri, 02 May 2014 19:46:14 GMT

On 5/2/2014 Preds said:
The best response is a polite smile while thinking of all the other responses listed here. People just blurt out anything and everything when they are trying to make conversation. She could also say she volunteers their in order to study the type of people that eat there for her thesis.

I love all the responses. This one really cracks me up!

I am working here to study rude behavior. Thanks for participating in my study.

Yes, I've had to talk to her about letting it roll off her.

Hyacinth

Re: Why would anyone say this?

QueenDanceALot — Fri, 02 May 2014 19:49:36 GMT

On 5/2/2014 deepwaterdotter said:
There is no 'polite' response to such an inquiry, I would continue serving the customer while not acknowledging the question.

I agree. Slobs like that don't deserve a response. The deserve a super sized drink thrown in their face, but not a good idea.

Re: Why would anyone say this?

QueenDanceALot — Fri, 02 May 2014 19:50:53 GMT

On 5/2/2014 Preds said:
The best response is a polite smile while thinking of all the other responses listed here. People just blurt out anything and everything when they are trying to make conversation. She could also say she volunteers their in order to study the type of people that eat there for her thesis.

I love it!

hahahahahahahaha!

Re: Why would anyone say this?

Lion — Fri, 02 May 2014 19:52:15 GMT

I agree about ignoring those comments.

Totally ignoring it sends a loud & clear message without words.