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Ladies who live alone

Daysdee — Sat, 26 Apr 2014 00:17:05 GMT

Widows or other ladies that live alone -- what do you do to fill your time? I always have household chores, paperwork, etc., but find times very lonely. This weekend all the "single" ladies I talk to on the phone are all busy. Evenings are so lonely. I don't do crafts, puzzles, etc. I know I should read more and plan to do that. (widow--1 year)

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carolina2 — Sat, 26 Apr 2014 00:49:03 GMT

Hi Daysdee I'm also a widow of almost 3 years. I have a disability that makes walking difficult for me so I usually work on my computer, do crossword and word puzzles, talk on the phone etc. I do get lonely but I have a wonderful family who keeps in touch with me every day and that helps a lot. I hope things work out for you. If you need someone to talk to I'm here.

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ROMARY — Sat, 26 Apr 2014 02:39:25 GMT

Lots of nice folks here to 'talk' with!

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Daysdee — Sat, 26 Apr 2014 03:14:07 GMT

On 4/25/2014 CAROLINA2 said:
Hi Daysdee I'm also a widow of almost 3 years. I have a disability that makes walking difficult for me so I usually work on my computer, do crossword and word puzzles, talk on the phone etc. I do get lonely but I have a wonderful family who keeps in touch with me every day and that helps a lot. I hope things work out for you. If you need someone to talk to I'm here.

That is kind of what I do -- computer, talk on the phone, weather and health permitting I do work in the garden. I don't do puzzles, etc. I was going for daily walks and will resume as soon as I finish recuperation from surgery. I have been rather homebound for many weeks. My family is great and do keep in touch every day too. I don't have brothers or sisters, but I do have several "lady friends" that I speak with on the phone and meet for lunch at times. Some are widows and some are married. They are all friends that don't know each other so I meet with them individually. Haven't been able to do it for several weeks though. Wasn't able to drive, but now I'm back to driving so that helps to get out. Thanks for your post. It helps to talk to someone in a similar situation.

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Kachina624 — Sat, 26 Apr 2014 04:09:22 GMT

If you're lonely, get a pet! I have 3 dogs, 2 big collies and an Aussie. They are wonderful company plus I get involved in some dog-related activities and have friends who also have collies. We have play dates. My life would be so empty without these dogs.

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Feline Fine — Sat, 26 Apr 2014 04:12:51 GMT

If it's possible, an animal companion will add years to your life and enrich every single one. 8)

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Snowpuppy — Sat, 26 Apr 2014 04:20:30 GMT

I wish you well in your recovery!

When you're better is there a "Y" near you? YMCA or YWCA? How about taking a class or joining a local rec center for fitness? Many classes are geared to age or fitness level at very low cost.

Library to check out a local book club. Do they have one that has discussions? How about a flower/garden club since you already have a garden?

If you are a senior, any day trips by motorcoach that are reasonable and get you back home by evening?

Possibilities are endless!

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151949 — Sat, 26 Apr 2014 04:39:33 GMT

How about calling a girlfriend to go out shopping or to eat with? Do you have a girlfriend who is also a widow? I have a friend who was widowed at only 54 yr old - she couldn't take the evenings alone so she got a job working evenings.

I was widowed at age 30 but I was so busy trying to make ends meet after my husband died that I did not have a moment spare to even think about being lonely, plus I had his teenage kids to keep me company. (he was previously divorced and had custody).Also, I moved into a family home with my brother and his family right next door and my grandparents upstairs. To say the least, my life was much too busy and complicated at that time for me to have any time to do anything but struggle to keep going. I was often angry at him for dying and leaving me in this mess - often while I was waiting out in the freezing cold for the bus because I could not afford a car.

They say time heals anything so ... Good luck.

PS - I agree the YMCA is a wonderful resource not just for fitness but for a place to take some classes and make some friends. Or to see friends you already have. DH and I go to the Y to work out or swim almost every day.

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151949 — Sat, 26 Apr 2014 04:46:26 GMT

Another PS - my neighbor across the street is a very recent widow - last evening just before dinner time she came over with a bottle of wine and 3 glasses - she said she was lonely sitting there by herself so we all sat around and had some wine then she stayed for dinner and actually stayed til after the 10PM news. we chatted, watched TV and laughed and cried a little together.So, buy some wine, chill it, and tomorrow evening go over your neighbor's house.

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insomniac — Sat, 26 Apr 2014 05:30:02 GMT

I do a lot of volunteer work (with a senior citizen group called OLLI and at my local library). I also am part of two music groups and several book clubs. I love living alone!

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Daysdee — Sat, 26 Apr 2014 17:28:25 GMT

On 4/25/2014 kachina624 said: If you're lonely, get a pet! I have 3 dogs, 2 big collies and an Aussie. They are wonderful company plus I get involved in some dog-related activities and have friends who also have collies. We have play dates. My life would be so empty without these dogs.

I do have a dog and am so thankful. She is a wonderful companion. Ladies, thanks for the suggestions.

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Bobbi sue — Sat, 26 Apr 2014 17:31:32 GMT

I live alone and a widow. My son and grandkids are in and out. I need an outlet to find new friends and enjoy myself. I am so lonely.

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151949 — Sat, 26 Apr 2014 22:44:09 GMT

On 4/26/2014 Bobbisue said:
I live alone and a widow. My son and grandkids are in and out. I need an outlet to find new friends and enjoy myself. I am so lonely.

Put yourself out there - either get a job or volunteer. a great way to meet people. I'm a retired nurse and I volunteer at the hospital where I help in the kitchen getting trays set up then passed out. if anyone needs fed the nurses tell me and I feed them. I have made some great friends there. this is a small town - I run into patients i have delivered trays to all the time - they remember me and come over to say hello and chat. I also volunteer at my church's food bank, and have made a couple good friends there.

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bells4me — Tue, 29 Apr 2014 18:21:03 GMT

I crochet, read, walk, garden, volunteer at the spay/neuter clinic, day trips, kayak, off road in my side by side, ride my horse, yard sale, go to Farmer's markets. Everything I couldn't do much of before I retired. I am so busy I literally fall into bed at night.

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bells4me — Tue, 29 Apr 2014 18:27:14 GMT

On 4/25/2014 insomniac said:
I do a lot of volunteer work (with a senior citizen group called OLLI and at my local library). I also am part of two music groups and several book clubs. I love living alone!

I love living alone too (well, I do have 4 dogs). No one to take care of or clean up after. I have a fella that takes me to dinner, we go fishing, kayaking etc. He does odd jobs I have around the house & yard. I was married for 38 years & not looking for a long term commitment, just companionship. Tomorrow my daughter & I leave for California for a family wedding.