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    <title>topic Re: She is gone! in Community Chat</title>
    <link>https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/She-is-gone/m-p/773921#M315697</link>
    <description>&lt;BLOCKQUOTE&gt;&lt;SPAN class="quote_author"&gt;On 4/10/2014 &lt;STRONG&gt;dooBdoo&lt;/STRONG&gt; said:&lt;/SPAN&gt; &lt;P&gt;I offer my condolences and prayers. I have lost loved ones to suicide and I know what it's like to be suicidal. I want to share this, as it has helped me, my family and close friends in our grief. I apologize for the length, but this is only an excerpt. The full passage is available at the link, and worth reading:&lt;BR /&gt; &lt;BR /&gt; When Someone Takes His Own Life&lt;BR /&gt; &lt;BR /&gt; Excerpt from: The Healing of Sorrow&lt;BR /&gt; By Norman Vincent Peale&lt;BR /&gt; &lt;BR /&gt; "&lt;EM&gt;Suicide is often judged to be essentially a selfish act. Perhaps it is. But the Bible warns us not to judge. And I believe this is one area where that Biblical command especially should be heeded.&lt;/EM&gt;&lt;BR /&gt; &lt;BR /&gt; &lt;EM&gt;I think our reaction should be one of love and pity, not of condemnation. Perhaps the person was not thinking clearly in his final moments; perhaps he was so driven by emotional whirlwinds that he was incapable of thinking at all. This is terribly sad. But surely it is understandable... Each one of us, probably, has a final breaking point--or would have if our faith did not sustain us. Life puts more pressure on some of us than it does on others. Some people have more stamina than others. When I see in the paper, as I do all too often, that dark despair has rolled over some lonely soul, so much so that for him life seemed unendurable, my reaction is not one of condemnation. It is, rather, "There but for the grace of God…"&lt;/EM&gt;&lt;BR /&gt; &lt;BR /&gt; &lt;EM&gt;And my heart goes out to those who are left behind, because I know that they suffer terribly... The immediate family of the victim is left wide open to tidal waves of guilt "What did I fail to do that I should have done? What did I do that was wrong?"&lt;/EM&gt;&lt;BR /&gt; &lt;BR /&gt; &lt;EM&gt;A few days ago, when a young man died by his own hand, a service for him was conducted by his pastor, the Rev. Warren Stevens. What he said that day expresses, far more eloquently than I can, the message that I'm trying to convey. Here are some of his words:&lt;/EM&gt;&lt;BR /&gt; &lt;BR /&gt; &lt;EM&gt;"Our friend died on his own battlefield. He was killed in action fighting a civil war. He fought against adversaries that were as real to him as his casket is real to us. They were powerful adversaries. They took toll of his energies and endurance. They exhausted the last vestiges of his courage and strength. At last these adversaries overwhelmed him. And it appeared that he lost the war. But did he? I see a host of victories that he has won!&lt;/EM&gt;&lt;BR /&gt; &lt;BR /&gt; &lt;EM&gt;For one thing -- he has won our admiration -- because even if he lost the war, we give him credit for his bravery on the battlefield. And we give him credit for the courage and pride and hope that he used as his weapons as long as he could. We shall remember not his death, but his daily victories gained through his kindnesses and thoughtfulness, through his love for family and friends, for animals and books and music, for all things beautiful, lovely and honorable. We shall remember the many days that he was victorious over overwhelming odds. We shall remember not the years we thought he had left, but the intensity with which he lived the years he had!&lt;/EM&gt;&lt;BR /&gt; &lt;BR /&gt; &lt;EM&gt;Only God knows what this child of His suffered in the silent skirmishes that took place in his soul. But our consolation is that God does know and understands&lt;/EM&gt;."&lt;BR /&gt; &lt;BR /&gt; --Norman Vincent Peale (pastor and counselor)&lt;BR /&gt; &lt;BR /&gt; &lt;A rel="nofollow" href="http://heartbeatsurvivorsaftersuicide.org/materials/when_someone_takes_his_own_life.htm" target="_blank"&gt; http://heartbeatsurvivorsaftersuicide.org/materials/when_someone_takes_his_own_life.htm&lt;/A&gt;&lt;/P&gt; &lt;/BLOCKQUOTE&gt; &lt;P&gt;I guess this does say it all, and I found it to be helpful when dealing with feelings I had when people I have known have committed suicide. I'm so sorry you are experiencing the pain of this loss, and will keep you, and your friend's family in my prayers.&lt;/P&gt;</description>
    <pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2014 16:27:41 GMT</pubDate>
    <dc:creator>Mominohio</dc:creator>
    <dc:date>2014-04-10T16:27:41Z</dc:date>
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      <title>She is gone!</title>
      <link>https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/She-is-gone/m-p/773745#M315582</link>
      <description>&lt;P&gt;My dear friend that I loved so much that moved away........committed suicide Saturday afternoon........the funeral was today..........I did not know..........her elderly dad was so upset of course he could not think to call me.......it happened so fast......we spoke two weeks ago and I had to travel and she was trying to rest and get things in order in her new home and had things to do and now she is just gone and the dinner I went to Saturday night........well she was flown to the hospital here..........I had no idea she was here.........her dad was in the hospital in the state she moved to and he had to get out of the hospital to be with her while she was on the machine.......she died really quickly.......I am really upset of course......she is gone.......we won't ever talk again until I go to Heaven..........she had mental issues so I know she is in Heaven. Please keep her dad and brother in your prayers. Thank you so much. I feel so lost.........never getting to talk to her again.&lt;/P&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2014 05:44:09 GMT</pubDate>
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      <dc:creator>Rainbows and Roses</dc:creator>
      <dc:date>2014-04-10T05:44:09Z</dc:date>
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      <title>Re: She is gone!</title>
      <link>https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/She-is-gone/m-p/773750#M315586</link>
      <description>&lt;P&gt;Oh no.  My condolences RandR.  How awful for her family and friends.&lt;/P&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2014 05:46:28 GMT</pubDate>
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      <dc:creator>scotttie</dc:creator>
      <dc:date>2014-04-10T05:46:28Z</dc:date>
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      <title>Re: She is gone!</title>
      <link>https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/She-is-gone/m-p/773755#M315590</link>
      <description>&lt;P&gt;&lt;IMG src="https://community.qvc.com/" /&gt;Sorry.&lt;/P&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2014 05:46:53 GMT</pubDate>
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      <dc:creator>croemer</dc:creator>
      <dc:date>2014-04-10T05:46:53Z</dc:date>
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      <title>Re: She is gone!</title>
      <link>https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/She-is-gone/m-p/773760#M315594</link>
      <description>&lt;P&gt;R&amp;amp;R (((hugs))) SO sorry to lose a good friend especially this way. Prayers ascending.&lt;/P&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2014 05:47:52 GMT</pubDate>
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      <dc:creator>Lakk</dc:creator>
      <dc:date>2014-04-10T05:47:52Z</dc:date>
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      <title>Re: She is gone!</title>
      <link>https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/She-is-gone/m-p/773765#M315598</link>
      <description>I'm very sorry. I'm sure you'll miss her so much. Hugs to you.</description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2014 05:48:43 GMT</pubDate>
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      <dc:creator>september</dc:creator>
      <dc:date>2014-04-10T05:48:43Z</dc:date>
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      <title>Re: She is gone!</title>
      <link>https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/She-is-gone/m-p/773770#M315602</link>
      <description>&lt;P&gt;Thank you.  I feel so sad and lost.........I don't even feel like taking my sleeping pill tonight......I don't think I can even sleep with it........just to know that it is over and she is gone.....she did not want to die but recently had voices in her head......and they were saying horrible things for her to do.......it was a bit scary for me but I knew she would never do anything on purpose.....she was saved and had such a sweet soul.......she suffered so with bi-polar and depression........she helped me so much when I was so very sick last year and I in turned helped her and packed her up so she could move to be close to her elderly dad.......she had a hard time making friends being bipolar because people were afraid of her behavior sometimes but she did not scare me except one time........but she got her meds right and we thought she was going to breeze through.......that poor dad..........her sister in law was never nice to her........she has to live with that......many people hurt my friends feelings but I can say I have no regrets and that I was there for her when no one else was but her dad.......we all need someone to care for us and we don't need people saying mean things........it cuts deep to the heart of a soul.............if you know someone that is sad........please check on them and let them know you love them.  I know she did not think about me before her act but I sure wish she would have called me and I think she would still be alive..........I helped her so many times but she did not call this time.&lt;/P&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2014 05:53:07 GMT</pubDate>
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      <dc:creator>Rainbows and Roses</dc:creator>
      <dc:date>2014-04-10T05:53:07Z</dc:date>
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      <title>Re: She is gone!</title>
      <link>https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/She-is-gone/m-p/773775#M315606</link>
      <description>&lt;P&gt;Thank you all.  I posted so this might help someone you know that is sad and depressed.......maybe checking on them and doing something nice for them will save their life.  Blessings to you all and thank you.  I am just numb.  She went with me to my son's wedding knowing I was so sick and needed support.......I used to cook for her and me every night last year for months......but especially the year before I did the most cooking since I was so sick last year...........&lt;/P&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2014 05:56:33 GMT</pubDate>
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      <dc:creator>Rainbows and Roses</dc:creator>
      <dc:date>2014-04-10T05:56:33Z</dc:date>
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      <link>https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/She-is-gone/m-p/773780#M315610</link>
      <description>&lt;P&gt;So sorry you lost your friend.  You sound like you were a good friend to her and I'm sure that was a blessing in her life.  Take good care.  &lt;IMG src="https://community.qvc.com/" /&gt;&lt;/P&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2014 06:04:49 GMT</pubDate>
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      <dc:creator>Deb1010again</dc:creator>
      <dc:date>2014-04-10T06:04:49Z</dc:date>
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      <title>Re: She is gone!</title>
      <link>https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/She-is-gone/m-p/773785#M315614</link>
      <description>&lt;P&gt;Goodnight ladies and thank you.&lt;/P&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2014 06:09:05 GMT</pubDate>
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      <dc:creator>Rainbows and Roses</dc:creator>
      <dc:date>2014-04-10T06:09:05Z</dc:date>
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      <link>https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/She-is-gone/m-p/773790#M315618</link>
      <description>&lt;P&gt;I am sorry R&amp;amp;R.  &lt;IMG src="https://community.qvc.com/" /&gt;&lt;/P&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2014 06:18:55 GMT</pubDate>
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      <dc:creator>SeaGal</dc:creator>
      <dc:date>2014-04-10T06:18:55Z</dc:date>
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      <title>Re: She is gone!</title>
      <link>https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/She-is-gone/m-p/773795#M315622</link>
      <description>&lt;P&gt;I am so very sorry for your loss Rainbows. I will certainly keep her family and you in my prayers.&lt;/P&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2014 06:29:01 GMT</pubDate>
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      <dc:creator>Shorty2U</dc:creator>
      <dc:date>2014-04-10T06:29:01Z</dc:date>
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      <link>https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/She-is-gone/m-p/773800#M315625</link>
      <description>&lt;P&gt;I'm sorry to read this. May your friend find the rest and peace she wasn't afforded in this life.&lt;/P&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2014 06:43:20 GMT</pubDate>
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      <dc:creator>bathina</dc:creator>
      <dc:date>2014-04-10T06:43:20Z</dc:date>
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      <title>Re: She is gone!</title>
      <link>https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/She-is-gone/m-p/773805#M315628</link>
      <description>&lt;P&gt;&lt;IMG src="http://www.commentsyard.com/graphics/sympathy/sympathy31.jpg" alt="Sympathy Graphic #31" /&gt;&lt;/P&gt; &lt;P&gt; &lt;/P&gt; &lt;P&gt; &lt;/P&gt; &lt;P&gt; &lt;/P&gt; &lt;P&gt; &lt;/P&gt; &lt;P&gt;Dear Rainbows and Roses,&lt;/P&gt; &lt;P&gt;I'm deeply sorry to hear of the loss of your dear friend. I have been touched by similar circumstances and can only imagine what you must be feeling at this time. Please go over all of the wonderful memories you have of you and your friend and hold them dear to your heart. They will comfort you in future days.&lt;/P&gt; &lt;P&gt;I have said prayers for her father, brothers and you. May God comfort you and hold you all close to His loving and merciful heart at this time. She is with Him, and at great peace.&lt;/P&gt; &lt;P&gt;I know you were a blessing to her and a good friend. This was a tremendous gift to her, as she was to you.&lt;/P&gt; &lt;P&gt;Lean on our Father's grace and mercy to get through this tough time, He will carry you through it tenderly.&lt;/P&gt; &lt;P&gt;Blessings to you and all who knew and loved her.&lt;/P&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2014 07:17:46 GMT</pubDate>
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      <dc:creator>Remee</dc:creator>
      <dc:date>2014-04-10T07:17:46Z</dc:date>
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      <link>https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/She-is-gone/m-p/773810#M315631</link>
      <description>&lt;P&gt;R and R,  I can imagine how sad and lonely you feel without your good friend.  I am so sorry she is gone from your life. &lt;/P&gt; &lt;P&gt; &lt;/P&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2014 08:01:59 GMT</pubDate>
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      <dc:creator>Big Sister</dc:creator>
      <dc:date>2014-04-10T08:01:59Z</dc:date>
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      <title>Re: She is gone!</title>
      <link>https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/She-is-gone/m-p/773815#M315634</link>
      <description>My condolence and prayers for peace of heart and a return of happiness! Xox</description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2014 12:35:01 GMT</pubDate>
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      <dc:creator>Suzy Snowflake</dc:creator>
      <dc:date>2014-04-10T12:35:01Z</dc:date>
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      <title>Re: She is gone!</title>
      <link>https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/She-is-gone/m-p/773820#M315637</link>
      <description>&lt;P&gt;Rainbows and Roses,&lt;SPAN style="font-size: 13px;"&gt; &lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt; &lt;P&gt;&lt;SPAN style="font-size: 13px;"&gt;I too lost a dear friend not too long ago. I know what a big hole that leaves in your heart. &lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt; &lt;P&gt;&lt;SPAN style="font-size: 13px;"&gt;I am truly sorry for your loss, and the pain your are feeling!&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt; &lt;P&gt;&lt;SPAN style="font-size: 13px;"&gt;Kathy&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/P&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2014 13:07:07 GMT</pubDate>
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      <dc:creator>CaliKat</dc:creator>
      <dc:date>2014-04-10T13:07:07Z</dc:date>
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      <link>https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/She-is-gone/m-p/773825#M315640</link>
      <description>&lt;P&gt;I am so sorry for your loss, R&amp;amp;R.&lt;/P&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2014 13:23:41 GMT</pubDate>
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      <dc:creator>Elstongunn</dc:creator>
      <dc:date>2014-04-10T13:23:41Z</dc:date>
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      <title>Re: She is gone!</title>
      <link>https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/She-is-gone/m-p/773830#M315643</link>
      <description>&lt;BLOCKQUOTE&gt;&lt;SPAN class="" quote_author=""&gt;On 4/9/2014 &lt;STRONG&gt;Rainbows and Roses&lt;/STRONG&gt; said:&lt;/SPAN&gt; &lt;P&gt;Thank you. I feel so sad and lost.........I don't even feel like taking my sleeping pill tonight......I don't think I can even sleep with it........just to know that it is over and she is gone.....she did not want to die but recently had voices in her head......and they were saying horrible things for her to do.......it was a bit scary for me &lt;STRONG&gt;&lt;SPAN style=""&gt;but I knew she would never do anything on purpose&lt;/SPAN&gt;&lt;/STRONG&gt;.....she was saved and had such a sweet soul.......she suffered so with bi-polar and depression........she helped me so much when I was so very sick last year and I in turned helped her and packed her up so she could move to be close to her elderly dad.......she had a hard time making friends being bipolar because people were afraid of her behavior sometimes but she did not scare me except one time........but she got her meds right and we thought she was going to breeze through.......that poor dad..........her sister in law was never nice to her........she has to live with that......many people hurt my friends feelings but I can say I have no regrets and that I was there for her when no one else was but her dad.......we all need someone to care for us and we don't need people saying mean things........it cuts deep to the heart of a soul.............if you know someone that is sad........please check on them and let them know you love them. I know she did not think about me before her act but I sure wish she would have called me and I think she would still be alive..........I helped her so many times but she did not call this time.&lt;/P&gt; &lt;/BLOCKQUOTE&gt; &lt;P&gt;WHAT? you just said she committed suicide but would never do it on purpose?&lt;/P&gt; &lt;P&gt;You mean she was expressing suicidal thoughts to you (or who?) and you did not think she would do it..the voices in her head were telling her? Those are the worst kind..when you have auditory AND command hallucinations..and you DO take them serious...&lt;/P&gt; &lt;P&gt;Never ever think that you know anybody who is mentally ill and expresses thoughts of dying..that they would not do it..you always treat them as IF they would..&lt;/P&gt; &lt;P&gt;oh my..&lt;/P&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2014 13:27:04 GMT</pubDate>
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      <dc:creator>CouponQueen</dc:creator>
      <dc:date>2014-04-10T13:27:04Z</dc:date>
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      <title>Re: She is gone!</title>
      <link>https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/She-is-gone/m-p/773835#M315646</link>
      <description>&lt;P&gt;There's so much I can say here but won't.&lt;/P&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2014 13:38:07 GMT</pubDate>
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      <dc:creator>Canada61</dc:creator>
      <dc:date>2014-04-10T13:38:07Z</dc:date>
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      <link>https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/She-is-gone/m-p/773840#M315649</link>
      <description>&lt;P&gt;I am so sorry for your loss R&amp;amp;R.&lt;/P&gt; &lt;P&gt; &lt;/P&gt; &lt;P&gt; &lt;/P&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2014 14:47:38 GMT</pubDate>
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      <dc:creator>Pqfan</dc:creator>
      <dc:date>2014-04-10T14:47:38Z</dc:date>
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