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Question re gifting

Patriot3 — Sat, 10 Aug 2024 22:55:48 GMT

I have so many nice indoor decorations from all seasons. I have heart failure and just don't have the energy to decorate like I used to.

So, I am wondering....what's your opinion that I start gifting these pieces to my grandchildren. Have any of you done this and do you think the gc appreciate this gesture?

They are all good people, all married but one and I have a good relationship w/all of them. TIA!!

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CelticCrafter — Sat, 10 Aug 2024 23:00:49 GMT

I would ask not just assume that they would want them.

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TheWanderingOne — Sat, 10 Aug 2024 23:00:49 GMT

I think you'd do well to check with them to see if there are any pieces that they would want. I had/have large storage tubs of various decor items that were passed down to me from older relatives. I neither like or want them - to me they are just more clutter, but i didn't want to hurt their feelings. There's nothing valuable about any of the items. As room in the community dumpster becomes available, in goes another tub. I'm down to the last 2.

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kitcat51 — Sat, 10 Aug 2024 23:05:06 GMT

Invite them over, they can take what they want & donate the rest. Take care @Patriot3

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deepwaterdotter — Sat, 10 Aug 2024 23:05:47 GMT

If by "gifting" you mean allowing them to choose those items that appeal to them, it might be a good thing. It is my experience that choosing home decoration items is a very personal decision.

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homedecor1 — Sat, 10 Aug 2024 23:10:06 GMT

I'm in the same situation have beautiful decor for every season but now that I'm alone since my spouse passed (my spouse used to love the house decorated) I don't have the desire to put it all out @Patriot3.

I asked my family members to go thru my things and take what they'd like -- unfortunately, we live 1500 miles apart. They've taken things they could but I still have a lot.

I think it's great to gift/give pieces if your grandchildren & others if they want them & would enjoy and a nice rememberance of you!

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ScrapHappy — Sat, 10 Aug 2024 23:08:14 GMT

I agree with the other posters. Check with them first. Show them what you have and ask them if there is anything they'd like to have. I go to estate sales and they are always over flowing with holiday decorations. Most just walk by them. I don't think people decorate that much anymore. When I lived in California, hardly anyone decorated for any holiday. My neighbors across the street have 3 young ones and hardly decorate at all. A little bit for Christmas and maybe just a wreath for Halloween. That's it.

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rockygems123 — Sat, 10 Aug 2024 23:14:14 GMT

@Patriot3

I think that is very thoughtful of you to consider them, they may each have individual attachments to different decorations, so it would be great to ask them.

When my sister and I were going through our parents' house I took kitchen things like spatulas, knives, things I remember them using during our many meals including holiday ones.

Not sure what my sister took but she said I could take the whole kitchen lol.

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Carmie — Sat, 10 Aug 2024 23:21:49 GMT

Be prepared. Your grandchildren might not want anything. Hopefully, they might take an item or two that they always liked and that reminds them of you and your home around the holidays.

I cleaned out the home of a friend who was a holiday decor nut. She had so many items....not cheap, collectibles that cost her over $100 each...some much more No one wanted them.

She had Christmas, Easter, Fall, Halloween, Valentines Day, St Paddy'S Day and Patriotic decor.

I tried to give to family, then friends, then yard sales and finally donate. Hardly any one wanted anything. Even the charity shops did not want holiday decor.

If I had the time, I guess I could have tried e-bay, but her house needed to be sold and everything had to go. I just couldn't sell or give away much in the time frame I had to work with.

I gave some stuff to a bunch of kids at a yard sales and they were happy.

Only the Halloween and Fall stuff had a lot of interest and most of it was sold.

I too, have a bunch of Christmas and Easter stuff sitting in my basement. I no longer decorate.

I guess I will ask my kids and grands if they want anything.

I hate throwing this stuff out, but I know that is where some of it will end up.

I hope your grands are interested. I would ask them.

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cheriere — Sat, 10 Aug 2024 23:57:20 GMT

@Patriot3

I would think they'd love ❤️ to have some of these items. Just ask them to come over and see what they would want.

I know years ago my grandmother did something similar for us grandkids and I treasure these things. I take good care of them too. Even now, whenever I set them out for the holidays I think of her.❤️

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Mom2Dogs — Sun, 11 Aug 2024 00:11:10 GMT

I am re-gifting an item this year...My granddaughter is expecting a baby late December, and I have a hand-crafted Christmas stocking that has a vintage santa face on the front...very nice and something I purchased years ago at a Yankee Peddler show. It is in great shape.

I no longer put it out at Christmas so this year I am going to find things for the new baby that are small enough to fit in the stocking for baby's gift...it's a win,win...baby gets presents and I am gifting the stocking to the baby.

I have also thought about taking a lantern that I no longer use/want and fill it with a fall or Christmas scene...if I can do a nice job and feel like it is giftable I will do that...

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hkrgrl — Sun, 11 Aug 2024 00:41:02 GMT

sp thoughtful of you!!

i changed my decorating habits, just doing a lot less and more thoughtful/meaningful pieces.

i put everything out that i no longer wanted/needed and had my kids come over and take what they want. it worked out great and i donated the rest.

i would have them come over and pick what the wanted.

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Burnsite — Sun, 11 Aug 2024 00:51:43 GMT

All good wishes for your health, patriot3.

If they live far away, ask the grands if there is any ornament they especailly remember or like.

When I moved recently, I gave most of my my Christmas ornaments to the Goodwill folks, a wonderful group in my former city,

They told me they gave them away to needy families. I was delighted to hear it.

(They kept my Belleek for sale, though

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jlkz — Sun, 11 Aug 2024 00:51:16 GMT

@Carmie

When my mother was in the nursing home with dementia, I gave them her Christmas decor items. The front desk hung and displayed them for all to enjoy.

Perhaps similar type places would welcome your basement items.....

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Love my grandkids — Sun, 11 Aug 2024 01:31:18 GMT

@Patriot3 Talk to them and explain the situation. Ask them to come over and choose the things they would like to have.

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JeanLouiseFinch — Sun, 11 Aug 2024 11:59:03 GMT

Ask first and preface that an answer of "no thanks" is perfectly fine and there won't be any hard feelings. Sorry if this sounds insensitive but even if YOU think the decorations are nice, unless the grandkids are older with their own homes and may want a piece or two, it sounds like you're passing your trash along and making someone else deal with your collection. Ask each grandchild once, if they want to pick anything out, then drop the subject. Bring the decorations to a resale shop or donate them somewhere.

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shoekitty — Sun, 11 Aug 2024 02:12:40 GMT

I would ask, and let them choose. I can't imagine anyone minding you offering. I don't think I would give like a gift, wrapped up though. I am 76, and have 8 grands ranging from 19-35. They are always going thru my stuff. And here in California thrifting, and regifting is huge with their age group. But, they are of a different breed when it comes to household stuff. I have 8 sets of China, real sterling silverware that is almost 100 hrs old, and some antiques. I have asked..they just don't use it. And although I don't use the China, here in California,most thrift stores don't take it as donations because of lead content. Sigh. Who'd a thunk it? We used to,treasure this stuff. My poor mom, would be so upset and sad her things weren't being reused after me.

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Rockycoast — Sun, 11 Aug 2024 06:29:30 GMT

I would ask them first rather than gifting them with things they may not want. Let them come over and check out what you have. If they don’t want anything then donate to your local thrift store. But ask them first.

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LizzieInSRQ — Sun, 11 Aug 2024 11:26:03 GMT

If you check and grands dpnt take it all, and you live in a neighborhood that allows, you might want to think about leaving stuff on your curb for others to take. Ive never not had anything left by the end of the day when i put stuff out. Keeps me from having to trash it or take to Goodwill (which is not a bad idea if still in selling condition).

You can slso call shelters to see if they need decorations.

One time, driving by around my corner, i saw one of my things I had curbside at someone's garage sale. ( They have one once a month so they do this curb picking often.) Good on them!

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jackthebear — Sun, 11 Aug 2024 12:09:40 GMT

@Patriot3 wrote:
I have so many nice indoor decorations from all seasons. I have heart failure and just don't have the energy to decorate like I used to.

So, I am wondering....what's your opinion that I start gifting these pieces to my grandchildren. Have any of you done this and do you think the gc appreciate this gesture?

They are all good people, all married but one and I have a good relationship w/all of them. TIA!!

ask/email/text if anyone wants anything, arrange a time for pick up
tell them if not claimed by XX date will go in trash

and stick to it