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Missing My Mother Today...

SandySparkles — Fri, 10 May 2024 16:15:48 GMT

I woke this morning with my dear mother weighing heavy on my heart❤ and wanted SO much to be able to hug and tell her I LOVE💝 her, then reality set in! She had been in poor health for years, and went to Heaven several years ago!😔

She contracted COVID, and passed during restrictions in the hospital! 😔I wanted SO badly to sit at her bedside and hold her hand during her transition! I INSISTED she be given a bed bath, and that her bed be changed so that she would have fresh linens! She could hear my voice and her favorite hymn playing thanks to the dedicated staff!!❤ Watching through the glass was surreal, and the most DIFFICULT thing I have EVER experienced!!! I had never cried so hard!!😢 I know others have unfortunately faced this very scenario.❤

Our relationship was TUMULTUOUS at times but she ALWAYS depended on me.❤ There were GOOD times as well, and I cherish those precious memories!❤ I especially miss her laugh!🥰 She was an EXCELLENT cook and baker, and thankfully those talents were passed on to me.😁 I have come to realize THAT was her way of caring.😊 She LOVED💝 her grandchildren, and they absolutely ADORED her!❤

I have been feeling quite sentimental for several days, and MISS her every day, but the past few days have been especially TOUGH! For those of you who may have a fractured relationship with your mother or just MISS her dearly❤, with Mother's Day approaching, PLEASE reach out and call her if you are able to! We are not promised tomorrow!🥰 I would give ANYTHING to have the chance to do so today!💝💝

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

Re: Missing My Mother Today...

ThinkingOutLoud — Fri, 10 May 2024 16:21:57 GMT

@SandySparkles wrote:
I woke this morning with my dear mother weighing heavy on my heart❤ and wanted SO much to be able to hug and tell her I LOVE💝 her, then reality set in! She had been in poor health for years, and went to Heaven several years ago!😔

She contracted COVID, and passed during restrictions in the hospital! 😔I wanted SO badly to sit at her bedside and hold her hand during her transition! I INSISTED she be given a bed bath, and that her bed be changed so that she would have fresh linens! She could hear my voice and her favorite hymn playing thanks to the dedicated staff!!❤ Watching through the glass was surreal, and the most DIFFICULT thing I have EVER experienced!!! I had never cried so hard!!😢 I know others have unfortunately faced this very scenario.❤

Our relationship was TUMULTUOUS at times but she ALWAYS depended on me.❤ There were GOOD times as well, and I cherish those precious memories!❤ I especially miss her laugh!🥰 She was an EXCELLENT cook and baker, and thankfully those talents were passed on to me.😁 I have come to realize THAT was her way of caring.😊 She LOVED💝 her grandchildren, and they absolutely ADORED her!❤

I have been feeling quite sentimental for several days, and MISS her every day, but the past few days have been especially TOUGH! For those of you who may have a fractured relationship with your mother or just MISS her dearly❤, with Mother's Day approaching, PLEASE reach out and call her if you are able to! We are not promised tomorrow!🥰 I would give ANYTHING to have the chance to do so today!💝💝

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

I'm so sorry for your loss. {hugs}

She's not far away and you can talk to her any time.

Re: Missing My Mother Today...

haddon9 — Fri, 10 May 2024 16:23:26 GMT

@SandySparkles I'm sorry to hear that your mom passed during the height of Covid. I think it was very cruel for those who were hospitalized to not be able to have their loved ones at their bedside if family members wanted to be there. I can't imagine.

My own mother passed almost three years ago in May. Her health had deteriorated so we had gone to visit in in April (I'm in PA and mom insisted on staying in south Fl). When she passed she was in hospice in the hospital and none of us were around either....I felt guilty about that but was glad we did get to see her during her last few weeks.

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On It — Fri, 10 May 2024 16:25:36 GMT

@SandySparkles I know your loss well. My mother passed twenty years ago. Many times I want to ask her a question or tell her some exciting news, but she is not here. Feeling a bit lost or alone never seems to completely disappear. The oddest things bring that feeling back to the surface.

Your mom's loss at that horrid time was made especially difficult. I am sorry for those circumstances that compounded your grief and for the loss of your mom.

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beckyb1012 — Fri, 10 May 2024 16:25:59 GMT

I am so sorry Sandy. I too have been thinking about mine so much this week with Mother's Day coming up. We lost her three days after Mother's Day in 2013. On that holiday I sat by her bedside while she thought she was making me homemade soup and kept asking me if it was good.

I will never forget those last few days then how blessed she was to open her eyes and see our Lord.

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QVCkitty1 — Fri, 10 May 2024 16:27:49 GMT

@SandySparkles , I completely understand . My mom was truly my best friend and I miss her every day. When I was younger we had some rocky moments , but even then I knew she loved me and was always in my corner. If I possess any good qualities I owe it all to my tough, but fair German mom. My friends loved her and those her knew her still mention how much they miss her. I'm not religious, but part of me wishes all of our wonderful moms that are no longer with us are having coffee and chatting. Happy Mother's Day mama ! 🌷🪻🌷

Re: Missing My Mother Today...

SandySparkles — Fri, 10 May 2024 16:29:57 GMT

@ThinkingOutLoud wrote:
@SandySparkles wrote:
I woke this morning with my dear mother weighing heavy on my heart❤ and wanted SO much to be able to hug and tell her I LOVE💝 her, then reality set in! She had been in poor health for years, and went to Heaven several years ago!😔

She contracted COVID, and passed during restrictions in the hospital! 😔I wanted SO badly to sit at her bedside and hold her hand during her transition! I INSISTED she be given a bed bath, and that her bed be changed so that she would have fresh linens! She could hear my voice and her favorite hymn playing thanks to the dedicated staff!!❤ Watching through the glass was surreal, and the most DIFFICULT thing I have EVER experienced!!! I had never cried so hard!!😢 I know others have unfortunately faced this very scenario.❤

Our relationship was TUMULTUOUS at times but she ALWAYS depended on me.❤ There were GOOD times as well, and I cherish those precious memories!❤ I especially miss her laugh!🥰 She was an EXCELLENT cook and baker, and thankfully those talents were passed on to me.😁 I have come to realize THAT was her way of caring.😊 She LOVED💝 her grandchildren, and they absolutely ADORED her!❤

I have been feeling quite sentimental for several days, and MISS her every day, but the past few days have been especially TOUGH! For those of you who may have a fractured relationship with your mother or just MISS her dearly❤, with Mother's Day approaching, PLEASE reach out and call her if you are able to! We are not promised tomorrow!🥰 I would give ANYTHING to have the chance to do so today!💝💝

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

I'm so sorry for your loss. {hugs}
She's not far away and you can talk to her any time.

@ThinkingOutLoud Welcome!🥰 Thank you!❤ I find myself talking to her without realizing it sometimes; especially when I am overwhelmed.❤

THANK you So much for the hugs.🤗💝

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

Re: Missing My Mother Today...

fthunt — Fri, 10 May 2024 16:35:43 GMT

Today - May 10 - was my Mom's birthday

Often falling on Mother's day................

Re: Missing My Mother Today...

SandySparkles — Fri, 10 May 2024 16:36:35 GMT

@On It wrote:
@SandySparkles I know your loss well. My mother passed twenty years ago. Many times I want to ask her a question or tell her some exciting news, but she is not here. Feeling a bit lost or alone never seems to completely disappear. The oddest things bring that feeling back to the surface.

Your mom's loss at that horrid time was made especially difficult. I am sorry for those circumstances that compounded your grief and for the loss of your mom.

@On It Welcome!🥰 Your sentiment sums it up so nicely!❤ It is sometimes the peculiar things that trigger it!👍

THANK you SO much for caring to share!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

Re: Missing My Mother Today...

SandySparkles — Fri, 10 May 2024 16:47:08 GMT

@beckyb1012 wrote:
I am so sorry Sandy. I too have been thinking about mine so much this week with Mother's Day coming up. We lost her three days after Mother's Day in 2013. On that holiday I sat by her bedside while she thought she was making me homemade soup and kept asking me if it was good.

I will never forget those last few days then how blessed she was to open her eyes and see our Lord.

@beckyb1012 Your heartfelt post tugged at my heart.❤ How WONDERFUL it is that you had that special time with her! It is truly a blessing.🥰

THANK you So much for caring to share such a special memory!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

Re: Missing My Mother Today...

Alsace Gal — Fri, 10 May 2024 16:47:57 GMT

@SandySparkles

I am o very sorry for the loss of your dear mother and the way you weren't able to hold her hand, it leaves an emptiness.
Have peace knowing she knew you loved her and was as close as allowed.

Re: Missing My Mother Today...

SandySparkles — Fri, 10 May 2024 17:03:53 GMT

@haddon9 wrote:
@SandySparkles I'm sorry to hear that your mom passed during the height of Covid. I think it was very cruel for those who were hospitalized to not be able to have their loved ones at their bedside if family members wanted to be there. I can't imagine.

My own mother passed almost three years ago in May. Her health had deteriorated so we had gone to visit in in April (I'm in PA and mom insisted on staying in south Fl). When she passed she was in hospice in the hospital and none of us were around either....I felt guilty about that but was glad we did get to see her during her last few weeks.

@haddon9 It was a terrible time INDEED! Not being able to touch her, only compounds the grief😔, but I am forever GRATEFUL that they played her favorite hymn. I take comfort in knowing she heard it even though she was unresponsive.🥰 I empathize with your feelings of guilt,❤ but what a BLESSING it was for you to have had a chance see her!💝That memory will always hug you!🤗

THANK you SO much for caring to share!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

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AuntG — Fri, 10 May 2024 17:09:22 GMT

I send you hugs @SandySparkles. How quickly I forgot that so many people had to watch their loved ones pass away through the lense of a camera. Covid decimated everything for way too long.

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sugarbee — Fri, 10 May 2024 17:14:21 GMT

@SandySparklesThe memories of our Moms grow more precious each and every year. My Mom passed 21 years ago and is seems like yesterday. I catch myself doing things like she used to or saying words as she did. My grandmother had this poem on a plaque her son had given her. I know it always brings me comfort and I hope it brings a peace to you as you think of your Mom.

M is for the many things she gave me

O means only she is getting old

T is for the tears she shed for me

H is for her heart of pure gold

E is for her eyes with love light shing

R is for right and right she will always be

Put them together and they spell Mother, the dearest word to me

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Puppy Lips — Fri, 10 May 2024 17:14:35 GMT

I am sorry for your loss. You spoke of your troubled relationship with your Mom on another thread. My mom passed almost 4 years ago and I miss her everyday, more than I thought I would. I am still dealing with some of her STUFF left behind. Though I have 3 kids, Mother’s Day just makes me sad as I feel like an orphan. So just know that you are not alone. Bake some treats for your family and friends as a tribute to your mom.

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GinaV24 — Fri, 10 May 2024 17:15:16 GMT

@SandySparkles I'm so very sorry for your loss. Losing anyone is so terribly difficult and I cannot imagine how difficult it was to lose a loved one during the Covid restrictions when none of us could be close to them.

I lost my mom many years ago. It's a loss that aches in my heart every day.

Wishing you well and sending love to you.

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SandySparkles — Fri, 10 May 2024 17:15:28 GMT

@QVCkitty1 wrote:
@SandySparkles , I completely understand . My mom was truly my best friend and I miss her every day. When I was younger we had some rocky moments , but even then I knew she loved me and was always in my corner. If I possess any good qualities I owe it all to my tough, but fair German mom. My friends loved her and those her knew her still mention how much they miss her. I'm not religious, but part of me wishes all of our wonderful moms that are no longer with us are having coffee and chatting. Happy Mother's Day mama ! 🌷🪻🌷

@QVCkitty1 Welcome!🥰 Your dear mother sounds like a WONDERFUL person!❤ To be LOVED and missed by so many is truly special! My mother had a hot and cold heart towards me but she was a STRONG woman!😊 I now understand that I inherited my tenacious spirit from her!❤

THANK you SO much for caring to share such sweet words and wishes!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

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mildoo — Fri, 10 May 2024 17:17:05 GMT

My mother passed away 27 years ago and I still think of her everyday. My mother had a great sense of humor and there are so many times something will strike me as comic and I wish I could share it with her and hear her laugh again. My mother was tough and a hard working lady and she didn't let you get away with too much and she was always there for us. She used to tell me your mother is your best friend and in time I found that to be true. God Bless all mothers.

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GinaV24 — Fri, 10 May 2024 17:18:14 GMT

I'm so sorry for your loss @fthunt. My Mom's birthday is in May too and I always feel that double whammy of loss with her birthday followed by Mother's Day.

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SandySparkles — Fri, 10 May 2024 17:22:05 GMT

@fthunt wrote:
Today - May 10 - was my Mom's birthday

Often falling on Mother's day................

@fthunt Welcome!🥰 I know today must be weighing on your heart as you reflect about your dear mother on her birthday!❤ May cherished memories of her provide COMFORT to you today!!💝💝

THANK you SO much for caring to share today!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖