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Procrastinator

QVCkitty1 — Mon, 06 May 2024 17:13:37 GMT

I feel like I should be at a meeting, " Hi I'm Kitty and I'm a procrastinator." I hate calling about issues, so instead I stew about the problem until in my mind it is a huge problem. That being said , I have improved with age, but what brought the subject up was my call to the bank this morning. There was an issue and as usual I manufactured all of these problems in my twisted brain , so I kicked myself in the butt and made a call. The issue was quickly resolved and I just marveled a how I could reach my advanced age and still make mountains out of molehills. Are there any other procrastinators out there, or is it just me overthinking. If you are still reading , thanks. 🌺

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lgfan — Mon, 06 May 2024 17:14:37 GMT

@QVCkitty1 wrote:
I feel like I should be at a meeting, " Hi I'm Kitty and I'm a procrastinator." I hate calling about issues, so instead I stew about the problem until in my mind it is a huge problem. That being said , I have improved with age, but what brought the subject up was my call to the bank this morning. There was an issue and as usual I manufactured all of these problems in my twisted brain , so I kicked myself in the butt and made a call. The issue was quickly resolved and I just marveled a how I could reach my advanced age and still make mountains out of molehills. Are there any other procrastinators out there, or is it just me overthinking. If you are still reading , thanks. 🌺

If there were meetings for procrastinators would anyone show up?

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QVCkitty1 — Mon, 06 May 2024 17:16:47 GMT

@lgfan wrote:
@QVCkitty1 wrote:
I feel like I should be at a meeting, " Hi I'm Kitty and I'm a procrastinator." I hate calling about issues, so instead I stew about the problem until in my mind it is a huge problem. That being said , I have improved with age, but what brought the subject up was my call to the bank this morning. There was an issue and as usual I manufactured all of these problems in my twisted brain , so I kicked myself in the butt and made a call. The issue was quickly resolved and I just marveled a how I could reach my advanced age and still make mountains out of molehills. Are there any other procrastinators out there, or is it just me overthinking. If you are still reading , thanks. 🌺

If there were meetings for procrastinators would anyone show up?

@lgfan , If we did , it would be late, LOL

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Love my grandkids — Mon, 06 May 2024 17:19:27 GMT

@QVCkitty1 I understand. For years I had that problem until decades ago it caused me a big problem at work and i came thisclose to losing my job. I had a good boss who gave me another chance and I really learned my lesson.

It's a challenge but just take the bull by the horns and do what needs to be done. You'll be amazed at how much less stressful you will feel!

I too have made a small problem huge in my mind and then deal with it and it all works out fine. I don't do that anymore because I was just driving myself nuts.

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VanSleepy — Mon, 06 May 2024 17:22:05 GMT

My heart happens to be pounding right now over something I've been procrastinating about. and time's almost up!

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Love my grandkids — Mon, 06 May 2024 17:31:32 GMT

@VanSleepy No advice just been there, done that. I don't do it anymore because I was driving myself crazy.

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D Kay — Mon, 06 May 2024 17:55:40 GMT

If there's one thing I'm good at, it's prcrastination.

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Mom2Dogs — Mon, 06 May 2024 18:00:03 GMT

@QVCkitty1 I have flaws but putting things off is not one of them...my motto is 'Don't put off until tomorrow what you can do today'.

That is especially important in my work life. DH and I are self employed and if there is an illness or other emergency, I want to know that when I left the office 'most' everything I could do that day is done...you never know what the next day will bring and we have no one to cover for us.

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Tinkrbl44 — Mon, 06 May 2024 18:06:02 GMT

@QVCkitty1 wrote:
I feel like I should be at a meeting, " Hi I'm Kitty and I'm a procrastinator." I hate calling about issues, so instead I stew about the problem until in my mind it is a huge problem. That being said , I have improved with age, but what brought the subject up was my call to the bank this morning. There was an issue and as usual I manufactured all of these problems in my twisted brain , so I kicked myself in the butt and made a call. The issue was quickly resolved and I just marveled a how I could reach my advanced age and still make mountains out of molehills. Are there any other procrastinators out there, or is it just me overthinking. If you are still reading , thanks. 🌺

@QVCkitty1

JMO, but I think you need to identify the "payoff" for your procrastination. What do you get out of it? What's the benefit? If you didn't benefit in some way, you'd stop. Mull over that for a while.

OR ... Is it possible that you hold back out of FEAR? Afraid of making a mistake or making the wrong choice?

Rather than beating yourself up over this, try to get to the root of WHY ... what's the payoff?

BTW ... personally, I prefer the term Chronic Overthinker. LOL

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QVCkitty1 — Mon, 06 May 2024 18:06:36 GMT

@Mom2Dogs wrote:
@QVCkitty1 I have flaws but putting things off is not one of them...my motto is 'Don't put off until tomorrow what you can do today'.

That is especially important in my work life. DH and I are self employed and if there is an illness or other emergency, I want to know that when I left the office 'most' everything I could do that day is done...you never know what the next day will bring and we have no one to cover for us.

@Mom2Dogs , In my defense, in an emergency I'm great ( probably my hospital training.) However, insurance, banking and minor household repairs and panic sets in . 🤦‍♀️

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QVCkitty1 — Mon, 06 May 2024 18:11:05 GMT

@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@QVCkitty1 wrote:
I feel like I should be at a meeting, " Hi I'm Kitty and I'm a procrastinator." I hate calling about issues, so instead I stew about the problem until in my mind it is a huge problem. That being said , I have improved with age, but what brought the subject up was my call to the bank this morning. There was an issue and as usual I manufactured all of these problems in my twisted brain , so I kicked myself in the butt and made a call. The issue was quickly resolved and I just marveled a how I could reach my advanced age and still make mountains out of molehills. Are there any other procrastinators out there, or is it just me overthinking. If you are still reading , thanks. 🌺

@QVCkitty1

JMO, but I think you need to identify the "payoff" for your procrastination. What do you get out of it? What's the benefit? If you didn't benefit in some way, you'd stop. Mull over that for a while.

OR ... Is it possible that you hold back out of FEAR? Afraid of making a mistake or making the wrong choice?

Rather than beating yourself up over this, try to get to the root of WHY ... what's the payoff?

BTW ... personally, I prefer the term Chronic Overthinker. LOL

@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@QVCkitty1 wrote:
I feel like I should be at a meeting, " Hi I'm Kitty and I'm a procrastinator." I hate calling about issues, so instead I stew about the problem until in my mind it is a huge problem. That being said , I have improved with age, but what brought the subject up was my call to the bank this morning. There was an issue and as usual I manufactured all of these problems in my twisted brain , so I kicked myself in the butt and made a call. The issue was quickly resolved and I just marveled a how I could reach my advanced age and still make mountains out of molehills. Are there any other procrastinators out there, or is it just me overthinking. If you are still reading , thanks. 🌺

@QVCkitty1

JMO, but I think you need to identify the "payoff" for your procrastination. What do you get out of it? What's the benefit? If you didn't benefit in some way, you'd stop. Mull over that for a while.

OR ... Is it possible that you hold back out of FEAR? Afraid of making a mistake or making the wrong choice?

Rather than beating yourself up over this, try to get to the root of WHY ... what's the payoff?

BTW ... personally, I prefer the term Chronic Overthinker. LOL

@Tinkrbl44 , What still amazes me is that after countless examples of how dealing with the problem takes away the stress, I still put it off.

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masque — Mon, 06 May 2024 18:11:35 GMT

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on the bay — Mon, 06 May 2024 19:21:43 GMT

@QVCkitty1,

I can relate to your getting overwhelmed at the little things, changes that have to be dealt with or things that come up. Not the big things.I'm trying to think of these things more calmly not get upset about it, and that I can fix it or work thru it.

I have the opposite thing from procrastination. People are always telling me, and I tell myself-I don't have to do it right now or all at once or all by myself. But I don't usually listen.

But I'm trying and trying not to get upset about any and all the mix ups, appt's, mistakes of businesses etc etc and just saying to myself-I can do this.

And calmly thinking it doesn't have to all be done all today.

And also trying to ask for help better, even when there are many offers, I like to do it myself but can't always.

I think procrastination comes from knowing or believing it will not be a pleasant thing to do, or fix and that is pretty natural I think. It's just how we handle it-too much or putting off for too long.There's probably a nice balance in there somewhere!

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LavernLuvsShoes — Mon, 06 May 2024 19:30:16 GMT

@Mom2Dogs wrote:
... my motto is 'Don't put off until tomorrow what you can do today'

Me too - I'm what's known as an "action-oriented" personality.

Hubby is a master procrastinator - Drives me CRAZY!!!

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Carmie — Mon, 06 May 2024 19:38:53 GMT

Yes, I am a procrasnator. Not always, but sometimes I am just not excited to do something I know I need to or that I should.

Eventually, I get it done....and on time. I just wait until almost the last minute.

My husband is the opposite. He is always in a hurry to get things done.

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KathyM23 — Mon, 06 May 2024 23:32:22 GMT

I would say I am a semi-procrastinator. Things that would have dire consequences or inconveniences if put off, I will make myself take care of it immediately..

But if I can put something off for awhile or think about it later (put it in pending), I will take advantage of that and wait til it is impossble to wait any longer or forget about it and later just say Oh Well. I call myself a "put my head in the sand" personality.

Sometimes I have found procrastinating has actually had an advantage. For instance things turned out OK or were resolved without any action on my part or for some reason become unnecessary.

Currently I have 3 items on my desk that I have some time to take care off. One I am defnitley going to to (sometime soon) and the other 2, I'll think about for awhile. These are the type of items I have found I have to do when the mood strikes me and I clear all I can, but i have to be in the mood. Today I did take care of an item that has been here on my desk for a couple weeks (not important but just needing done) and today I felt like doing it.

I am one that doesn't like to be early for anything, just on time. Although I do have a bad habit of running a little late and having to rush. So I will come to the procrastinator's meeting about 5 minutes late (my usual).

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JeanLouiseFinch — Tue, 07 May 2024 00:38:10 GMT

@QVCkitty1 wrote:
I feel like I should be at a meeting, " Hi I'm Kitty and I'm a procrastinator." I hate calling about issues, so instead I stew about the problem until in my mind it is a huge problem. That being said , I have improved with age, but what brought the subject up was my call to the bank this morning. There was an issue and as usual I manufactured all of these problems in my twisted brain , so I kicked myself in the butt and made a call. The issue was quickly resolved and I just marveled a how I could reach my advanced age and still make mountains out of molehills. Are there any other procrastinators out there, or is it just me overthinking. If you are still reading , thanks. 🌺

I'll tell ya later......😉

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Lucky Charm — Tue, 07 May 2024 03:10:19 GMT

I used to put ads in the paper for beach rentals.

I loved writing the ad, even paying for the ad.

But then I would be flooded with phone calls.

And I froze.

All it took was one call-back, usually first caller and I was making money.

But sometimes, I just let things go for a few days when I knew people wanted an answer NOW. No one was ever irate about it, but I guess I thought they might be.

It's something I stressed about for a long time. Then I handed it over to realtors to handle. I paid a fee, but then I couldn't kick myself for being a procrastinator and the stress of being a procrastinator.

Right now I'm being a procrastinator with making my dentist appointment. Help me!!!

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LuvSoCal — Tue, 07 May 2024 03:23:55 GMT

@Carmie wrote:
Yes, I am a procrasnator. Not always, but sometimes I am just not excited to do something I know I need to or that I should.

Eventually, I get it done....and on time. I just wait until almost the last minute.

My husband is the opposite. He is always in a hurry to get things done.

@Carmie My SO is the same as your DH. He has to get something done right now. I always tell him "You're so impulsive"! Me? I really have to give something a lot of thought before following through (not really...I just, like you, put some things off until the last minute). I work better under pressure.

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beach-mom — Tue, 07 May 2024 03:51:42 GMT

I have always been a procrastinator. Even though I was a good student, I would wait until the last minute to study, read a required book, finish a paper, etc. My senior thesis was due at 4:30 p.m. I was running across the quadrangle at 4:20 to slip it under my professor's door. (I made it!)

Later, when I was newly married and DH's family was coming to visit, I would wait until the night before to clean and get things ready, even though I should have started days before. I usually ended up staying up most of the night.

I got better once my children were born. And I rarely procrastinated when I was teaching. I couldn't. Now, I have to get things ready in time at work. And I do. But I still procrastinate at home.

Someone told me years ago I was a perfectionist. I disagreed. But I learned they are connected. For example, cleaning the powder room. Some will concentrate on the toilet, sink, and floor, and that's it. I will do those, but notice the baseboards need dusting. I'd better take care of those before I do anything else. Oh, and the shelves need to be cleaned. Every item on the shelf needs cleaning or refilling. I have to go upstairs to get some things. It's almost time to eat, so I'll do it later. And I end up putting it off a day!