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Traits For A Partner

Jordan2 — Sat, 24 Feb 2024 21:10:35 GMT

When I was young and stupid I always thought looks were so important, my mom would say looks weren't everything, but who listens to their mother?! As I matured I realized she was right, I like someone who is funny, can make me laugh, is kind and compassionate, and treats me well. What's important to you?

Re: Traits For A Partner

cheriere — Sat, 24 Feb 2024 21:19:23 GMT

@Jordan2 wrote:
When I was young and stupid I always thought looks were so important, my mom would say looks weren't everything, but who listens to their mother?! As I matured I realized she was right, I like someone who is funny, can make me laugh, is kind and compassionate, and treats me well. What's important to you?

Those same qualities you mentioned are important to me too. However, I'll add patience, generous, respectful, loving, playful, responsible and stable.

Re: Traits For A Partner

Mombo1 — Sat, 24 Feb 2024 21:22:42 GMT

@Jordan2 wrote:
When I was young and stupid I always thought looks were so important, my mom would say looks weren't everything, but who listens to their mother?! As I matured I realized she was right, I like someone who is funny, can make me laugh, is kind and compassionate, and treats me well. What's important to you?

@Jordan2 Honesty would be number 1 for me... Looks aren't everything. I should have listened to my mom too...🤦🏻‍♀️

Re: Traits For A Partner

cheriere — Sat, 24 Feb 2024 21:29:41 GMT

@Mombo1 wrote:
@Jordan2 wrote:
When I was young and stupid I always thought looks were so important, my mom would say looks weren't everything, but who listens to their mother?! As I matured I realized she was right, I like someone who is funny, can make me laugh, is kind and compassionate, and treats me well. What's important to you?
@Jordan2 Honesty would be number 1 for me... Looks aren't everything. I should have listened to my mom too...🤦🏻‍♀️

Good grief, I should've thought of Honesty immediately after my ex!!! Just goes to show that I still may not be ready to date lol.

Re: Traits For A Partner

Trinity11 — Sat, 24 Feb 2024 21:29:47 GMT

For myself, when young, it had to be a few things. Most of all, I wanted a very, very accomplished man, intellectually superior to myself. I admit, however, without good looks, I would not have been attracted to him. Oh, and he had to love kids. Extremely important to me. I found him at the tender age of 20. Been together 50.🥰

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Natureluvr — Sat, 24 Feb 2024 21:31:21 GMT

Agree with all of the traits mentioned. I would add- someone with similar values to mine.

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QVCkitty1 — Sat, 24 Feb 2024 21:45:10 GMT

I was having a discussion the other day with a man. He claimed that women were not as shallow as men because they were not as interested in looks.

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Oznell — Sat, 24 Feb 2024 22:46:56 GMT

Integrity, grounded in an unshakable belief system.

For me, everything important stems from that.

Additionally, optimism (a trait I'm sorely lacking), a lively sense of the absurd, courage to face whatever comes our way.

Re: Traits For A Partner

deepwaterdotter — Sat, 24 Feb 2024 22:54:54 GMT

At my current age, mobile and in good health.

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on the bay — Sat, 24 Feb 2024 22:57:24 GMT

@Jordan2,

Those you listed are mine too.

Kind is no 1.

Great sense of humor;someone I can laugh with

Compassionate, caring and thoughtful, empathetic.

Loves all animals and wildlife and nature and cares about it.

Especially loves dogs.

And yes has the the same values as me. And loves me very much. And wonderful chemistry together!

Sometimes someone having these things would make me love him but sometimes even with all these things, if there isn't that certain chemistry it just doesn't click.

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SilleeMee — Sat, 24 Feb 2024 22:57:46 GMT

Doesn't have a rap sheet and credit collectors (including ex-wives) after him.

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tansy — Sat, 24 Feb 2024 23:04:42 GMT

Smart, funny, and easy-going.

Hard to believe it's over 52 years since our marriage.

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chlema — Sat, 24 Feb 2024 23:13:37 GMT

@Jordan2 wrote:
When I was young and stupid I always thought looks were so important, my mom would say looks weren't everything, but who listens to their mother?! As I matured I realized she was right, I like someone who is funny, can make me laugh, is kind and compassionate, and treats me well. What's important to you?

Had to laugh at the "who listens to their mother". The only advice my mother gave me was to make sure to marry a tall man because you fit together better when you are dancing. Well, I was not into much dancing so I married a guy who was 5'8" to my 5'6".

Re: Traits For A Partner

AZfem — Sat, 24 Feb 2024 23:15:31 GMT

Honest

Reliable

Faithful & true blue

Shared values &:morals (to me, very important)

Sensitive

Empathetic

Comfortable to be around someone you can be yourself with without fear of rejection

Fun loving

Easy going

Easy to talk to

Good listener

Understanding

Compassionate

Re: Traits For A Partner

geezerette — Sat, 24 Feb 2024 23:53:32 GMT

Somebody who can fix things!

Re: Traits For A Partner

Mz iMac — Sat, 24 Feb 2024 23:54:48 GMT

@deepwaterdotter wrote:
At my current age, mobile and in good health.

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@SilleeMeewrote:

"Doesn't have a rap sheet and credit collectors (including ex-wives) after him."

And a long line of baby mamas.

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Steffdoggy10 — Sun, 25 Feb 2024 00:26:46 GMT

Masculine, capable, protective and caring.
Chemistry always trumped good looks!

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Stray — Sun, 25 Feb 2024 00:55:22 GMT

Honesty, integrity, good sense of humor & intelligent

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SaveTheTurtles — Sun, 25 Feb 2024 01:42:36 GMT

Everything listed a bunch of wonderful qualities that I would totally agree with. It boils down to what's inside that counts most.

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Snowpuppy — Sun, 25 Feb 2024 03:16:23 GMT

I've never made lists.

I'll accept who the universe picks out for me to meet my needs. Wants are something your ego picks out for you.