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Why ?

QVCkitty1 — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 02:29:23 GMT

I will probably regret posting this, but It is a pet peeve of mine, so here goes nothing. Why is it when someone asks a question here, rather than answering or if you have no knowledge of the answer, just moving on , some posters use it as a scolding opportunity ??? Yes, yes, it is your right, blah, blah, blah but does it answer the question ? I've received such good advice here and answers to my questions without unsolicited nonsense. That's all rant over. 🌺

Re: Why ?

spumoni99 — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 02:31:27 GMT

I totally agree, most recently scolding for not ordering until the last minute. All kinds of things happen to cause a person to have need of something at the last minute, I agree with you so many judgemental answers! I wish everyone would do better.

Re: Why ?

QVCkitty1 — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 02:32:47 GMT

@spumoni99 wrote:
I totally agree, most recently scolding for not ordering until the last minute. All kinds of things happen to cause a person to have need of something at the last minute, I agree with you so many judgemental answers! I wish everyone would do better.

@spumoni99 , Thanks, I knew it wasn't just me.

Re: Why ?

Tinkrbl44 — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 02:38:07 GMT

@QVCkitty1

The short version .... when people have screen names and not their real life names listed, they answer differently. Anonymity can give bullies courage.

The other thought ..... people just don't think.

That's all that comes to mind right now.

Re: Why ?

NicksmomESQ — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 02:39:52 GMT

@QVCkitty1 Of course it isn't just you. Some people raise themselves up by tearing others down.It says more about them than the people they're bullying.

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GenXmuse — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 02:46:33 GMT

I totally agree. I rarely ask anything here, except for the most benign thing because of this tendency. Forget asking advice here unless you're up for the lashing. And heaven forbid you misspell something.

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occasionalrain — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 03:08:35 GMT

I don't mind them. I suspect they had critical parents and are as hard on themselves as they are to others.

I don't expect to like every post, but the pleasing ones far exceed those that aren't.

Re: Why ?

QVCkitty1 — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 03:16:08 GMT

@occasionalrain wrote:
I don't mind them. I suspect they had critical parents and are as hard on themselves as they are to others.
I don't expect to like every post, but the pleasing ones far exceed those that aren't.

@occasionalrain , That is a kind way to look at it. However, the smug replies really bother me and I'm sorry but I seriously doubt they are hard on themselves. If I'm wrong I can live with it.

Re: Why ?

rockygems123 — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 03:33:41 GMT

@NicksmomESQ wrote:
@QVCkitty1 Of course it isn't just you. Some people raise themselves up by tearing others down.It says more about them than the people they're bullying.

@NicksmomESQ Agree wholeheartedly. I did a paper on Nurse Ratched of One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest and I never forgot that lesson. No need to tear others down to build up yourself.

Re: Why ?

rockygems123 — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 03:41:23 GMT

@QVCkitty1 wrote:
I will probably regret posting this, but It is a pet peeve of mine, so here goes nothing. Why is it when someone asks a question here, rather than answering or if you have no knowledge of the answer, just moving on , some posters use it as a scolding opportunity ??? Yes, yes, it is your right, blah, blah, blah but does it answer the question ? I've received such good advice here and answers to my questions without unsolicited nonsense. That's all rant over. 🌺

@QVCkitty1 It really should be that simple shouldn't it?! Answer the question and save the nasty judgmental opinions for your loved ones ha.

Re: Why ?

hckynutjohn — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 04:11:42 GMT

@QVCkitty1

ONLY THE SHADOW KNOWS =^..^=

hckynut 🇺🇸

Re: Why ?

spumoni99 — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 04:14:11 GMT

@occasionalrain wrote:
I don't mind them. I suspect they had critical parents and are as hard on themselves as they are to others.
I don't expect to like every post, but the pleasing ones far exceed those that aren't.

Its funny you mention that, I have a friend that is pretty critical but once you know her you realize she was just brought up from a critical mom and means no harm. Others ask me how I can tolerate her but she has a kind heart its just buried a bit deeper than some.

Re: Why ?

JeanLouiseFinch — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 04:21:31 GMT

I get what you're saying. It takes all kinds of people and personalities to make the world go round. I guess, sometimes frustrations come out when people ask questions that could easily be answered by employing a little self help. Sometimes it feels like they want others to do the homework for them.

Re: Why ?

QVCkitty1 — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 04:25:32 GMT

@JeanLouiseFinch wrote:
I get what you're saying. It takes all kinds of people and personalities to make the world go round. I guess, sometimes frustrations come out when people ask questions that could easily be answered by employing a little self help. Sometimes it feels like they want others to do the homework for them.

@JeanLouiseFinch , I'm sorry, but to me these are just excuses for bad behavior, when it would be easier to just scroll on. For every poster who delights in saying Google is your friend, there seem to be three who jump in to help.

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spumoni99 — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 04:28:35 GMT

@QVCkitty1 wrote:
@JeanLouiseFinch wrote:
I get what you're saying. It takes all kinds of people and personalities to make the world go round. I guess, sometimes frustrations come out when people ask questions that could easily be answered by employing a little self help. Sometimes it feels like they want others to do the homework for them.
@JeanLouiseFinch , I'm sorry, but to me these are just excuses for bad behavior, when it would be easier to just scroll on. For every poster who delights in saying Google is your friend, there seem to be three who jump in to help.

Some people have different levels of experience searching out information, I was in IT before retiring so I am use to researching things online but I realize not everyone enjoys it or is familar with it. Kindness goes a long way and if you don't want to help keep scrolling!

Re: Why ?

QVCkitty1 — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 04:31:19 GMT

@spumoni99 wrote:
@QVCkitty1 wrote:
@JeanLouiseFinch wrote:
I get what you're saying. It takes all kinds of people and personalities to make the world go round. I guess, sometimes frustrations come out when people ask questions that could easily be answered by employing a little self help. Sometimes it feels like they want others to do the homework for them.
@JeanLouiseFinch , I'm sorry, but to me these are just excuses for bad behavior, when it would be easier to just scroll on. For every poster who delights in saying Google is your friend, there seem to be three who jump in to help.
Some people have different levels of experience searching out information, I was in IT before retiring so I am use to researching things online but I realize not everyone enjoys it or is familar with it. Kindness goes a long way and if you don't want to help keep scrolling!

@spumoni99 , Absolutely! No one is obliged to help.

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JeanLouiseFinch — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 04:33:14 GMT

@QVCkitty1 wrote:
@JeanLouiseFinch wrote:
I get what you're saying. It takes all kinds of people and personalities to make the world go round. I guess, sometimes frustrations come out when people ask questions that could easily be answered by employing a little self help. Sometimes it feels like they want others to do the homework for them.
@JeanLouiseFinch , I'm sorry, but to me these are just excuses for bad behavior, when it would be easier to just scroll on. For every poster who delights in saying Google is your friend, there seem to be three who jump in to help.

So, I guess your opinion is the only valid one? How is your behavior any better than that of those you've decided to discuss, when you're challenging my observation? You could have easily scrolled by, too, but decided to pick apart my reply instead. That's pretty rich alright.

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jackiejenny — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 04:33:29 GMT

This is by no means meant to excuse the behavior, but I do believe hurt people...hurt people.

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rockygems123 — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 04:36:51 GMT

@jackiejenny wrote:
This is by no means meant to excuse the behavior, but I do believe hurt people...hurt people.

@jackiejenny Agree 100%.

Re: Why ?

Mersha — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 04:41:23 GMT

My experience is that there are a number of older posters here that may not be as computer experienced as some.

There may be questions about computer issues or they may be very upset about an incident in their lives they need to resolve and have no one else to ask.

Hopefully, those responding with a snarky reply will think twice and just move on.