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Creating Your - "If I Go Missing" Notebook!

JoyFilled Warrior — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 09:51:44 GMT

On TikTok, this has been introduced, (as presented on a "Crime" pgm)

Ppl create a Personal "IF I GO MISSING" Notebook" of themselves, & place all their personal info in it, for a quick reference, esp in the event something happens, & need "ID info" ASAP.

It's filled with items, such as "clipped lock of hair," Personal, Current Pic" "Dental Info," "Own "Fingerprints," "Copy of Drivers License," "DNA Sample" "Blood Type," List/Pic ID marks on the body," "Meds currently on" Clothes/shoe size, Routine Jewelry, Tattoo locations/Pics, List of Relatives, or Close Contacts, Who to contact "In the Event" just *anything ID'ing*

Any info that can be grabbed quickly,& can speed up any personal ID info, in the event of some unfortunate, unforeseen circumstance..

We know that the 1st 24 hrs is often the most critical hrs to locate a person in trouble." (or for whatever other reason such a notebook wld be handy to instantly have available)

Re: Creating Your - "If I Go Missing" Notebook!

Desertdi — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 11:48:08 GMT

Who would be the trustee of this VERY VALUABLE personal information ???

Re: Creating Your - "If I Go Missing" Notebook!

ValuSkr — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 11:57:18 GMT

Seems prudent. Every day, I hear about someone who's gone missing.

Re: Creating Your - "If I Go Missing" Notebook!

eadu4 — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 12:07:27 GMT

@JoyFilled Warrior While this "sounds" like an interesting idea. The sheer fact that your whole identity is in a bundle is actually not very bright. And although there are those that say just put it in a safe, or safe deposit box etc. I still would not feel comfortable knowing that's out there. And when I die what happens? Someone throws it away? Can you trust someone who finds it to actually destroy it? I have a dentist. There are dental records. My doctor has records. I have a license that can easily be found by the PD. Trust me unless no one knows you and you have very little "carbon footprint" they can get hair samples from your hair brush, DNA from your toothbrush, your fingerprints are all over what you own and your house, phone records, your phone itself. Your records are out there. There are literally cameras everywhere now. I'll pass. Not everything on Tik Tok is worthly of copying. And I'm betting the country that originates Tik Tok would love to have everyone put all their information in a nice bundle for them.

Re: Creating Your - "If I Go Missing" Notebook!

JoyFilled Warrior — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 12:15:14 GMT

@Desertdi wrote:
Who would be the trustee of this VERY VALUABLE personal information ???

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@Desertdi

Hi!

Maybe where it says:

" List of Relatives, or Close Contacts, Who to contact "In the Event of"

If it's your Mom or Dad? Them.

If it's your hubby, Him

If it's your older sister? Her

If it's your Son or Daughter, Either or both

Ahead of time tho, I'd let them know, & ask perission, if you want them "designated," so they know to be ready "in the event of" And keep in touch

Just a suggestion...

Re: Creating Your - "If I Go Missing" Notebook!

JoyFilled Warrior — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 12:25:16 GMT

@eadu4 wrote:
@JoyFilled Warrior While this "sounds" like an interesting idea. The sheer fact that your whole identity is in a bundle is actually not very bright. And although there are those that say just put it in a safe, or safe deposit box etc. I still would not feel comfortable knowing that's out there. And when I die what happens? Someone throws it away? Can you trust someone who finds it to actually destroy it? I have a dentist. There are dental records. My doctor has records. I have a license that can easily be found by the PD. Trust me unless no one knows you and you have very little "carbon footprint" they can get hair samples from your hair brush, DNA from your toothbrush, your fingerprints are all over what you own and your house, phone records, your phone itself. Your records are out there. There are literally cameras everywhere now. I'll pass. Not everything on Tik Tok is worthly of copying. And I'm betting the country that originates Tik Tok would love to have everyone put all their information in a nice bundle for them.

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@eadu4

hmm. Perhaps I shouldnt have stated the source is TikTok, since that may prejudice the suggestion, in some ppl's opinion.

It's only a suggestion. Some might like it, some might not. At least it's merely a suggestion that some may, or may not have thought of.

Some might want to have such a Notebook on their parent who is in Assisted Living, or Nursing home. Sometimes those Residents just "walk out" of the Facility. Some parents lose track of their toddlers in a Walm.

Is merely a suggestion, for those 1 or more ppl who might find it of help. Not mandatory.

Re: Creating Your - "If I Go Missing" Notebook!

Love to Run — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 12:38:52 GMT

I would hope any investigator into a disappearance collects his or her own samples. It would be foolish to rely on samples provided by someone who is probably a potential suspect, at least initially.

Re: Creating Your - "If I Go Missing" Notebook!

Desertdi — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 12:47:01 GMT

@JoyFilled Warrior wrote:
@Desertdi wrote:
Who would be the trustee of this VERY VALUABLE personal information ???
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@Desertdi

Hi!

Maybe where it says:
" List of Relatives, or Close Contacts, Who to contact "In the Event of"

If it's your Mom or Dad? Them.
If it's your hubby, Him
If it's your older sister? Her
If it's your Son or Daughter, Either or both

Ahead of time tho, I'd let them know, & ask perission, if you want them "designated," so they know to be ready "in the event of" And keep in touch

Just a suggestion...

@JoyFilled Warrior I don't have any of the above. I do have a relative who knows the name of my lawyer in case of the "ultimate" emergency, but I don't think he needs my shoe size. di

Re: Creating Your - "If I Go Missing" Notebook!

CalminHeart — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 12:48:33 GMT

I'm more concerned about the 38 mass shootings in just 23 days this month! One was in my city.

Re: Creating Your - "If I Go Missing" Notebook!

eadu4 — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 13:06:10 GMT

@JoyFilled Warrior I apologize, I didn't mean to offend, seriously. I am sorry. I just don't think it's a great idea. But to those that want to do it. Go for it. As far as where you got the idea from, it really wouldn't have mattered for the main portion of my reply. I just don't feel it's necessary. As far as what I have heard from complaints about nursing homes, I would be more concerned about abuse, and theft. However if someone goes missing from one, again there should be enough DNA, and you should have a recent picture on your phone and enough doctor/dental records.

As for kids, the schools my kids went to back in the day used to do an ID card each year. It was kinda like a drivers license with their picture, height, weight, eye color and fingerprint. I doubt they do them anymore but they were good to have for sure. I would think you could do one yourself now.

Re: Creating Your - "If I Go Missing" Notebook!

NigelSparkles — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 13:13:38 GMT

@JoyFilled Warrior I disagree with your statement that you shouldn't have mentioned that the idea came from TikTok. I think it's very important that we know what the source is for many of these "ideas". Even more so when it involves personal information.

Re: Creating Your - "If I Go Missing" Notebook!

San Antonio Gal — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 13:48:21 GMT

I think it' a good idea @JoyFilled Warrior and I would give this information to my husband. I trust him 100%. Thanks for sharing.

Btw - there's a lot of good info on Tik Tok.

Re: Creating Your - "If I Go Missing" Notebook!

SloopJohnB — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 14:04:24 GMT

@JoyFilled Warrior wrote:
On TikTok, this has been introduced, (as presented on a "Crime" pgm)

     Ppl create a Personal   "IF I GO MISSING" Notebook" of themselves,   & place all their personal info in it, for a quick reference, esp in the event something happens, & need "ID info" ASAP.
    It's filled with items, such as "clipped lock of hair,"   Personal, Current Pic"    "Dental Info," "Own "Fingerprints," "Copy of Drivers License," "DNA Sample" "Blood Type," List/Pic ID marks on the body," "Meds currently on"   Clothes/shoe size,   Routine Jewelry, Tattoo locations/Pics, List of Relatives, or Close Contacts, Who to contact "In the Event" just *anything ID'ing*
   Any info that can be grabbed quickly,& can speed up any personal ID info, in the event of some unfortunate, unforeseen circumstance..

We know that the 1st 24 hrs is often the most critical hrs to locate a person in trouble." (or for whatever other reason such a notebook wld be handy to instantly have available)

@JoyFilled Warrior Thank you for sharing. Good info. I have no qualms in sharing that info with my immediate family as they either have that info anyway or have access to it. And it seems wise to have it handy "in case of a worst case scenario."

Re: Creating Your - "If I Go Missing" Notebook!

jlkz — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 14:19:28 GMT

@eadu4 @Desertdi

I don't think the subsequent logistics and problems with this " Notebook " idea have been thought through carefully enough.

People change over time, there can be falling outs, estrangements, disfunctional relationships, animosity, enmity, cognitive impairment, and death. What becomes of the Notebook document ??????? The information contained therein becomes whose responsibility ???? How long does the responsibility get handled safely until it doesn't ???

No safeguards exist. Enroute to being found and shredded, it gets " lost " and subject to misuse.

Bottom line: Not a good idea when all the potential pitfalls are examined.

Re: Creating Your - "If I Go Missing" Notebook!

chrystaltree — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 14:41:11 GMT

I don't see how that would help locate a missing person. It might help Iidentify a Jane Doe body. I certainly wouldn't put all that information in some journal that I give to....who? Who would be the keeper of all that personal information?

Re: Creating Your - "If I Go Missing" Notebook!

teganslaw — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 14:49:00 GMT

It's fine for people who trust that it would be used properly. My thought is that the person or persons responsible for keeping the information might be unscrupulous and manipulate it for their own use. (As a rule, I don't trust people.)

Giving it to one's spouse might work, but I'm not interestd in doing so.

Re: Creating Your - "If I Go Missing" Notebook!

VanSleepy — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 14:51:27 GMT

@chrystaltree wrote:
I don't see how that would help locate a missing person. It might help Iidentify a Jane Doe body. I certainly wouldn't put all that information in some journal that I give to....who? Who would be the keeper of all that personal information?

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I heard this idea on some show the other day and thought the same thing. It's information to identify a body rather than find one.

Re: Creating Your - "If I Go Missing" Notebook!

SilleeMee — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 14:52:36 GMT

Not a good idea for me. No way.

Re: Creating Your - "If I Go Missing" Notebook!

Greeneyedlady21 — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 14:53:46 GMT

Seems like fear mongering to me

Re: Creating Your - "If I Go Missing" Notebook!

Stelladorable — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 15:21:03 GMT

My husband, my kids, my sister and brother and my best friend from 4th grade have all the info anyone would need to find me or identify me if I went missing.

I might do this if I were alone. Id keep the info in my safe deposit box, which could be opened with a court order if someone was investigating my disappearance.