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Impulse Control

QVCkitty1 — Sat, 21 Jan 2023 23:40:26 GMT

Well I'm sort of proud of myself today. I filled out 3 orders and when it came to pressing order, I hit remove. It's not that these items weren't nice, but I just don't need them. Yesterday I did the same with a couple of things . It's almost like I have to see the invoice with the shipping and tax , and it is a wake up call. Now remember I said sort of proud, I did order the Joan Rivers Lunchtime special chambray colored shirt with the stars. However it has short sleeves so it will be great for warm weather. I'm not an impulse shopper, but when I see a good sale , sometimes I lose what is left of my mind. 🤣

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Chopsmom — Sat, 21 Jan 2023 23:46:44 GMT

@QVCkitty1 wrote:
Well I'm sort of proud of myself today. I filled out 3 orders and when it came to pressing order, I hit remove. It's not that these items weren't nice, but I just don't need them. Yesterday I did the same with a couple of things . It's almost like I have to see the invoice with the shipping and tax , and it is a wake up call. Now remember I said sort of proud, I did order the Joan Rivers Lunchtime special chambray colored shirt with the stars. However it has short sleeves so it will be great for warm weather. I'm not an impulse shopper, but when I see a good sale , sometimes I lose what is left of my mind. 🤣

I'm right there with you.

I too have a soft spot for the Lunchtime Specials. Some are just too good to pass up.

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PhilaLady1 — Sun, 22 Jan 2023 00:22:04 GMT

You should be proud. You did good! Me, not so much. I was trying hard not to buy anything else until February, I told myself that I was cut off for this month. But nope, impulse took over and I bought several things today. All at a discount, all will be used. Enjoy your new shirt!

@QVCkitty1

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Snowpuppy — Sun, 22 Jan 2023 00:23:29 GMT

I haven't bought anything here since last August. CH jammies for a road trip. So large I tossed 2 of 3 pair I was so ticked at the quality.

I did place a small Rastelli's order on Friday. Less than $100.

Only buying essentials this year.

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QVCkitty1 — Sun, 22 Jan 2023 00:29:11 GMT

@PhilaLady1 wrote:
You should be proud. You did good! Me, not so much. I was trying hard not to buy anything else until February, I told myself that I was cut off for this month. But nope, impulse took over and I bought several things today. All at a discount, all will be used. Enjoy your new shirt!

@QVCkitty1

@PhilaLady1 , Thanks , I knew when I saw the stars that if it wasn't ridiculously expensive that it would be mine.

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homedecor1 — Sun, 22 Jan 2023 00:31:05 GMT

After spending 3 days decluttering and getting my things ready for Community yard sale, marketplace or donation center -- I clearly don't need nor want another thing😳. (Lots of wasted $$$$ on impulse or unneeded things)

I am done ordering from QVC as I just received Ryka TSV can't even get on my foot!! They are marked size 10m (my size) but can't even squeeze foot in if I had too..definitely a defect!

Last week received item missing parts...

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granddi — Sun, 22 Jan 2023 00:38:39 GMT

@QVCkitty1 @Chopsmom I wrote about this on another thread. I have been a prolific Q shopper for 30 years. I had a security breach of my account and it was closed to me for about 30 days-mid Dec to Jan. For 30 days, I had no purchases. I realized that I was impulse shopping. I just don't need more tee shirts, kitchen gadgets, cosmetics. --even if I can afford these purchases.

In the last 60 days I have purchased a food item that I buy regularily and that's all. I feels good to be more disciplined. The thrift stores will also notice that I have cut back on impulse shopping.

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Roscoe the Rascal — Sun, 22 Jan 2023 02:03:42 GMT

You know what I did today? I turned off the tv and normally listen to QVC as I clean. I put music on instead and went for it.

Do not need impulse items and been purging since December and a big eye opener for me.

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QVCkitty1 — Sun, 22 Jan 2023 04:15:59 GMT

@Roscoe the Rascal wrote:
You know what I did today? I turned off the tv and normally listen to QVC as I clean. I put music on instead and went for it.

Do not need impulse items and been purging since December and a big eye opener for me.

@Roscoe the Rascal , Since I don't watch much tv and almost no QVC, what I have to do is delete all of my store emails .

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hckynutjohn — Sun, 22 Jan 2023 04:58:24 GMT

(thread title)

I have never been one to act on any type of impulse. Was taught that by my mother when I was very young. Learned even more when I started my paper route at 8 years old.

Buy papers wholesale, charge customers retail. Along with that came "think before you act or talk", was also a phrase my mother told us kids often.

hckynut 🇺🇸

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FancyPhillyshopper — Sun, 22 Jan 2023 05:13:04 GMT

@hckynutjohn wrote:
(thread title)

I have never been one to act on any type of impulse. Was taught that by my mother when I was very young. Learned even more when I started my paper route at 8 years old.

Buy papers wholesale, charge customers retail. Along with that came "think before you act or talk", was also a phrase my mother told us kids often.

hckynut 🇺🇸

Yes, but we women have been the hunter-gatherers since time began and we are all excellent shoppers, so it is in our nature to stock up! Do you really think any man invented the "gift closet?"

The after-the-holiday sales are excellent, and I always start shopping immediately. I already have some people on my list almost finished for next Christmas!

And let's face it--we women are taught that fashion means we need to dress with accessories--matching purse, jewelry, shoes, etc. Make-up is also part of the effort. There is a lot of pressure to look stylish!

Now I certainly have impulse control for buying any electronic gadgets, or new cars, etc. --everything I use is decades old and still runs well!

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Linmo — Sun, 22 Jan 2023 05:36:46 GMT

Impulse control should not only apply to buying things but other things as well.

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PhilaLady1 — Sun, 22 Jan 2023 14:13:56 GMT

@hckynutjohn wrote:
(thread title)

I have never been one to act on any type of impulse. Was taught that by my mother when I was very young. Learned even more when I started my paper route at 8 years old.

Buy papers wholesale, charge customers retail. Along with that came "think before you act or talk", was also a phrase my mother told us kids often.

hckynut 🇺🇸

@hckynutjohn

Hi, I grew up with the same valuable lessons from my Mother. We were lucky for that! I also started earning at a very young age. Grew up not exactly poor, but almost. About low impulse control......with my white hair and advanced age, I still sometimes don't always listened to Mom 😀

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chrystaltree — Sun, 22 Jan 2023 21:52:51 GMT

If you are happy, I'm happy for you.

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Carmie — Sun, 22 Jan 2023 22:20:31 GMT

I was never into shopping too much, but I liked expensive items....especially handbags and jewelry. I spent thousands on designer bags and expensive jewelry.

When I retired, I no longer needed these things, and my shopping came to an halt with great difficulty.

I still had to fight my impulses for a while, but I got over it.

Now, I love to watch my bank account grow. I have more money in my account than I did while I was working. I know I can pretty much buy anything I want (within reason) and pay cash.

I did pay cash for my Honda Odyssey two years ago...that broke me for a while, but I am building my account again.

I get a better "good feeling" from having cash than I ever did buying handbags and jewelry.

I am sorry I was so careless and dumb for years buying unnecessary stuff wasting my very hard earned money.

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shoekitty — Sun, 22 Jan 2023 23:07:09 GMT

@QVCkitty1 wrote:
Well I'm sort of proud of myself today. I filled out 3 orders and when it came to pressing order, I hit remove. It's not that these items weren't nice, but I just don't need them. Yesterday I did the same with a couple of things . It's almost like I have to see the invoice with the shipping and tax , and it is a wake up call. Now remember I said sort of proud, I did order the Joan Rivers Lunchtime special chambray colored shirt with the stars. However it has short sleeves so it will be great for warm weather. I'm not an impulse shopper, but when I see a good sale , sometimes I lose what is left of my mind. 🤣

Shoekitty said: As one kitty to another, how could anyone pass up a super saver sale.??? Lol! If I need it, it's mine. I always buy my clothes out of season it seems. When warm weather arrives you will be ready to sport that shirt with a sigh of relief.

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JoyFilled Warrior — Mon, 23 Jan 2023 00:12:19 GMT

@Carmie wrote:
I was never into shopping too much, but I liked expensive items....especially handbags and jewelry. I spent thousands on designer bags and expensive jewelry.

When I retired, I no longer needed these things, and my shopping came to an halt with great difficulty.

I still had to fight my impulses for a while, but I got over it.

Now, I love to watch my bank account grow. I have more money in my account than I did while I was working. I know I can pretty much buy anything I want (within reason) and pay cash.

I did pay cash for my Honda Odyssey two years ago...that broke me for a while, but I am building my account again.

I get a better "good feeling" from having cash than I ever did buying handbags and jewelry.

I am sorry I was so careless and dumb for years buying unnecessary stuff wasting my very hard earned money.

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@Carmie

I have a whole "hoard" of expensive jewelry now, esp then, when I was buying them "at cost."

And now, "in the winter of my life," I dont need anywhere near as much anymore. And I dont believe I have anyone else who wants them.

Many have become significantly more valuable, as time went on. Now, "times gone on."

If you dont mind me asking, do you have any future plans to capitalize the most on your expensive jewelry? or have you any suggestions or ideas? (Perhaps in addition to the usual ebay, Pawn, or heredity? TIA

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Carmie — Mon, 23 Jan 2023 00:58:45 GMT

@JoyFilled Warrior I haven't given any thought on what to do about my jewelry hoard.

Occasionally, I'll look on e-bay to see what things are going for, but never took any action.

I have quite a collection of bangle bracelets....all real gold 14k, 18k and one that is 24k. I also have many heavy chain necklaces....3 of which are thick, wide herringbones, which are out of style.

I have precious gemstone rings, bracelets and necklaces and hundreds of pairs of earrings.

Some was given to me by my husband, but most was purchased by me.

I have it stored away and barely look at it unless I am going out.

I am thinking my daughter, my daughter-in-law and two granddaughters might want it after I am gone.

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Lucky Charm — Mon, 23 Jan 2023 01:30:37 GMT

@Linmo wrote:
Impulse control should not only apply to buying things but other things as well.

Uh oh. Does that mean it's too late for a piece of pizza?

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Lucky Charm — Mon, 23 Jan 2023 01:34:42 GMT

@Carmie wrote:
I was never into shopping too much, but I liked expensive items....especially handbags and jewelry. I spent thousands on designer bags and expensive jewelry.

When I retired, I no longer needed these things, and my shopping came to an halt with great difficulty.

I still had to fight my impulses for a while, but I got over it.

Now, I love to watch my bank account grow. I have more money in my account than I did while I was working. I know I can pretty much buy anything I want (within reason) and pay cash.

I did pay cash for my Honda Odyssey two years ago...that broke me for a while, but I am building my account again.

I get a better "good feeling" from having cash than I ever did buying handbags and jewelry.

I am sorry I was so careless and dumb for years buying unnecessary stuff wasting my very hard earned money.

I'm the same way.

I actually LOVE to say outloud 'I can't afford that', even though I know I can. Hard to explain it, but it sounds freeing or elite or both.