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WHY ME?????

GoneButNotForgotten — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 16:34:24 GMT

Last year was pretty bad in a lot of ways and so far, 2023 is off to a bad start.

On top of all my health and family problems, the other day I was using my curling iron on my slowly-growing-out hair and I BURNED MY HAIR OFF!!!!

There's nothing worse than the smell of burned hair and it took hours--days--for the stench to dissapate. And it took a while for me to comb out the burned hair. This is the bad haircut I insisted on in November and I've been watching it gradually grow out. OMG, what's next?

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chrystaltree — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 16:44:10 GMT

I can't see into the future but obviously your curling iron tragedy wasn't due to a string of bad luck or fate. I can't even guess how you would let something like that happen but what's done is done. Go to your hairdresser for a trim and maybe wear a wig until your hair grows out to where you want it to be.

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Carmie — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 16:58:08 GMT

Something is not right about that. Curling irons should not get hot enough to burn your hair off. Throw it away.

How long did you hold your hair in the iron? You're only supposed to hold it for a few seconds.

Also, what kind of product did you have on your hair? Often times, a curling will scorch the product and stain the hair, but to actually burn your hair off?

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GoneButNotForgotten — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 17:08:21 GMT

I got distracted and wasn't paying attention. I did toss the curling iron; the smell was so bad I couldn't tolerate it.

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FancyPhillyshopper — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 17:32:53 GMT

Maybe you have your answer to WHY ME-- You get distracted and let things happen that should not occur.

Live in the present and focus. Plan for the future and organize. Be aware of details.

Try to have a positive mindset.

Sometimes if you look for bad things, they will seem to happen more.

Best wishes for a better new year.

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Big Joanie — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 17:43:58 GMT

Oh .. I am right there with you ... 2022 was bad .. 2023 hasn't started

out well .. spent 5 days with hubby in the hospital with A Fib .. got his

heart shocked back into rhythm ....now he starts testing for the Mysemia

Gravis he was diagnosed with in 2022 ....

but we'll get things taken care of .....

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rms1954 — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 17:51:50 GMT

That's it??? An incident like that is not that big of a deal; at least it's not a health and family problem. Was this a NEW curling iron that you were not use to using? Did you just set the temp too high?

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PhilaLady1 — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 17:53:59 GMT

Sorry that happend to you @GoneButNotForgotten

Keep thinking positive. Maybe this was a sign to let your hair be natural. Wash, blow dry if needed, and be done with it. Carry on confidently with hope in your heart!

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GoneButNotForgotten — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 18:00:06 GMT

rms1954: no, that's NOT all of it.

I just don't want to bore everyone with the long story of the medical and health problems that have plagued my family for about the last 5 years. But it you're interested, I'll give you all the awful details.

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GoneButNotForgotten — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 18:03:55 GMT

Big Joanie--I really feel for you. Once health problems start occuring it seems like there's no end to them, especially as you get older.

PS: Seeing your name made me smile--it reminds me of an insurance commercial in which a couple just bought a house and they have a problem with "aunts" showing up. Very funny.

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GoneButNotForgotten — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 18:05:29 GMT

@PhilaLady1 wrote:
Sorry that happend to you @GoneButNotForgotten

Keep thinking positive. Maybe this was a sign to let your hair be natural. Wash, blow dry if needed, and be done with it. Carry on confidently with hope in your heart!

Bless you for your kind words and for NOT blaming me (even though I probaby deserve it).

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Love to Run — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 18:07:05 GMT

Living in gratitude has a powerful effect on one's life. You might ask, why not me?

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GoneButNotForgotten — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 18:09:36 GMT

@Love to Run wrote:
Living in gratitude has a powerful effect on one's life. You might ask, why not me?

Nope; not now. Maybe I'll be in the mood later. There's nothing worse than trying to pretend to feel one way when you really don't. My attitude is to not fight the bad stuff; just let it roll over you, get it over with, and move on.

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Kachina624 — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 18:18:07 GMT

@GoneButNotForgotten wrote:
I got distracted and wasn't paying attention. I did toss the curling iron; the smell was so bad I couldn't tolerate it.

@GoneButNotForgotten Why me? Seems like you answered your own question.

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geezerette — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 18:33:21 GMT

Weird things always happen to me when I don't feel well. And of course, most of them I've done to myself.

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Big Joanie — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 18:49:50 GMT

@GoneButNotForgotten wrote:
Big Joanie--I really feel for you. Once health problems start occuring it seems like there's no end to them, especially as you get older.

PS: Seeing your name made me smile--it reminds me of an insurance commercial in which a couple just bought a house and they have a problem with "aunts" showing up. Very funny.

I love that .. " Aunt Joanie's Here " .....We love those commercials .. also " How

not to become your parents ....

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BlueFinch — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 20:02:52 GMT

This is the kind of thing that happens, when we're distracted with constant ruminations of unpleasant events, with concern that we will face even more setbacks. It sometimes can be hard to dig out of difficult times. I've been there, I can testify ... Lol.

We have to work very hard to not let the remnants of a bad year move into the next, and then the next. Try to be in the moment with all activities, without thinking about 'what's next.' Envision the 'next' as being positive and gratifying, instead.

Remember, to place yourself first in all activities. Just like on a plane, you're advised not to assist someone else, before putting on your own oxygen.

So sorry about your hair. But, it's a stark reminder that you need to be more focused and in the moment. Nurture yourself.

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NYCLatinaMe — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 20:56:10 GMT

@GoneButNotForgotten wrote:
Last year was pretty bad in a lot of ways and so far, 2023 is off to a bad start.

On top of all my health and family problems, the other day I was using my curling iron on my slowly-growing-out hair and I BURNED MY HAIR OFF!!!!

There's nothing worse than the smell of burned hair and it took hours--days--for the stench to dissapate. And it took a while for me to comb out the burned hair. This is the bad haircut I insisted on in November and I've been watching it gradually grow out. OMG, what's next?

Yes @GoneButNotForgotten There are many worse things. If this is the worse thing that has happened to you, you are BLESSED. It doesn't sound like you burned your scalp or needed medical attention. These are good things. If this had happened to me, I would just get a hair cut and hope for my hair to grow back. Get some pretty scarves or a wig while I wait.

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rms1954 — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 21:00:13 GMT

@GoneButNotForgotten wrote:
rms1954: no, that's NOT all of it.

I just don't want to bore everyone with the long story of the medical and health problems that have plagued my family for about the last 5 years. But it you're interested, I'll give you all the awful details.

I'm sorry for your troubles and I hope things are improving for you and your family.

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SloopJohnB — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 23:50:54 GMT

@Love to Run wrote:
Living in gratitude has a powerful effect on one's life. You might ask, why not me?

@Love to Run Yes....why not me? So true. And then the Judds' song of Why Not Me? comes to mind, too.