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Rudeness

QVCkitty1 — Sat, 18 Jun 2022 17:18:56 GMT

I saw this online this morning and I thought it was a good quote, " Rudeness is a weak man's imitation of strength. " I googled it and it was by Eric Hoffer. Anyway I will try and remember it when I encounter rudeness or when I myself feel I've been rude. Just a thought for the day. 🌷

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Snowpuppy — Sat, 18 Jun 2022 18:12:38 GMT

Rudeness: When the ill equipped, entitled individual encounters the overwored, underpaid, exasperated employee or public servant.

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chickenbutt — Sat, 18 Jun 2022 18:17:38 GMT

Exactly. It goes along with what I've said for years - when people have to constantly spend their energy tearing down others, I've found that it's the only way they seem to know how to feel better about themselves.

Clearly, that's warped but that's the way it seems to be. It makes them feel better about themselves when they place others beneath them.

I just feel sorry for these folks and try not to engage. If I don't care about somebody (some online stranger as a rule), they cannot hurt me. They are just hurting themselves but they don't even seem to know better.

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Foxxee — Sat, 18 Jun 2022 18:18:11 GMT

The following are some of the reasons why people are rude

1. They are having a seriously bad day.

Watch out for repeat offenders, though. They aren't having a bad day every day.

2. They hold some kind of negative feeling towards you.

3. They have low self-esteem.

Sometimes people with low self-esteem attack others. They bring down the people around them so that they can feel better about themselves.

4. They do not know how to hold back their negative emotions.

These people tend to overreact to even the smallest issues.

5. They were not properly raised.

People who were raised to think they were supposed to have everything they want in life. They will do whatever they feel is necessary to ensure they get their way.

6. They think they are better than everyone else (better than you).

There are people in this world who think they are better than everyone else. They think you are beneath them. This is all too common in this day and age.

7. They are stressed and do not realize they are rude.

8. Their communication skills are not as developed as they should be.

9. They have poor self-awareness.

10. They have some kind of personality disorder.

Not everyone has a personality disorder but they are much more common than most people realize.

Source: AwarenessAct.com

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meallen616 — Sat, 18 Jun 2022 18:31:05 GMT

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deepwaterdotter — Sat, 18 Jun 2022 19:12:55 GMT

@meallen616 That's what I do.

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Silver Lining — Sat, 18 Jun 2022 19:57:49 GMT

@meallen616 wrote:

Easier said than done

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Tinkrbl44 — Sat, 18 Jun 2022 23:14:36 GMT

@Foxxee

Great list .... thanks for posting it.

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silkyk — Sun, 19 Jun 2022 00:58:14 GMT

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Porcelain — Sun, 19 Jun 2022 02:20:47 GMT

I just suddenly become hard of hearing and make it clear I can't understand them.

I read a quote that said something like: When someone says something to you, that is their gift to you. If you refuse to accept the gift of an insult or rudeness, that means the gift remains in the hands of the giver. Where it belongs.

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AuntG — Sun, 19 Jun 2022 02:41:05 GMT

I just finished reading a post on the TV show "I Love Lucy" in which one poster insulted those that enjoy watching those old reruns. You'd think people wouldn't open a thread that held no interest, but in some twisted way, she felt the need to be hurtful.

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Calcgirl — Sun, 19 Jun 2022 04:01:14 GMT

@silkyk wrote:

My late hubby used to do this. A big grin, lol. I wish I had pictures of the poeple, they looked totslly confused. LOL

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LuvSoCal — Sun, 19 Jun 2022 05:48:15 GMT

What makes me sad is that most of the rude people I observe while out and about are women. Their behavior is disheartening to say the least.

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hckynutjohn — Sun, 19 Jun 2022 06:34:50 GMT

@Foxxee

#5 and #10 are the only ones I am buying. To me the rest are excuses.

hckynut 🇺🇸

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Foxxee — Sun, 19 Jun 2022 10:10:07 GMT

@hckynutjohn wrote:
@Foxxee

#5 and #10 are the only ones I am buying. To me the rest are excuses.

hckynut 🇺🇸

@hckynutjohn

To your 3 and 5, I'd add 6 and 10.

3. They have low self-esteem.

Sometimes people with low self-esteem attack others. They bring down the people around them so that they can feel better about themselves.

Low self-esteem is so prevalent in this country. Could also stem from parents and our culture making their children and adults feel inferior...they just aren't good enough as they continue to promote unattainable standards of acceptance. Not everyone is equally intelligent, capable, and talented, but our current culture is definitely telling everyone they are.

5. They were not properly raised.

People who were raised to think they were supposed to have everything they want in life. They will do whatever they feel is necessary to ensure they get their way.

I'd also add here, rudeness can be learned behavior from parents. Lack of self-awareness can come into play here. They have no idea they are behaving like their parents. They may dislike those traits in their parents, but are exhibiting them themselves. Here's a thought. What we dislike most in others is often how we behave ourselves.

For example. Someone might say something followed by a rude, sarcastic reply from someone else. The person replying is accusing someone else of being rude and sarcastic when their reply is rude and sarcastic. Watch out, though, when pointing that out, they get real nasty.

6. They think they are better than everyone else (better than you).

There are people in this world who think they are better than everyone else. They think you are beneath them. This is all too common in this day and age.

Absolutely...they think their moral standards are superior to others. Usually, people with high moral standards aren't rude.

10. They have some kind of personality disorder.

Not everyone has a personality disorder but they are much more common than most people realize.

Yes, all of the above can be symptoms of a personality disorder.

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hckynutjohn — Sun, 19 Jun 2022 12:38:23 GMT

@Foxxee

Mine were #5-#10.

I do not agree with #3, but I will add #6.

You talked me into adding one more! Good job. =^..^=

hckynut 🇺🇸

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gertrudecloset — Sun, 19 Jun 2022 17:19:23 GMT

@Silver Lining wrote:
@meallen616 wrote:

Easier said than done

That's true. Because it's as if you're supposed to sit back and take mess from others because they are rude. Easier said than done. Sometimes it's ok to give people a taste of their own medicine.

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hckynutjohn — Sun, 19 Jun 2022 17:33:07 GMT

@LuvSoCal wrote:
What makes me sad is that most of the rude people I observe while out and about are women. Their behavior is disheartening to say the least.

@LuvSoCal

Not so much in my world. But then again, I spent most of my working years with only men on the factory jobs. And then running my adult hockey league(no women asked me if they could play)around all men.

Using the word "rude", to describe many of them, would be much too kind.

hckynut 🇺🇸

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deepwaterdotter — Sun, 19 Jun 2022 17:55:48 GMT

I view "rudeness" as a lack of civilization. I aspire to appear as civilized as my education and training will allow.

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Greeneyedlady21 — Sun, 19 Jun 2022 23:25:08 GMT

It's a pathetic state of affairs when ignorant rude people have no self control.