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I Can't Bring Myself To Go In That Store

CrazyKittyLvr2 — Wed, 23 Feb 2022 17:48:24 GMT

The closet town with grocery stores is 10/11 miles away. There is a Weis Market and a Walmart. There were 2 smaller independent markets but they closed awhile ago.

I really dislike Walmart and can count on 1 hand the times I have been in there as a last resort. It's been there close to 11 yrs.

That leaves Weis. I like the store and used to go often. However, in 2017 during an overnight shift people were stocking shelves (store was closed) a 24 r. old worker shot 3 co-workers and then himself. Another worker escaped and alerted police. I didn't know the victims or the shooter.

I cannot bring myself to go in there. I tried once about 8 months after it happened and in every aisle I wondered if someone died there. I will travel an additional 8 miles to the next closet store.

I find it unsettling. Could you shop there?

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Marp — Wed, 23 Feb 2022 17:55:37 GMT

I would have no hesitation to shop there because of the murders/suicide.

Do you avoid entering a hospital, nursing home, private home or public venue because someone might have died there or is it only that particular store?

Is your refusal based on specific knowledge of the deaths or some other factor?

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gidgetgh — Wed, 23 Feb 2022 17:58:40 GMT

Yes, I could shop there.

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spumoni99 — Wed, 23 Feb 2022 18:07:34 GMT

Yes I could shop there, if everyone felt the way you do they would go out of business and then all you would have would be walmart. I would want to support that store after going through something so tragic.

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CrazyKittyLvr2 — Wed, 23 Feb 2022 18:08:05 GMT

@Marp I expect very sick people to be in hospitals, very sick people die. Accident victims die in ERs.

The one and only time I went in I looked around and there was no place to go. Front doors were locked and the kid parked his car against the doors where deliveries were made.

Evidently one woman made it to where the front door key was and got out.

It is just creepy to me.

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Laura14 — Wed, 23 Feb 2022 18:10:42 GMT

@CrazyKittyLvr2 I go out of my way for several different things that matter to me. I consider it self care in a way.

You do you. We're all different and if you don't mind the extra travel time, why should anyone else?

Besides, you never know you might meet a new friend in a new place that you wouldn't have otherwise come across if you stayed in a routine. It's all good.

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beckyb1012 — Wed, 23 Feb 2022 18:23:05 GMT

I would not have a problem with going in.

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kitcat51 — Wed, 23 Feb 2022 18:32:36 GMT

I'd shop there with no problem, it's awful that it happened but I wouldn't consider myself part of the tragedy... people who are a part of any tragedy will try their best to move on so if you're looking for advice, try too @CrazyKittyLvr2.

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Lynnabby — Wed, 23 Feb 2022 18:34:10 GMT

No I wouldn't shop there.

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on the bay — Wed, 23 Feb 2022 19:30:12 GMT

@CrazyKittyLvr2,

I do think that's a very normal reaction. Especially if it was a store you went to a lot. I would not want to go in either but after a time, months or year or so, I might.

We had several shootings in a popular shopping center here, one in Walmart. When I lived there I would go a lot and even after moving would sometimes go. I avoided it after that for awhile. It is scary and you can't help thinking of it.

edited to add-I just realized it was in 2017. Yes i think that would be a long time for me to still feel afraid to go into the store. I would not mind anymore, but everyone is different and it's your feelings which are yours to have.

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CrazyKittyLvr2 — Wed, 23 Feb 2022 18:41:19 GMT

@kitcat51 Huh !! I certainly don't see myself as part of the tragedy.

I can go up and down the aisles and imagine the horror of that night

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beckyb1012 — Wed, 23 Feb 2022 18:51:53 GMT

I suppose it depends on what you have already witnessed. Back in 2005 I watched from my 10th floor office window the shooting outside the courthouse doors. An ex-husband shot and killed his ex-wife, wounded his oldest son with a bullet, shot and killed an innocent bystander and wounded one of the courthouse deputies. It was like watching a movie. It was just minutes prior to their court hearing about his non payment of child support for the youngest son. The father escaped in his truck but police barricaded him on the road and he jumped from his truck firing his weapon. He was then killed by the officers. He planned this thing out even down to the bullet proof vest he was wearing.

That little boy in school had to learn both parents dead and his big brother shot over a child support payment.

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RainyDayGal — Wed, 23 Feb 2022 18:51:16 GMT

I would have no problem shopping there. It happened so long ago I wouldn't even think about it.

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kitcat51 — Wed, 23 Feb 2022 18:52:10 GMT

@CrazyKittyLvr2 wrote:
@kitcat51 Huh !! I certainly don't see myself as part of the tragedy.

I can go up and down the aisles and imagine the horror of that night

I stated I, that means ME not you. I've been involved in heart breaking tragedy & it's extremely difficult to move on but there's no choice. My post was only meant to be helpful & that's why I included...If you want advice.

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Love my grandkids — Wed, 23 Feb 2022 18:56:10 GMT

@CrazyKittyLvr2 I can understand it bothering you 8 months after but now it's been almost 5 years. I would give it another try, but that's me and no it wouldn't keep me out of the store.

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songbird — Wed, 23 Feb 2022 18:56:39 GMT

We have a Weis near me, but I no longer shop in supermakets. I just do Instacart. Weiss doesn't do instacart, you need Shipt in order to shop there. There is a Giant too, and they are amost a clone of Weiss. What they have, Giants has. That's where I do some food shopping through instacart.

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manny2 — Wed, 23 Feb 2022 18:58:06 GMT

You are having symptoms of post-traumatic stress. You do not have to be witness of the event . Just watching it over and over on TV can be stressful, or if it's something that happened in your local area.

It is a common reaction to a traumatic event. If it's causing you any other disruptions in your life you might want to consider therapy to help ease the trauma. If not and you don't mind traveling to shop elsewhere you found a solution.

Be kind to yourself it's OK. Hopefully talking about it here will help you.

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shoptilyadropagain — Wed, 23 Feb 2022 19:02:47 GMT

It wouldn't bother me to go in the store!

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songbird — Wed, 23 Feb 2022 19:03:42 GMT

The only experience I had was applying at a company. It made paint. When I entered the building, I had to be buzzed in a total of 3 times. The security was unbelievable. I never did get the job, but I talked to my husband about it. He told me about 3 years earlier, a fired employee of the paint company shot and killed 4 people before turning the gun on himself. That was so strange. Then I understood the security. But it I had knewn ahead of time that is was the same company, I don't think I would have applied

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CrazyKittyLvr2 — Wed, 23 Feb 2022 19:12:35 GMT

@manny2 No, I don't have PTSD. A family of 3 I knew was murdered many years ago less than 2 miles from where I am sitting now. I drive by there weekly and don't think about it.

A man who worked at a store in my small town killed his 8 yr.old DD and then himself. I drive by where he worked and his home, not a thought.

When I visit my BIL in the house where I grew up I'm good even though, my one grandfather, both parents and my sister died

in that house.

I assume it is the idea of being trapped in store with no way out.